Umxholo
Kukho isiqwenga seengcebiso esasidla ngokunikwa abantu abasandul 'ukutshata: Ngexesha lonyaka wakho wokuqala emtshatweni, beka ipeni engqayini ngalo lonke ixesha usabelana ngesondo. Kwiminyaka elandelayo, thatha ipeni YOKUPHUMLA embizeni ngalo lonke ixesha usabelana ngesondo. Awusoze ukhuphe ingqayi.
Lowo ngumbono odakisayo ngesondo esitshatileyo, akunjalo?
Kodwa amahla ndinyuka yinxalenye yobomi, kwaye ubomi bakho ngokwesondo abukho ngaphandle. Uninzi lwezibini kumanqanaba okuqala olwalamano lwabo bafumanisa ukuba abakwazi ukugcina izandla zabo omnye komnye. Kwaye uninzi lwabantu abatshatileyo kubudlelwane bexesha elide baxela ukuba banesini esincinci njengoko iminyaka ihamba. Logama nje omabini amaqabane elungile ngenqanaba kunye nomgangatho wesini abanaso, ayisiyongxaki leyo. Kodwa xa rhoqo (okanye ukusilela) kokwenza uthando kusiba yingxaki, kubalulekile ukuba ujonge izizathu. Ungayilungisa njani le meko?
Ezinye zezizathu eziqhelekileyo zesini esincinci emtshatweni:
Ukuba ngumzali
Masicace kwinto enye: ukuba nabantwana kulungile. Izibini ezininzi azinakho ukuthelekelela ubomi ngaphandle kwazo. Kodwa ngesiqhelo, xa abantwana bakho bekunye nawe, ingqalelo yakho ikubo. Amandla afunekayo ukuthambekela kubantwana bakho abangela ukuba abazali abadiniweyo babone ibhedi yabo ingeyiyo indawo yokuncanca nokunxibelelana kwakhona, kodwa indawo apho banokuvala khona amehlo abo baphinde bahlaziye iibhetri zabo ngaphandle kokunxibelelana nomnye umntu, enkulu okanye encinci.
Zama oku: Thatha uncedo koomakhulu nootatomkhulu kunye nabagcini babantwana. Ezi "ngelosi" zinika isibini into ebaluleke kakhulu: ngokuhlwa amaxesha ngamaxesha ukuba babelane ngesondo ngaphandle kokukhathazeka malunga nokuphazanyiswa. Ukongeza ekuziseni iqela lokuxhasa ootatomkhulu kunye nabagcini babantwana, kutheni ungasebenzisi ixesha lokuba abantwana balele kwaye balele ukudibana endaweni yokubamba imisebenzi yasekhaya okanye ukuphola phambi kukamabonwakude? Unokudinwa, kodwa ukuhlala kufutshane omnye nomnye kunokwanela ukufumana into encinci ekhokelela kwiseshoni efuneka kakhulu kulonwabo lwabantu abadala phakathi kwamashiti. Ukuba kuya kufuneka ucwangcise oku, kwenze. Khetha ubusuku obunye apho ushiya khona kude kwitafile yekofu kwaye uye kwigumbi lokulala, utshixe umnyango emva kwakho.
Rhoqo
Kwiintsuku zokuqala zobudlelwane bakho, yonke into yayintsha kunye nenoveli. Amabali omyeni wakho ayenomdla kwaye iziqhulo zakhe zihlekisa. Uthando lwakho lwalumalunga nokufumanisa imimandla emitsha yolonwabo. Ngoku izinto zahlukile. Uyazana ngokwaneleyo ukugqiba izivakalisi zomnye nomnye. Ukwenza uthando kuye kwehla. Ungaqikelela intshukumo yakhe elandelayo. Akusekho mimandla eya kufunyanwa. Uziva ukhululekile kunye, ngokuqinisekileyo. Kodwa ndikruqukile kwigumbi lokulala.
Zama oku: Guqula izinto kancinci. Hambisa isondo ngaphandle kwegumbi lokulala. Njani ngeseshoni esofeni, kwishawari, kwitafile yasekhitshini? Okanye, uhlahlo-lwabiwo mali lukuvumela, ngeempelaveki kwindawo entle yokuphola apho unokufumana khona umyalezo wezibini kwaye uzigqibe kwibhedi engaqhelekanga? Ngenisa ezinye iithoyi zesini kwaye uzame ngazo.
Ukwaluphala
Ukuguga akunakuphepheka kwaye oko kunokuthetha ukunciphisa i-libido njengoko sikhula. Oku kunesiseko se-biochemical kwaye asilotyala lobudlelwane. Amayeza amaninzi, kubandakanya iipilisi zoxinzelelo lwegazi, i-anti-depressants, kunye nonyango lwentliziyo, zinokwenza i-orgasm ingenzeki. I-post-menopausal yehla kwabasetyhini kwi-estrogen kuthetha ukuba ukulala ngesondo kunokuba buhlungu xa uzama ngaphandle kokuthambisa okungafunekiyo. Amadoda amadala aya kuba nemicimbi ye-erectile kwaye kungafuneka axhomekeke kwipilisi efana neViagra ukuze abelane ngesondo ngempumelelo.
Zama oku: Kukho uninzi lwezixhobo zesondo eziye zasindisa ubomi babantu abaninzi abakwishumi elivisayo. Nxibelelana nengcali yezonyango ukuze ubone ukuba loluphi uncedo lwamayeza olunokuba lulungele nina nobabini.
Ingqumbo engachazwanga
Ukuba umtshato wakho uphantsi kwemiceli mngeni kwaye unenzondo engalungiselwanga, oku kunokuba nefuthe elibi kubomi bakho ngokwesondo. Kunzima ukuziva unothando kwaye usondele kumntu owakhele kuye, ingqumbo engachazwanga.
Zama okuUkuba unengxaki ekunxibelelaneni ngentlonipho omnye nomnye, okanye unemiba ofumanisa ukuba awukwazi ukwabelana neqabane lakho, sebenza nomcebisi womtshato. Isibonelelo esinokuba naso kulwalamano lwakho lweemvakalelo kunye nokwabelana ngesondo kunokuba lukhulu kakhulu ukuba ufumana ingcali efanelekileyo yokukunceda ufunde iindlela ezilungileyo zonxibelelwano.
Kuyenzeka ukuba uvuse ubomi besini obuswelekileyo. Thatha inyathelo lokuqala. Thetha neqabane lakho. Babuze ukuba bayijonga njani imeko yezesondo emtshatweni. Yabelana nabo ngeengcinga zakho kwaye uze nesicwangciso sokubuyela emgceni wokubuyisa enye yezona zinto zimnandi kubomi bomtshato.