Oku kulandelayo zizicatshulwa kudliwanondlebe noLee Strauss - umbhali othengisa kakhulu we "Ginger Gold Mysteries" uthotho; Uthotho lwe "Nursery Rhyme Suspense", kunye nomlingiswa oselula wabantu abadala kunye nomlingane wakhe, umbhali-weengoma ongumculi waseCanada, uNorm Strauss ngumculi wekhonsathi / orekhodayo oye wakhenketha kakhulu eCanada, eYurophu nakwiindawo zase-USA, apho baxoxa khona ngobuchule inokuba yinto entle emtshatweni.
Ngaba ufumanisa ukuba unazo naziphi na izinto eziluncedo zobugcisa ngokutshata nenye into yoyilo?
Lee: Ngokuqinisekileyo. Ngenxa yokuba umyeni wam uyile, ndiyazi ukuba uyaluqonda uvuyo kunye nobunzima bokuthatha "iphepha elingenanto" aliguqulele kwinto eyonwabisayo nekhuthazayo. Xa ndithetha into enje, "ukubhala kunzima," uyazi kakuhle ukuba ndithetha ukuthini ngaloo nto. Ungumcebisi wam ngobuchule. Sihlala sicwangcisa iincwadi zam kunye kwaye xa ndibetha umngxunya okanye umngxunya wokuceba, sinokuluhlela kunye ngokuthetha ngalo. Ndiyambandakanya kwiiprojekthi zokubhala, ndimbhalela ukuba abhale iidrafti ezirhabaxa zezithuba zebhlog okanye ezinjalo. Ndinentembelo kuye yokuba angayenza, ngaphezulu kokuba enako kuye ngamanye amaxesha. Uyandinceda nophando, oluncedo olukhulu. Ngombulelo uyayivuyela imbali kwaye uyakonwabela ukuyenza.
Norm: Ewe. Ndicinga ukuba ukuba neqabane elidala uyilo kundinika ukuzithemba ngakumbi xa ndigxotha izimvo omnye komnye nokuba kungamazwi engoma okanye amabali ebali. Ndinoluvo lokuba lo mntu undazi kakuhle une-intuition yobugcisa bam kwinqanaba elithile. Unokunika igalelo eliqinileyo elifihliweyo kulwazi lokuba ndingubani kunye nembali yethu ekwabelwana ngayo. Iikonsathi zam zibandakanya ukubalisa amabali neengoma ezimbalwa eziphoselweyo. Zisekwe kumava obomi bam kwaye yindlela endinxibelelana ngayo nabaphulaphuli bam. Ubalisa amabali amade malunga nabalinganiswa abaziintsomi abantu abathandayo nabanxulumene nabo. Yindlela azidibanisa ngayo. Zizindlela ezahlukeneyo kwaye ziyafana ngokwaneleyo ukuba sinokunika igalelo elifanelekileyo kunye nokukhuthazana.
Ngaba likho ixesha apho bekukho ukungqubana kweengqondo eziyilayo ekhayeni lakho? Ukuba kunjalo, kwenzeka ntoni?
Lee: Andinakutsho ukuba le ibiyingxaki. Andingombhali wengoma, nditsho nembongi, ke, nangona uNorm ezakundibuza uluvo lwam ngengoma entsha, ndityeshela isigqibo sakhe sokugqibela. Ungumnini wobugcisa bakhe. Wenza okufanayo nakum.
NgokuqhelekileyoKuba siziindidi ngeendidi, oko akwenzeki rhoqo. Kukho ukuhloniphana nokuhloniphana kubungcali bomnye nomnye nangona ngokuqinisekileyo kukho indawo yezimvo. Umzekelo, uhlala engowokuqala ukuva ingoma entsha. Ndithatha umbono wakhe ngokungathí sina nangona kukho indawo yokuba ndingavumi, endiyenzileyo ngamanye amaxesha. Ndivakalelwa kukuba naye uyawuhlonipha umbono wam ngomsebenzi wakhe. Ndicinga ukuba iphilile. Kuhle kum ukuba ndiyazi ukuba iphi na imida yam. Ndicinga ukuba 'ndiyinto yokudala', kodwa andiyiyo imo. Ndikwayimfama ngombala kwaye ndikruqukile kukubukela iskating skating okanye ballet. Ndihlala malunga nemizuzu elishumi ndihamba kwigalari yezobugcisa, ke andiyiyo into elungileyo yoyilo ngaloo ndlela. Ndibeke umda kwizimvo zam zokuyila kwinto endicinga ukuba ndilungile kuyo. Ndifunde kakhulu ukuze ndizive ngathi ndingaya khona. U-Lee unokukhetha imibala yomsebenzi omtsha wepeyinti kwigumbi lokuhlala 🙂
Kungaziphi iindlela othi ukutshata nomnye umntu oyilayo kunike inkxaso kunye nokuqonda kubudlelwane bakho?
Lee: Ndiyayithanda into yokuba umyeni wam onwabele ibali. Xa sibukele imovie okanye uthotho lweTV sikunye sihlala sithetha ngokubhalwa kweskripthi. Bobabini singabafundi abanomdla kwaye siyababulela ababhali abalungileyo. Ndiyazi xa ndizisa uNorm kwingxoxo yebali-ibali uya kunika igalelo elinomdla. Ukwazi ukuba unomdla onyanisekileyo kwaye utyale imali kwinto endiyenzayo kukunyusa amandla am ukuze ndihlale ndikhuthazekile kwaye ndizibophelele kumaxesha am ngamaxesha okubhala.
Norm: Xa uneqabane eline-intuition yendlela esebenza ngayo inkqubo yokuyila kwaye ixhasa le nkqubo, ngokuqinisekileyo iya kude. Iinzame zam njengemvumi / umbhali wengoma zaqala kudala ngaphambi kokuba sitshate. Wayeqonda ukuba kunjalo. Emva kokuba sitshatile, iminyaka emininzi, ndandibhala iingoma, ndicwangcisa iikhonsathi, kwaye ndirekhoda ii-albhamu ngelixa uLee wayengumenzi wasekhaya kunye nabantwana abane. Wayehlala enomdla azi ukuba ubugcisa bam bufuna ixesha kunye nendawo kwaye kubalulekile. Uyenzele indawo ngaphandle kwakhwele okanye ubukrakra ngaphandle kwento yokuba enobuchule. Abanye abaninzi mhlawumbi ngekhe bayenze loo nto. Emva kwexesha, xa wayeqala ukubhala ngokungathandabuzekiyo, ndandisazi ukuba le yinxalenye ebalulekileyo yakhe kwaye ufuna ixesha kunye nendawo yokuphuhlisa.
Ngaba ubuchule buchaphazela iinkalo ezithile zokuba ngumzali?
Lee: Sisoloko sibenzela indawo abantwana bethu ukuba baziveze ngokwabo ngobuchule. Umzekelo, ndiyeke intombi yam ukuba inxibe isencinci kwaye yayinobugcisa "kwezobugcisa" kukhetho lwayo. Ngoku, nanjengomntu mdala, intombi yam ijonga imifanekiso yakudala yakhe kwaye ibuza (ngelixa ihleka), "Kutheni uye wandivumela ukuba ndinxibe lonto?" Impendulo kukuba bendifuna ukuba akhululeke ukuze azivakalise ngendlela enobuchule.
Norm: Xa abantwana bethu babancinci ndandingena emagumbini abo ngexesha lokulala kwaye ndenze ibali lendawo ebubudenge ngelixa behleli begigitheka. Babesazi ukuba ibali lilungiselelwe bona kwaye lahlukile ubusuku bonke. Uyilo kunye nentlonipho yobugcisa zidluliselwa ebantwaneni bakho. Bobane abantwana bethu banesakhono sokuyila esomeleleyo, ngakumbi kumculo nasekubhaleni, nangona abanye bekhethe ukulandela ngakumbi kunabanye. Bonke bayakhuthazwa ngamandla ukuba balandele amacala abo obugcisa.
Ndisoloko ndizibuza ukuba baphendula njani xa bebuzwa ukuba: “Benza ntoni abazali bakho.” Imvumi kunye nombhali? Mhlawumbi abahlobo babo basifanisa neehippie ezinxibe iihempe zedayi xa zitshaya imbiza kwaye zimamele umculo omninzi wesintu. Inyani yile yokuba sibukele iNetflix kwaye sisela iwayini ebomvu.
Ugcina njani ulwalamano lwakho luhlaziyekile kwaye luyonwabisa?
Lee: Sisoloko sibeka amava ngaphambi "kwezinto." Singathanda yenza into kune unayo into ethile. Yile ngqokelela inkulu yamava ekwabelwana ngawo asibophayo kunye ngoku. Sivame ukuthi siziva ngathi siphila ubomi obuliwaka. Kwaye asigqibanga. Abantwana bethu bakhulile ngoku kwaye bahamba, kwaye oko kusinika inkululeko engakumbi yokwenza izinto. Kutshanje siye sabangabahlali beekhephu, eli ligama laseCanada kubantu abaya kwiindawo ezinelanga, ezintle nezingaqhelekanga ebusika.
Norm: Sabelana ngothando lokuhamba kwaye bobabini banomdla kwaye banomdla ngendalo. Sisoloko sibeka i-adventure kwindlela ehamba ngokukhuselekileyo. Oku kukhokelele kwiminyaka engama-31 ezaliswe ngamava. Sisenza amaphupha amaninzi ekwabelwana ngawo malunga nekamva kwaye sihlala sithatha inxaxheba kubomi babantwana bethu. Oku kunceda kakhulu. Sikwathatha umdla omkhulu kwimisebenzi yomnye nomnye nakwinxalenye yenkqubo yoyilo.
Zeziphi iindlela ekukhuthaza ngalo iqabane lakho?
Lee: UNorm Strauss ngumntu omangalisayo. Ungutata olungileyo, umhlobo kwabaninzi (okuninzi kunontlalontle kunam), imvumi enetalente kunye nomdlali weqonga, umyeni oxhasayo kunye nendoda eqinisekileyo. Ndiyathanda ukuba sabelana ngokholo kwaye singathetha ngoThixo ngokulula njengoko sithetha ngemozulu. Uyiankile kum xa ndidandathekile okanye ndingaqinisekanga. Kwaye uyandihlekisa. Ndiyayithanda ingqiqo yakhe. Alukho usuku oludlulayo angathethi nto ngobuqili endenza ndincume okanye ndihleke ngokuvakalayo.
NgokuqhelekileyoNdiyaphefumlelwa kuqala luthando lwakhe olunobuzaza nokuzinikela kwakhe kusapho lwethu. Nokuba ubugcisa bakhe abukho malunga naye kuphela okanye isidingo sakhe sokuzibonakalisa. Leyo yinxalenye encinci yayo. Yindlela ebaluleke ngakumbi kunaleyo; Kucingelwa ngakumbi njengendlela yokubonelela ngezixhobo ukuze sincede abantwana bethu kwikamva labo nakuthi xa sithatha umhlalaphantsi. Ndiyindlela efanayo nomculo wam.
Okwesibini, ndiphefumlelwe yindlela acinga ngayo; Ubonakala ngathi uyakwazi ukubona ngakumbi kwikamva kunam, ucinga ukuba mkhulu kunam kwaye ucwangcise ngobuchule. Kufana nokuba unokucinga kathathu kwaye ndinokulawula ezimbini ezinesiqingatha kuphela Kulungile usuku. Mhlawumbi yiyo loo nto ndibhala iingoma ezimfutshane kwaye ubhala uthotho lweencwadi. Xa abantu bebuza iinkcukacha zakhe malunga nezinto azenzayo nokuba ucinga ntoni ngekamva ndihlala ndimangalisiwe yindlela anolwazi ngayo kunye nombono wakhe. Ngokukodwa xa ucinga ukuba ufundiswe buqu ngokupheleleyo kwaye uqhuba kakuhle kakhulu kukhuphiswano lomsebenzi.
Ukuthatha okokugqibela
Xa uneqabane lokuyila emtshatweni, wakha intsebenziswano esempilweni yamaphupha ekwabelwana ngawo kunye neenkanuko. Udibanisa ngcono, uqala ukwakha into kunye kunye nokuhamba kunye ngesandla ngesandla ngamaxesha anzima. Kukho imo yokuthomalalisa ukuqhelana kunye nolwimi oluqhelekileyo olwenza ukuba ibhondi yakho ibentle.