Umxholo
- Ungaxela njani ukuba umyeni wakho uyakopa?
- Ngaba utshatile kumyeni okopelayo?
- Izizathu zokuba abasetyhini babambelele
- 1. Basathandana
- 2. Bazizidenge
- 3. Ngenxa yabantwana
- 4. Kuba ngekhe uphile wedwa
- 5. Abafuni ukuba nosapho oluqhekekileyo
- Ngaba uya kumxolela umyeni okopelayo?
Yityala yakho yonke! ” -Amazwi abuhlungu avela kumyeni okopelayo ukuya kumfazi wakhe okhalayo kunye nomsindo!
Yonke yayiyimpazamo kuye ngokungamniki "iimfuno" zakhe njengendoda kwaye ngokuba uyadika. Yayiyimpazamo yakhe ukuba wahendelwa ekubeni akopishe.
Oku kuyinyani kwamanye amabhinqa, into ebuhlungu kukuba nokuba amadoda abo akhohlisile, banokufumana isohlwayo. Emva kwayo yonke loo nto, bangamadoda kwaye bakha bahendwa, abanye babo ngekhe bakwazi nokuzilawula nokuqikelela ukuba yintoni? Nje ukuba babanjwe, badlala umdlalo ogxekayo.
Ngaba ukhe wazibuza ukuba uyafuna ukubambelela kuthando onalo kumyeni wakho okopayo okanye hayi, kwaye ixesha elingakanani?
Ungaxela njani ukuba umyeni wakho uyakopa?
"Thembela kwisibindi sakho", ulungile?
Ligama eligqibeleleyo elisebenzayo ukuba ufuna ukwazi indlela yokuxelela ukuba umyeni wakho uyakopa. Awunakrokrela ngaphandle kobungqina, akunjalo? Ukuba uziva ukuba kukho into engalunganga, kusenokwenzeka ukuba ikhona.
Rhoqo amaxesha, iimpawu zomyeni okopelayo zinokuza neengcebiso ezifihlakeleyo. Kufuneka uqaphele kwaye uxhomekeke kwisisu sakho. Ngaphezu kwako konke, yazi imiqondiso-
- Uyeka ukunxiba iringi yakhe yomtshato ngequbuliso.
- Uhlala exakekile kude kube ngentseni, nokuba sele engaphakathi endlwini.
- Izenzo aziphumli, zinomsindo, okanye ziyazikhusela xa ubuza malunga neshedyuli yakhe, umnxeba kunye nelaptop yakhe.
- Wazi njani ukuba umyeni wakho uyakopa? Uya kuqaphela ukuba ngequbuliso ufuna ukuba yedwa.
- Ubonakala enomdla kakhulu kwishedyuli yakho njengokuthi ungagoduka nini okanye ukuba uya kudinga ukwenza ixesha elingaphezulu.
- Uqala ukucaphuka nawe kunye nayo yonke into oyenzayo. Uya kubonakala engenamdla kuwo nawuphi na umzuzu wesini okanye obusondeleyo owabelana ngawo ngaphambili.
- Uya ekhaya emva kwexesha eneentlobo ezahlukeneyo zezizathu ezinjengexesha elongezelelekileyo kunye neentlanganiso.
- Uqala ngesiquphe ukuba azi malunga nokubonakala kwakhe kwaye aqale ukunxiba izithambiso zexabiso kunye nokuthambisa.
- Olunye lweyona miqondiso ibalulekileyo ngumyeni wakho kukukopa kuxa engaphindi abeke mzamo kumtshato wakho nakubantwana bakho.
Ngaba utshatile kumyeni okopelayo?
Ngaba uwubonile omnye umyalezo oyimfihlo okanye uphawu lokumanga kumyeni wakho, kutsha nje?
Ayizondaba zakudala. Usenokuba ukhe wawusingatha lo mbandela ngaphambili kodwa unokukhetha ukunika elinye iqabane lakho elinye ithuba. Ngoku, kwiinyanga okanye kwiminyaka kamva, uzifumana ukwimeko efanayo.
Ufumanisa umyeni wakho ephinda ekopela. Kodwa, ungajongana njani nomyeni okopayo osamthandayo? Ngaba kulungile ukumnika elinye ithuba lokukuphatha kakubi kwakhona?
Kuya kufuneka sikhumbule ukuba umyeni okopelayo uya kuhlala elingeka ukuba aphindaphinde isenzo esifanayo ngakumbi xa sele ebona ukuba uza kuhlala ulapho kuye nokuba kunjani.
Nangona kunjalo, kufuneka uzibuze, kuya kufuneka ubambe ixesha elingakanani kubudlelwane bobuxoki nokungathembeki?
Izizathu zokuba abasetyhini babambelele
Zininzi iimeko apho abafazi bendoda ekopelayo basaya kubanika ithuba elinye-elinye nelinye.
Ewe, oku kuyinyani kwaye uninzi lwabasetyhini luyayenza le nto, nokuba ibuhlungu, nokuba iintliziyo zabo kunye nekratshi ziye zadelwa amaxesha amaninzi. Singazibuza, ingaba umfazi kufuneka amxolele kangaphi umyeni wakhe kwaye kutheni amabhinqa esenza njalo?
Nazi izizathu ezilusizi kodwa eziqhelekileyo zokuba kutheni abanye abantu basetyhini bebambelele-
1. Basathandana
Usenokumnika elinye ithuba kuba useneemvakalelo ngaye. Kwaye, ngenxa yothando, umntu unokuxolela umyeni okopelayo, hayi kube kanye kodwa amaxesha amaninzi ngaphezulu.
Kubo, umtshato wabo kunye nothando lwabo kufanelekile ukuba baphinde bazame.
2. Bazizidenge
Kukho umahluko omkhulu wokuthembela kwiqabane lakho kunokubambeka kwizizathu zakhe. Ngokwenyani unokukholelwa kwizizathu eziqhwalelayo anokuzisebenzisa ukuphinda umthembe kwakhona.
3. Ngenxa yabantwana
Kukho abafazi abasaya kuyamkela indoda yabo yokuqhatha, nokuba abasabathembi kwaye oku kungenxa yabantwana.
Umama, ngapha koko, uya kubenzela yonke into abantwana bakhe nokuba oko kuthetha ukuba kufuneka ancame ikratshi nokuzithemba kwakhe.
4. Kuba ngekhe uphile wedwa
Ungumkhohlisi kodwa ngutata olungileyo kunye nomboneleli. Esi sesinye sezizathu zokuba uninzi lwabasetyhini lusabambelele kubayeni babo bokukopela.
Bayazi ukuba ukuba ngumzali omnye kuya kuba nzima kubo nakubantwana babo. Kukwakho iimeko apho umfazi axhomekeke endodeni yakhe.
5. Abafuni ukuba nosapho oluqhekekileyo
Ukuhlala emtshatweni nokuba umyeni wakho ukukhohlisile amaxesha amaninzi kuyinto eqhelekileyo kwabo bangafuniyo ukuba nosapho oluqhekekileyo. Ngoku, ukubambelela kunye nokunika amathuba kuphela kwendlela anokuthi abonakalise ngayo kumyeni wakhe ukuba usapho lwabo kufanelekile ukuba lugcinwe.
Inyaniso ebuhlungu kubafazi abaninzi.
Ngaba uya kumxolela umyeni okopelayo?
Ngoku, uza kuthini xa uzifumanisa sele usecicini lokwenza isigqibo, ukuyeka okanye ukunika iqabane lakho eliqhathayo elinye ithuba. Ungathatha eyiphi? Phambi kokwenza isigqibo, zibuze ukuba uyakwazi na ukuxolela umyeni okopelayo kwaye ukuba ukulungele oko, ke unike ilizwi lakho lokuba uya kumnika elinye ithuba.
Into ephambili apha kukuba ube nexesha elifunekayo lokucinga.
Sukungxama ekuthatheni isigqibo kwaye uninzi lwazo zonke, musa ukusekela isigqibo sakho kwizimvo zabanye abantu.
Zazi wena kunye nokuzixabisa kwakho. Qonda ukuba le isenokungabi lixesha lokugqibela anokuyenza.
Ngaba ukulungele ukuthatha umngcipheko? Khumbula, isigqibo sakho asizukuchaphazela wena okanye iqabane lakho, siya kuchaphazela usapho lwakho, abantwana bakho kunye nezifungo zakho.
Umyeni okopelayo unokulufumana uxolelo lwakho kodwa ayingabo bonke abantu abakhohlisayo abaya kulifumana ithuba lesibini kuthando nakusapho.
Yonke into esiyenzayo ineziphumo kwaye kufanelekile ukuba sijongane nayo ukuba sikhaliphile ngokwaneleyo ukuba sikrexeze.