Umxholo
- Ngaba imilinganiselo yokuziphatha ibalulekile?
- Amanye amaxabiso ekugxilwe kuwo abandakanya:
- Iguqulela njani le nto emtshatweni wethu?
- Kutheni imilinganiselo ishiywa ngaphandle kwemitshato emininzi?
Ngaphandle kwalo naluphi na uhlobo lokuziqhelanisa namaxabiso, banokukhawuleza bangalingani okanye bangakhathalelwa kukhokelela kunxibelelwano olubuhlungu kunye namaqabane ethu. Ngaphambi kokuba ucinge ukuba kufuneka ubaleke kwaye ujoyine umbutho wakho wezenkolo, yazi ukuba imeko yokomoya kunye nokunxibelelana kwixabiso kunokufumaneka kwiindawo ezininzi ezivela kwiqela lokucamngca, ukuya kwiklasi yeyoga ukuya kwiqela lokomoya le meetup.com. Ixabiso linokufundwa ngokuya kwintetho kwincwadi yokuzinceda okanye kwincwadi yenkolo ukuya kwincwadi yamabali. Zininzi iintlobo zamaqela wokomoya kwindawo ohlala kuyo anokufunwa ukunceda ukukunika ukugxila kwiinqobo ezisemgangathweni.
Uninzi lwethu luxhomekeke kwindlela yokomoya okanye yenkolo esayifundiswayo kwaye ukuba ayisebenzi, besingakhethanga nto, sishiya ngaphandle kwayo nayiphi na indlela yokusebenza.
Ngaba imilinganiselo yokuziphatha ibalulekile?
Kolu lonyulo lwezopolitiko luka-2016, enye iRhuluneli yathi "amaxabiso awabalulekanga. Uye wathi, "Yintoni ebalulekileyo yile micimbi." Ngamanye amazwi wabelana ngayo kwakungabalulekanga ukuba sithetha njani omnye nomnye, yayingabalulekanga indlela esibaphatha ngayo abantu, kwaye ayibalulekanga ukuba sinyanisekile. Uye wacaphula "okubalulekileyo kukuba irhafu edolophini yam yehliswe kwaye ngumba lowo". Makhe sicinge ngaloo nto. Ukuba umgqatswa ukuxelela ukuba uya kuyithoba irhafu, ungacinga ukuba umba wakho usonjululwe, kodwa ukuba akanazo izinto ezixabisekileyo, usenokuba ufumana amagama obuxoki, enziwe kwaye athethwe kuphela ukuze uvote . Kwithiyori, akunakwenzeka ukuba wenze ishishini nomntu onexabiso elilahlekileyo kuba akukho siqinisekiso sokuba uyakunyaniseka, azikhathalele iimfuno zakho, okanye akuphathe kakuhle.
Kubalulekile ukwakha isiseko sexabiso kwindawo ethile ebomini bakho. Ukuba sonke besiziphatha ngemilinganiselo esempilweni, ungquzulwano lwethu lunokulinganiselwa. Ndiyazi ukuba ezinye iinkcubeko ziyijonga intiyo njengexabiso, kodwa uninzi lwethu luyavuma ukuba amaxabiso esi sithetha ngawo aquka amaxabiso asisondeza kunye, hayi ukuba kude.
Amanye amaxabiso ekugxilwe kuwo abandakanya:
- Umyalelo
- Ukuthatha isigqibo
- Ucoceko
- Ukuthobeka
- Ubulungisa
- Umbulelo
- Imfesane
- Imbeko
- Lula
- Isisa
- Ukumodareyitha
- Ububele bothando
- Uxanduva
- Ithemba
- Ukholo
- Ukulingana
- Umonde
- Ubumnandi
- Ukukhuthala
- Cwaka
- Ukuzola
- Inyaniso
- Ukwahlulwa kwenkcubeko kunye nesiqu sakho
Iguqulela njani le nto emtshatweni wethu?
Uluntu olongamileyo lujolise kumandla nodumo kwaye xa silandela oku, oku kuba kukugxila kunye nenjongo. Umbono wamaxabiso uba yindalo yesibini. Xa sitshata, ukuba injongo yeyokuba iqabane ngalinye “lilunge, libe nendlu entle, linxibe ezona mpahla zisexesheni, elona xesha lininzi nomlawuli womdlalo wevidiyo, babe nabantwana abaphumeleleyo, baye kwabona isikolo, okanye sibe kwiibhodi ezininzi zedolophu, emva koko amaxabiso okuziphatha kwethu anokulahleka. Oko akuthethi ukuba naluphi na olu phawu aluchanekanga ngokumodareyitha, kodwa kuya kufuneka sifumane ibhalansi engaphaya kwento enqwenelekayo. Ukuba ulixabisile ixesha losapho, uya kuzibophelela ekuchitheni ixesha nosapho lwakho. Ukuba uyayixabisa indlela oliphatha ngayo iqabane lakho, uya kugxila kulo. Ukuba ukuxabisile ukunyaniseka, uya kuzamkela iimpazamo zakho. Ukuba kwiibhodi zedolophu yinto elungileyo yokuxhasa indawo ohlala kuyo kodwa oku kukwindawo yodumo. Xa ulixabisile udumo lokuba kwiibhodi ezininzi zedolophu, ixesha elichithwe nosapho lwakho lixabiso eliphantsi kwaye oku kubenzakalisa ubudlelwane bakho obusondeleyo.
Xa sixambulisana, ukuba sinako ukunika ingqalelo kwixabiso kunokunceda kwisiphumo. Ukuba asinabubele kwiqabane lethu, bayazithethelela. Ukuba injongo kukuphumelela impikiswano kwaye ungakhathali malunga nendlela esiwaphatha ngayo amaqabane ethu, umdlalo ulahlekile. Ukuba sixoka kumlingane wethu, kufuneka sihambe kunye necala kunye neentloni. Ukuba sifuna ukuba nobudlelwane obuhle bezopolitiko namanye amazwe, kuya kufuneka sibonise ixabiso elithile kwindlela esithetha ngayo nasekubeni ngumchasi othembekileyo. Ukuba sifuna ukuba nobudlelwane obuhle kunye nathi ukuze sonwabe kulusu lwethu, kuya kufuneka sibonise inqanaba lamaxabiso amahle ukuze sizibone sifanelekile. Sonke kufanelekile ngokuphila emhlabeni, kodwa ukuba asisebenzi kwindlela esiziphatha ngayo emhlabeni, kulula ukuba silibale ukuba sixabisekile.
Kutheni imilinganiselo ishiywa ngaphandle kwemitshato emininzi?
Kwiminyaka eyandulela i-2016, intshukumo kude nobumoya kunye nenkolo ibiphezulu kakhulu. Ngaxeshanye, imibutho emininzi ijolise ekwandiseni ubutyebi kunye nodumo lweziko labo, bebeka umdla wakho ngaphezulu kwexabiso. Sibona ukubuyela kuqheliso lwamaxabiso kodwa lo ngumsebenzi oqhubekayo. Iindawo ezininzi zonqulo zifundiswa ngoqheliselo olungenantsingiselo ingako. Ngombulelo, zininzi iinkokheli zokomoya kunye nezenkolo ezimangalisayo kwaye ziya kufana neenqobo zakho ezisemgangathweni, kodwa okokuqala kufuneka uqaphele ukuba zeziphi amaxabiso ezenza ukuba uzive usempilweni kwaye uthathe inyathelo lokuzifumana ezi nkokheli. Ngelixa usenokungafuni ukuba yinxalenye yeqela elilungelelanisiweyo, oku kulungile, jonga ukuba loluphi uhlobo lwezixhobo ezikunceda ugxile kumaxabiso. Musa nje ukubashiya ngaphandle kuba banokulityalwa ngokulula kukhokelela kungxabano kubudlelwane. Ingxaki "ngokwenza into yethu" ihlala iguqulela ekungenzi nto kwaye siphephe ukujonga indlela esiziphatha ngayo. Ihlala ithetha ukuthandaza kwi-G-d okanye kumandla aphezulu xa kukho into engahambanga kakuhle okanye sifuna ukulungiswa ngokukhawuleza. Ewe awufuni uqheliselo lokomoya olungenantsingiselo kuwe. Nangona kunjalo, isiseko seenkolo ezininzi eziphambili, kunye nesiseko seendlela ezininzi zokomoya yindlela esiziphatha ngayo siphathane ngayo. Ukuba siwushiya lo mba ngaphandle kobomi bethu, sityeshela ukujonga ezethu iimpawu ezenza naluphi na utshintsho kubudlelwane nakwimitshato yethu. Impendulo ayikokuphindaphinda iinkqubo zonqulo ngendlela efanayo nabazali bakho okanye ukugxila kwiindlela ezifanayo zokuziqhelanisa ezingenantsingiselo kuwe. Nangona kunjalo, kubalulekile ukwakha uhlobo oluthile loqhagamshelo OLWENZA UKUQONDA KUWE egxile kwixabiso. Ukuba singafumana indlela yokujonga indlela esiziphethe ngayo ngokubaluleka kwethu, oku kuhlala kungelilo lokuba kutheni sisokola ukwenza ukhetho olungcono. Inokusinceda siqonde ukuba kutheni sinokuba nengxaki yokuzithemba.
Ukuba ixabiso lakho lokufunda yayikukwenza imali eninzi kwaye awenzi mali ininzi, uya kuhlala uziva usilele. Ukuba ufundile ixabiso lokusebenza nzima awuyi kuyeka ukuzikhathalela, uya kusokola. Ukuba ulifundile ixabiso lokuhamba kunye nolona hlobo lulula kunokuba usebenza nzima, kodwa awuzange uphinde ube namava okuphumelela, oku kunokuba lixabiso ofuna ukulihlola. Amaxabiso abekwe ecaleni anokuba yingozi kwaye angabi yimpilo. Ixabiso elilahlekileyo lelo lifundiswa ngabanye oxhonywe kulo, kodwa akusasebenzi kuwe-okanye mhlawumbi khange benze njalo.
Ngamanye amaxesha kufuneka siqwalasele ngakumbi amaxabiso ukuze sithathe isigqibo sokuba sinqwenela ntoni kwaye zizakwenza umahluko kubomi bethu nakubomi obusingqongileyo.
Ngokujonga ngokutsha kwiimpawu zokuziphatha, uya kumangaliswa kukubona utshintsho oluqinisekileyo kubo bonke ubudlelwane bakho nosapho, abahlobo, kunye neqabane lakho kunye nasentliziyweni nasengqondweni. Njengokuziqhelanisa naso nasiphi na isixhobo, uvavanyo, ezemidlalo, umsebenzi, intetho okanye ubudlelwane, kuthatha ukuziqhelanisa okuqhubekayo ukusikhumbuza ukuba siqhubeke nokusebenza kwiimpawu zethu. Ukufundwa kweenqobo ezisemgangathweni kunye nokuziqhelanisa namaxabiso asiyikhosi yeeveki enye; kukugxila okuqhubekayo okusigcina sisisiseko sokwenza ukhetho olulungileyo nolusempilweni.
Ungalufumana phi ugqaliselo okanye isifundo kumaxabiso ekhayeni lakho okanye ekuhlaleni?