Umxholo
- 1. Irhamncwa elinamehlo aluhlaza
- 2. "Andazi ukuba siphi"
- 3. Udonga lwezitena lweemvakalelo
- 4. Umntu “ongakulungelanga ukuba mdala”
- 5. "Ndibonise ukuba ufuna umdlalo wam"
- 6. Ngaba "bangaphakathi kum okanye akunjalo?" umdaniso
- 7. I- “Drama Llama”
Nokuba olona lwalamano luvuthiweyo, olusempilweni lunedrama encinci amaxesha ngamaxesha. Iintsingiselo ziyaphoswa, ubushushu buvutha kwaye iingxoxo zijika zibe ziimpikiswano. Ubudlelwane obusempilweni bobunye apho iidrama zikhawuleza zilungelelaniswe, kwaye omabini amaqela azimisele ukubeka imigudu ekuhleleni izinto.
Ingxabano encinci apha naphaya ayinakuphepheka, kodwa ukuba ufuna ubudlelwane bakho bukhule buqole. Kukho iindidi ezithile zomdlalo weqonga omdala kakhulu ukuba ungajongana nawo.
Jonga ezona zi-7 zingezantsi:
1. Irhamncwa elinamehlo aluhlaza
Abantu bafumana ukungazithembi kancinci ngamanye amaxesha. Iyenzeka. Kodwa indlela abayiphatha ngayo ithetha lukhulu malunga nokuba ubudlelwane bakho busempilweni kangakanani.
Ukuba iqabane lakho likutyhola ngokulala, okanye uzama ukukuyekisa ukubona abahlobo abathile, ubudlelwane bakho bunokungena engxakini kungekudala.
Ukuhamba ngefowuni yakho, ukujonga izicatshulwa zakho, ukuzama ukufunda i-imeyile yakho okanye ulindele ukuba uphendule kubo ngalo lonke ixesha yonke imiqondiso yokuphuma kwimiba yolawulo. Awunakuba nolwalamano olusempilweni ngaphandle kokuthenjwa- kwaye akukho mntu kufuneka azive enyanzelekile ukuba angene ngalo lonke ixesha. Awudingi olu hlobo lomdlalo ebomini bakho.
2. "Andazi ukuba siphi"
Ukuba ukwinqanaba lokuqala lolwalamano, kulungile ukuba ungazi ukuba luyintoni ulwalamano lwakho okanye luyaphi. Kodwa ukuba udlulile kwinqanaba lokuqala lokuthandana, awudingi ukushiywa ujinga ungazi ukuba yintoni elandelayo.
Ukwala ukuchaza ubudlelwane bakho okanye ukungafuni ukuya ngokukodwa okanye ukuthetha ngekamva konke kubonisa ukungabikho kokuzibophelela. Njengokuba ubudlelwane bakho bukhula, ufuna ukwazi ukuba iqabane lakho lityalwe kulo njengoko unjalo.
Ukuba abakwazi ukuzibophelela kuthutho olude, lixesha lokuba uqhubeke.
3. Udonga lwezitena lweemvakalelo
Ulwalamano oluhle lwakhiwe ngokuthembana kunye nokuvuleleka. Umlingane wakho ngumntu omele uzive ukhuselekile ukuba angakhuseleki- kwaye kuya kufuneka ubenjalo nakubo.
Ukungafumaneki ngokweemvakalelo kwenza ukuba usondele ngokwenyani uhle kakhulu. Ufanele ukuba kunye nomntu oziva uthembekile kwaye unxibelelana naye. Ukuba iqabane lakho linyanzelisa ukugcina udonga lweemvakalelo phezulu-nokuba zithini izizathu abazinikayo- ulwalamano lwakho lusenokuba luqhubekile.
4. Umntu “ongakulungelanga ukuba mdala”
Umdala-kwaye ufuna ukuba neqabane lakho naye abe njalo. Iqabane elihlala kwindlu engacocekanga kangako likumboniso womnatha weTV okanye lingenalo nofifi ngendlela yokulawula imali kungekudala liza kukuchitha. Ulwalamano lwakho luya kugugqa phantsi kobunzima bayo yonke loo mbhodamo.
Kuza ixesha ebomini bakho xa ufuna inani elithile locwangco kunye nozinzo. Ukuphila ubomi bokungakhathali kwasendle kuyonwabisa xa usandula kugqiba amashumi amabini eminyaka, kodwa kungekudala inokunxiba. Ufuna iqabane elilungele uzinzo njengoko unjalo.
5. "Ndibonise ukuba ufuna umdlalo wam"
Wonke umntu ufuna isiqinisekiso esincinci amaxesha ngamaxesha, kodwa ukuba iqabane lakho lifuna ukuqinisekiswa rhoqo kuwe, ubudlelwane bakho bunokuba kumhlaba onamatye.
Njengoko ukhula, uyazi ukuba unoxanduva lokuzithemba kwakho kunye neemfuno zeemvakalelo. Ngokwendalo ufuna umlingane ovulekileyo, onothando nothembekileyo kuwe- kodwa uyazi ukuba awudingi kuqinisekiswa ngabo 24/7 ukuze uzive ukhuselekile kwaye wonwabile kubudlelwane bakho.
Ukuba iqabane lakho lihlala likuthumela imiyalezo, likutsalela umnxeba, okanye likubuza ukuba uyafuna ukuba nabo, lixesha lokuba nobabini nithethe ngokunyanisekileyo.
6. Ngaba "bangaphakathi kum okanye akunjalo?" umdaniso
Ekuqaleni kobudlelwane, kunokuba nzima ukuxelela ukuba umntu othile ukuwe nyhani, kwaye kulungile. Nobabini niyazana kwaye nicinga ukuba nilungile. Kodwa emva kwemihla yokuqala embalwa, kuya kufuneka ufumane inkcazo ecacileyo ukuba bakuni okanye hayi.
Ukuba ubudlelwane bakho busekiwe ngaphezulu kweeveki ezimbalwa kwaye awazi ukuba bakuni, lixesha lokuba babe ngaphambili okanye bathumele ngaphandle. Ukudlala nzima ukufumana umdlalo akukho mntu uphumeleleyo.
7. I- “Drama Llama”
Wonke umntu uneentsuku ezimbi. Sonke sinamaxesha apho sifika khona, okanye siziva ngathi sikhaba ifanitshala. Nokuba ukhule kangakanani, abantu baya kuzama ngamanye amaxesha kwaye bakutsalele kwidrama, kwaye kuya kufuneka uzikhuphe.
Kodwa kukho umahluko omkhulu phakathi kosuku oluvalelweyo, kunye nokuba kunye nomntu onobomi obuyidrama rhoqo. Ukuba benza umboniso wokucaphuka ngenxa yezona zinto zincinci okanye bahlala bebambene nento ethile okanye nomntu othile, isenokuba lixesha lokuba umke.
Ufanele ulwalamano oluqolileyo, olusempilweni kunye nedrama encinci. Gcina iliso kwezi mpawu zezilumkiso zomdlalo weqonga kwaye uzibeke kwi-bud ngaphambi kokuba ziphume esandleni.