Umxholo
- Kutheni abantu bephikisana?
- Ngamanye amaxesha ukuphikisana yeyona nto intle onokuyenza
- Qaphela ukuba wonke umntu uyaxabana
- Sukuliphakamisa ilizwi lakho okanye okubi kakhulu, khwaza
- Musa ukuluma isithiyelo
- Ukuphathwa gadalala ngokwasemzimbeni kuthetha ukuphuma nje
- Mamela apha
- Unxibelelwano olufanelekileyo lubalulekile
- Ukuphilisa kubalulekile
Iingxoxo ziyinxalenye yobomi bomntu wonke. Sixabana ngalo lonke ixesha. Ngamanye amaxesha iba yinjongo, ngamanye amaxesha ayenziwa ngenjongo kwaye asinokwazi nokuba sixambulisana. Siphikisana nathi ("Ugh ... kukusa kwangoMvulo ... ingaba ndiyadinga ukuvuka ndiye emsebenzini? Ndingabiza abagulayo ... hayi, kufuneka ndiwugqibe lo msebenzi..kodwa yima .. ingaba siza kuwa esi sakhiwo ukuba andingeni?) kwaye siphikisana nabanye, umntu ophumayo okhangela ixabiso elingalunganga kwingxowa yeeorenji, umthengisi onyanzelisa ukutyhala imveliso asinamdla ekuthengeni.
Abanye abantu bade baphikise bathi cwaka xa bephakamisa inqindi kwabanye abaqhubi abavakalelwa ukuba bayabanqumla okanye ngandlela thile babacaphukisile. Ke, ngelixa ukuphikisana kuyinxalenye yamava oluntu, inokuba yeyona nto yoyikekayo yokunxibelelana esisebenza kuyo sonke.
Zeziphi ezinye iindlela esinokuziphepha ngazo iimpikiswano ezimbi kwaye sikhokelele kubomi obunemveliso obunoxolo? Yintoni esinokuyifunda malunga nokuphikisana ukuze sikwazi ukuyicima ngaphambi kokuba inyukele kwinto enzulu ngakumbi?
Kutheni abantu bephikisana?
Uyinike igama kwaye abantu banakho (kwaye ngamanye amaxesha baya kuthi) baphikisane ngayo. Abanye abantu baphikisana nendalo yabo- kubonakala ngathi bafumana i-"Argue" gene. Uninzi lwabantwana luya kuhamba ixesha lokuphikisana. Buza nawuphi na umzali kwaye baya kukuxelela ngesigaba xa unyana okanye intombi yabo iphendule "hayi" kuyo yonke into. Ngethamsanqa, uninzi lwabantwana luyakhula kweli nqanaba elithile emva kwethutyana. Abantu abadala, nangona kunjalo, bahlala bephikisana ngemali, isini, izigqibo, umsebenzi wasekhaya kunye neenqobo ezisemgangathweni.
Ngamanye amaxesha ukuphikisana yeyona nto intle onokuyenza
Ezinye iimpikiswano akufuneki zithintelwe. Ezinye iimeko zibonelela ngezizathu ezifanelekileyo zokuphikisana, nokuba kungxolayo, kwaye kunjalo. Ewe kunjalo, ukuba ukwimeko eyingozi, impikiswano enkulu iyacaca.
Uninzi lwabantwana bafundiswa ukusebenzisa amazwi abo "angaphakathi", kwaye kunokuba nzima kubantu abadala ukuba baphakamise amazwi abo, emva kwayo yonke loo nto, kodwa kukho iminyhadala eyifunayo. Kucacile, kodwa ukuba usengozini ngokwasemzimbeni, ungaze ucinge ngokusebenzisa ilizwi lakho langaphakathi nokuba nembeko – ngoku lixesha lokuba usebenzise imisipha yakho yezwi!
Qaphela ukuba wonke umntu uyaxabana
Ewe kuyinyani kodwa xa izibini zixabana, iba buhlungu kakhulu. Ukuba uphikisana nabantu ongabaziyo, akukho mntu ubakhathaleleyo (abakhumbuli nokuba kudala). Ukuba uphikisana nabahlobo bakho, uhlala ufikelela ekuqondeni okanye uxolelwano ngokukhawuleza.
Kodwa xa uphikisana nesoka lakho okanye intombi yakho, umyeni okanye umfazi, unokufikelela kukuqonda kwangoko, kodwa ukuba awenzi njalo, kulapho impikiswano kunye noku kulandelayo kubi khona.
Yeyiphi indlela efanelekileyo yokuphepha iimpikiswano ezimbi? Masibone.
Sukuliphakamisa ilizwi lakho okanye okubi kakhulu, khwaza
Ngamanye amaxesha ayisiyiyo le uyithethayo, kodwa yindlela othetha ngayo. Umthamo welizwi lakho ungadibanisa umsindo, nokuba awuphikisani ngabom. Oku kuyinyani kwezinye iinkcubeko. Akukho mntu uthanda ukungxoliswa, kwaye ukukhwaza iqabane kwimpikiswano kufana nokongeza umlilo emlilweni.
Musa nje ukuyenza, kwaye ngayo nayiphi na ithamsanqa, impikiswano yakho iya kukhawuleza inyukele kwingxoxo apho ngethemba lokuba bobabini abantu baya kuyigcina ipholile kwaye nevolumu yehle. UKatie Ziskind, ingcali kwezonyango, unika eli cebiso xa ejongana nemilo ejika ibe yimidlalo ekhalayo, “Ukugcina oku kungenzeki, kunganceda ukuthoba amazwi-kwaye mhlawumbi nokuthetha ngokusebeza. Isenokuvakala ingaqhelekanga, kodwa ukusebeza kunokukulawula. ”
Musa ukuluma isithiyelo
Elinye iqhinga abanye abantu abalisebenzisayo ekuphikisaneni kukuvala ngokupheleleyo kwaye ungaphenduli kwiqabane. Ngamanye amaxesha, oku kungaphelisa ukungaboni ngasonye emva koko. Sukunyanzelwa okanye uqhuzulwe xa uxabana neqabane lakho. Abanye abantu bayakonwabela ukuphikisana.
Sukumnika loo mntu ukwaneliseka kukuba "ndikufumene" ukuba ungene kwiingxoxo.
Ewe kunjalo, ngamanye amaxesha ngokungaphikisani neqabane eliphikisanayo, elo qabane linokuba nomsindo ngakumbi. Kungcono ukushiya iimeko ezinjalo. Nangona kunjalo, kukho uphando oluye lwafumanisa ukuba abantu ababethetha ngeempikiswano babenamathuba aphindwe kalishumi okuba bonwabe kunye nobudlelwane babo.
Ukuphathwa gadalala ngokwasemzimbeni kuthetha ukuphuma nje
Inokuqala ngeglasi ephoswe ngapha kwegumbi okanye ukuqhuba ngokungafanelekanga ngenjongo yokoyikisa wena. Ezi ntlobo zeemeko zinako kwaye ziya kunyuka. Amagama amathathu: phuma nje.
Sukucinga ngokuhlala nomntu okuhlukumeza ngokwasemzimbeni xa uphikisana.
Oku kungaphaya kokubi. Oku kungasongela ubomi. Shiya. Jonga oku ngolwazi oluthe kratya.
Mamela apha
Unxibelelwano olulungileyo yeyona nto iphambili kulo naluphi na ubudlelwane, kwaye nokukwazi ukumamela iqabane lakho kuzo zonke iimeko yinto ebalulekileyo kubudlelwane obuyimpumelelo. Inqaku elinye elibalulekileyo: ukumamela ayikokuva nje. Ukuva yinkqubo ebonakalayo apho amaza esandi angena endlebeni kwaye adluliselwa ngengqondo. Ukumamela kukuqonda nokutolika ezo ngxolo; ukucinga malunga noko bakuthethayo.
Unxibelelwano olufanelekileyo lubalulekile
Cinga ngendlela yakho yokunxibelelana. Ngaba uhlala uthetha ngeqabane lakho xa nixabana? Ngaba uyagxotha? Xa iqabane lakho likhathazekile musa ukuthetha ngalo. Oku akubonisi mbeko kwaye ngokwako kungayinyusa ingxabano. Ngokufanayo, sukubalela. Sukubiza amagama. Ezi ndlela zonxibelelwano aziyi kukhokelela kunxibelelwano oluhle.
Ukuphilisa kubalulekile
Kubalulekile ukuba ukhumbule ukuzikhathalela wena kunye nobudlelwane bakho emva kwengxabano. Ngokubanzi, omabini amaqabane kufuneka acele uxolo.
Xa iimvakalelo zibaleka phezulu, kuya kufuneka uqiniseke ukuba uziphatha kakuhle emva kokuba uthuli luzinzile.
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