Umxholo
- Benza njani ubudlelwane ngaphandle kokuthembela?
- 1. Usoloko ubabuza ubungqina bayo yonke into
- 2. Uqhubeka ujonga imithombo yeendaba zabo zentlalo
- 3. Ufuna iiphasiwedi kwiiakhawunti zabo
- 4. Uziva woyikiswa ngabantu abanomtsalane xa ukunye neqabane lakho
- 5. Ubuza abanye ukuba baqinisekise ukuba uphi umlingane wakho
Wakhe wema wazibuza ukuba 'uyalithemba iqabane lakho?'
Amathuba kukuba ukuba uzibuze loo mbuzo, kusenokubakho ukuqonda okungaphaya kokungathembani kubudlelwane bakho.
Kwaye ukuba kukho nayiphi na into engathandabuzekiyo yokuba ubudlelwane bakho abuqhubeki ngokuthembela kunokuba lixesha lokuba unikele ingqalelo kwingqondo yakho kwaye uqale ukuqonda ukuba kutheni. Ngokukodwa kuba ubudlelwane obungenakuthenjwa abuhambi kakuhle-ukuthembana lilitye lembombo lobudlelwane emva kwayo yonke loo nto.
Benza njani ubudlelwane ngaphandle kokuthembela?
Kukho izizathu ezibini zokuba kutheni ungaqala ukuzibuza ukuba 'uyalithemba iqabane lakho?'
- Kungenxa yokuba kuye kwakho izehlo ezizezona ezinokuthi zikhuthaze ukungabikho kokuthenjwa- njengokungathembeki, ukungabi nantlonelo, ukulala ngokubanzi okanye ukuphinda-phinda ukuphoxa egameni leqabane lakho okanye iqabane lakho.
- Ukuba unamava obudlelwane ngaphandle kokuthembela kwixa elidlulileyo kwaye kunzima ukuthemba umntu.
Kuzo zombini ezi ntlobo zobudlelwane, kuhlala kukho isisombululo, esiqala ngokufunda ngendlela yokuphuhlisa ukuthembana okanye yokufunda ukuthembela kwakhona.
Kuzo zombini ezi meko, ingcebiso iyakukubeka kwindawo elungileyo kwikamva kwaye ikuthintele ekufumaneni ubudlelwane bokungathembani.
Ingxaki nangona kunjalo; akusoloko kulula ukuxelela ukuba uyalithemba iqabane lakho. Ke ukukunceda apha yimizekelo yeendlela esinokuthi siziphathe ngazo xa singathembi iqabane lethu.
1. Usoloko ubabuza ubungqina bayo yonke into
Ukusebenzisa ukuqonda ngumkhwa osempilweni ngokuqinisekileyo, kwaye kunokubakho amaxesha apho ubuza khona ubungqina bento ethile iqabane lakho elixoxa nawe. Umahluko kukuba ubungqina obufunekayo abuyi kuba bubungqina bokuba babenyanisekile nangona kunjalo, kodwa ngakumbi ukuze bavavanywe iinyani zabo- ukhona umahluko.
Ke ukuba ufumanisa ukuba ufuna ubungqina bokungqina kuwe ukuba le nto ithethwa liqabane lakho okanye iqabane lakho, ukwenza okanye ukucinga yinyani leyo ngumzekelo oqinisekileyo womtshato wobudlelwane ngaphandle kokuthembana.
2. Uqhubeka ujonga imithombo yeendaba zabo zentlalo
Kwakhona impendulo yoku ixhomekeke kumxholo. Ukuba wena neqabane lakho nabelana ngokuzenzekelayo ngamajelo eendaba ezentlalo, umnxeba, kunye nokufikelela kwi-imeyile ukuze kube lula kwaye kuyinto efanayo - hayi ibango, amathuba okuba sisigqibo esifanelekileyo.
Kodwa ukuba unokufikelela kuba uyifunile (ukuze ukwazi ukujonga unxibelelwano lwabo) okanye ukuba uzibona ujonge unxibelelwano lwabo ngokukrokra phantsi kwazo naziphi na iimeko, amathuba okuba uhlala kubudlelwane ngaphandle kokuthembana.
3. Ufuna iiphasiwedi kwiiakhawunti zabo
Ngaphandle kokuba kukho isizathu esithile sokufikelela kwiakhawunti yeqabane lakho okanye lomlingane wakho (umzekelo, izizathu zeshishini okanye ezempilo) ke ukufuna ukufikelela kwiiakhawunti zabo yinto ekrokrisayo eqhutywa. Ingakumbi ukuba ufuna ukufikelela kwiinjongo zokubeka esweni.
Ukuziphatha okulawulayo yindawo emtyibilizi eya kubudlelwane ngaphandle kokuthembela ekuya kufuneka ukuba ukhawuleze ukukhusela ukutshabalalisa into enokubakho.
4. Uziva woyikiswa ngabantu abanomtsalane xa ukunye neqabane lakho
Ukuziva woyikiswa ngabantu abanomtsalane ukuba phakathi kweqabane lakho ayithethi ukuba luphawu lobudlelwane ngaphandle kokuthembana. Unokuba nexabiso eliphantsi okanye ukungazithembi.
Kodwa ukuba akunjalo, awuthembi iqabane lakho ngokwaneleyo ukuba uhlale uzinikele kuwe.
5. Ubuza abanye ukuba baqinisekise ukuba uphi umlingane wakho
Ukuqinisekisa iqabane lakho ukuba uphi iqabane lakho kukuziphatha okukrokrelayo okuqinisekileyo kukudlulisela kungekuphela kuwe, kodwa nakwiqabane lakho nakubahlobo bakho ukuba unolwalamano olungathembekanga.
Emva kwayo yonke loo nto, kutheni le nto usiva isidingo sokubuza iqabane lakho?
Into eza kuqhuba ngolu hlobo lokuziphatha, kwaye ayizukuba nanto yakwenza nokuthembana. Kwaye ke lixesha lokuba uhlale phantsi kwaye uzibuze ukuba kutheni ulwalamano ungathembani ukuze ube nethuba lokuyibeka kakuhle.
Ukunqongophala kokuthembela kubudlelwane kunokuba neziphumo ezibi hayi kulwalamano ngokwalo kodwa nakwindlela yokusebenza kwengqondo kunye nokuba sempilweni kwabo bobabini abalingane okanye abatshatileyo. Ukuba ufumanisa ukuba awulithembi iqabane lakho akungeloxesha lokuba wenze into ngalo, ukuze ube nakho ukonwabela imimangaliso yobudlelwane obunothando nothembekileyo kwikamva?