Umxholo
- Imeko-bume esingqongileyo siyifaka ngaphakathi kuyo
- Uxinzelelo lwenziwa njani kwizizukulwana ngezizukulwana
- Ukudakumba okudlulele kwempembelelo kuchaphazela ubudlelwane phakathi kwabantu
- Unxunguphalo olungaphaya kokuphilayo lunokuphiliswa
- Ukudakumba okudlulela phambili kuchaphazela ukukhetha kwabantu amaqabane
- Ukuphilisa ukwenzakala okungapheliyo kunye nokufezekisa ukusondelelana
- Ukujamelana nokwenzakala okungaqhelekanga
Yintoni iTransgenerational Trauma?
Uphando lubonisa ukuba ukwenzakala kunokudluliselwa kwisizukulwana ngesizukulwana ngeDNA. Ingxoxo-mpikiswano eqhubekayo "yendalo xa ithelekiswa nokukhulisa" inokubonisa ukuba ngumdibaniso wemfundo yoluntu kunye nokwenza izinto eziphilayo. Ukuncamathiselwa komntwana kwindawo yokuqala kubonisa ukuba ziya kuba yintoni na izihlomelo zabantu abadala. Abantwana banemizekelo kuyo yonke indawo. Umama / utata / abantwana bakowenu, ootitshala, umabonwakude / ifilimu, i-intanethi / imidiya yoluntu, abahlobo, usapho olwandisiweyo, abaqeqeshi, abafundisi, oononcwadi, abo bafunda nabo, njl.
Omnye wemibuzo exhaphakileyo endiyibuza abathengi bam: Zeziphi iindlela zokuba ngumzali ezazisendlwini yabo zikhula? Ngaba babukho ubundlobongela basekhaya? Isigulo sengqondo?
Ngaba lwalukho uthando? Ukuba kunjalo, balubonisa njani uthando? Ngaba bekukho ezinye izincedisi / abacebisi?
Ngaba uTata wayengumqeqeshi ogqithileyo ngenxa yamaphupha akhe awaphukileyo okungabinaye owakhe umqeqeshi njengomntwana? Ngaba uMama umzali engenamida ngenxa yolungiso olugqithisileyo kwityala lakhe lokungafumaneki ngokweemvakalelo?
Imeko-bume esingqongileyo siyifaka ngaphakathi kuyo
Abantu zizidalwa zasekuhlaleni. Sinendlela yokuqala yokufunda kwimeko yokusingqongileyo, ekhaya nasehlabathini. Kufuneka siziqhelanise nezinto ukuze siphile. Izitayile zomtshato / zokuba ngumzali, indlela yokuziphatha / iimpawu, iitalente, ubukrelekrele, ubuchule bokuyila, iimpawu zomzimba, ukugula ngengqondo kunye nezinye iipateni zisihla kwizizukulwana ngezizukulwana.
Abazali zezona modeli zibaluleke kakhulu kwingqondo ekhulayo. Abantwana bafunda ngaphakathi kubume babo.
Ngokwendalo bayazivumelanisa namava abo kwaye bathathe isigqibo: Ngaba eli lizwe liyindawo ekhuselekileyo? Okanye ayikhuselekanga. Amava kunye namava anefuthe elithile kwingqondo ekhulayo ebuthathaka. Sihlela la mava njengoko sikhula sisiba ngokwethu. Sihlala kwindawo yethu yokwenyani ngokwendalo.
Uxinzelelo lwenziwa njani kwizizukulwana ngezizukulwana
Kukho iziporho egumbini ngexesha leseshoni yonyango. Kukho abazali, oomakhulu nootatomkhulu, ootatomkhulu noomakhulu, kunye nabanye ababenempembelelo ngokuthe ngqo okanye ngokungathanga ngqo. Izizukulwana zeziporho zihlala kwigumbi lonyango, ngolonwabo zithatha indawo. Iziva ngathi ifanele ukuba ithathe ithebhu yonyango, akunjalo?
Ngokugqithisileyo bayigqithile le ndlela ibalaseleyo yokwakheka kwemfuza (kunye nokungasebenzi) ebuyela emva kumakhulu eminyaka kusenokwenzeka. Ngandlela ithile sisipho sabo kuwe.
Imnandi njani. Ndiyabulela ezo ziporho. Bangabafundisi bakho bokomoya. Ootitshala bethu bavela ngeendlela ezingalindelekanga kunye nomlingo ngamanye amaxesha.
Yinkqubo yokomoya ukubona la malifa (amanxeba amadala) njengamathuba okukhula. Oku kuyafundwa, kodwa de kube sivule kwaye sikulungele ukuntywila ngokunzulu kwintlungu yakudala yeemvakalelo. Inokuba yinkqubo enzulu kwaye ingonwabisi yokufumanisa ngokwakho.
Kodwa ukuba asikhuli, sinokubambelela kwimikhwa yakudala kunye neepateni ezingasasebenziyo ngoku.
Ukudakumba okudlulele kwempembelelo kuchaphazela ubudlelwane phakathi kwabantu
Ukuhanjiswa kweTransgenerational trauma kunokuchaphazela abantu kunye neentsapho kumanqanaba okuqonda nokungazi. Umothuko uzibonakalisa ngokwasemzimbeni, ngokweemvakalelo nangokweendlela zokomoya.
Olu khuseleko luchaphazela ubudlelwane phakathi kwabantu kunye nolwalamano nesiqu sakho. Abantwana abadala abonzakele ngokwasemzimbeni bafunda ngokukhawuleza ukuba abazali babo bangabantu. (Kwaye iphosakele.)
Iindlela zokhuselo zisebenza njengabakhuseli, eziba ngumqobo ekukhuleni. Le miqobo iyonakalisa, isenza ukuba kubenzima ukwakha ubudlelwane obunempilo.
Unxunguphalo olungaphaya kokuphilayo lunokuphiliswa
Abantwana abadala abonzakele ngokwasemzimbeni banokubuyela kwimeko yesiqhelo, kodwa kufuna isibindi, ukunyaniseka, imfesane kunye nokuzixolela. Ngobabalo kunye nokuzimisela, siyaguqula ukusuka ekusindeni siye ekubuyiseleni kwimeko yesiqhelo. Sifunda ngenyaniso kunye nokuzihlola ukuba ngubani thina kwaye asingoobani.
Kuya kufuneka sifunde oko sikufundileyo.
Asinakho ukutshintsha ukwakheka kwemfuza, kodwa singazitshintsha indlela esiziphethe ngayo, indlela esicinga ngayo nothando lwethu ngokwethu kwinqanaba elinzulu. Ilula, kodwa akukho lula. Yinkqubo kwaye ngamanye amaxesha yinto yemihla ngemihla.
Ukudakumba okudlulela phambili kuchaphazela ukukhetha kwabantu amaqabane
Abantwana abadala abonzakele ngokwasemzimbeni bahlala befuna amaqabane / amaqabane aneempawu eziqhelekileyo, ezilungileyo nezimbi, ezinokubonisa amanxeba amadala afuna ukuphola.
Beka eyakho imaski yeoksijini kuqala, emva koko uthambekele kwabanye.
Yenza owakho umsebenzi wangaphakathi. Ayingomsebenzi weqabane lakho ukulungisa / ukukulungisa / ukukuphilisa. Ubudlelwane obusempilweni nokwahlulwahlulwa bunesiseko esomeleleyo ngokuxhasa ukukhula komntu ozimeleyo ngokweemvakalelo.
Ukuphilisa ukwenzakala okungapheliyo kunye nokufezekisa ukusondelelana
Ukuze ufezekise ukusondelelana, umntu kufuneka azive ekhuselekile ngokwaneleyo ukuba abe sesichengeni, efuna ukuthembakala. Iinkqubo zosapho ezisempilweni zinamalungu athobekileyo.
Bayacamngca, bayazazi kwaye bayayeka ukubekek 'ityala. Kukho imida ecacileyo nesempilweni esekwe ngomonde, uthando, kunye nokungaguquguquki. Indawo esempilweni kunye negumbi lokukhula liyimfuneko.
Abazali abafumanekayo ngokweemvakalelo babonisa indlela yokunxibelelana nokuphendula omnye komnye nakubantwana babo ngothando nemfesane. Benza imodeli yokusonjululwa kwengxabano kwaye kukho ukulungiswa xa kwenziwe umonakalo ngokweemvakalelo.
Ingqondo ayinzima kwaye i-chemistry yengqondo ingatshintsha ngeendlela zokucinga kunye nokuthetha unyango kuphela. Kuyimfuneko ukuhlala unomdla.
Abantwana abadala abapholisayo baya kuzibuza: “Ndiza kulibalisa njani ibali lam. Zeziphi izinto endiza kuzisusa kwaye ndiza kuzihombisa? Ndisebenzela ntoni? Yintoni endiphumele ngaphandle? Ndiza kuhamba njani kule mephu sele idluliselwe kum? Kwaye okona kubaluleke nangakumbi, ndikuthintela njani ukuba kungadluliselwa ebantwaneni bam? ” Isicwangciso esihle sokuhlaziya kukujonga abazali bobabini njengabantwana usinda nokulawula ilifa labo kwaye nabo kuye kwafuneka bazivumelanise
Iipateni ezingazi nto ezizuzwe njengelifa ngokulula iinxalenye yesiqu sakho esifuna Kaninzi ingqalelo, Kaninzi uthando kunye Kaninzi ukuzixolela.
Ukuzihlaziya okupheleleyo kunokuphilisa amanxeba amadala, kodwa kube kanye kuphela xa kukho ukwamkelwa kwaye akusekho sidingo sokucinezela iimpawu / iintlungu.
Intlungu ibalulekile kwaye ifuna ukuba njalo waziva kwaye iqhutywe kwindawo ekhuselekileyo ngenkxaso efanelekileyo. Nje ukuba oku kuvunyelwe, kukho ukuphiliswa kwengqondo / komzimba kwinqanaba lomzimba. Intlungu yezembali ayifakwanga ngaphandle kwaye iyadlula, eyinxalenye yenkqubo yokuphilisa njengoko iphulukana namandla ayo yakuba ikhutshiwe.
Ukujamelana nokwenzakala okungaqhelekanga
Umntu unokufunda iindlela zokuphelisa impilo ngokucamngca, ngengqondo, ngengqondo, ngamaqela axhasayo, iincwadi, ii-podcasts, iibhloko, iiklasi, abaqeqeshi, abahlobo, ukubhala, ubugcisa, intshukumo yomdaniso, kunye nayo nayiphi na indlela yokubonisa.
Ukungafundi okufundiweyo kufuna ukulungela ukwahlukana nemikhwa yakudala. I-Brain chemistry iyatshintsha ngokutshintsha indlela esizibona ngayo izinto.
Umhlaba awusakhuselekanga. Ngoku kukho ukuthembana. (Ngomntu kunye nabanye) Kukho iindlela ezintsha zokujongana / izixhobo kwaye akusekho sidingo sokucinezela iintlungu zakudala. Akusekho ukulahlwa ngokweemvakalelo kwesiqu sakho. Iziporho zentloni azinakuphumelela kule nto. Umntwana okhulileyo ongumothuko ngoku uza kuphendula, notshintsha umbono / iziphumo zisuka kwingqondo yexhoba iye kumandla oxhobiso.
Nje ukuba oku kuphunyezwe, umjikelo uyaqhekeka kunye nezizukulwana eziza kutshintshela ekusindeni ziye ekubuyiseleni kwimeko yesiqhelo. Zange ezoziporho ziye kuthi ndlela-ntle. Basikelele.