Umxholo
- 1. Yiba nesimo sengqondo esifanelekileyo
- 2. Yonwabela imisebenzi yenoveli
- 3. Chithani ixesha elisemgangathweni kunye
- 4. Ukubonisa uthando
- 5. Yiba nelizwi ngezinto ozithandayo
- 6. Funda ukumamela
Ukugcina ubudlelwane obusempilweni yenye into. Ukugcina ubudlelwane obunempilo ixesha elide lelinye. Abanye abantu abatshatileyo bakholelwa ekubeni ukunganiki bhetele indawo sisiqingatha senkcazo yobudlelwane obusempilweni. Nangona kunjalo, uninzi lwabantu abatshatileyo bakholelwa ukuba kubalulekile ukunika elinye indawo ukuze libanike ixesha lokuphosa omnye nomnye. Ke ukwenza njani ngayo yonke le nto?
Nazi ezinye iingcebiso malunga nendlela yokwakha ubudlelwane obuhlala ixesha elide.
1. Yiba nesimo sengqondo esifanelekileyo
Ukungakhathali kuyakwazi ukonakalisa yonke into elungileyo ekhoyo ebomini bakho. Yityhefu esasazeka njengomlilo kwaye ibangela ingozi enkulu. Ke ngoko, kubalulekile ukuba ugcine isimo sengqondo esifanelekileyo ngesiqingatha sakho esingcono.
Indlela yokwenza ulwalamano luhlale luhleli?
Akufanele uvumele naziphi na iingcinga ezingalunganga zigqumelele ingqondo yakho. Nokuba bayayenza, zama ukubagxotha. Kuya kufuneka usoloko ucinga ngesiqingatha sakho esingcono ngendlela elungileyo. Ukuba neengcinga ezintle malunga neqabane lakho kuthetha ukuba ujolisa kuko konke okuhle hayi okubi. Abantu abanobudlelwane obuhle banakho ukwenza njalo ngokukhumbula izinto ezintle kwaye hayi izinto ezingathandekiyo malunga noko. Oku kunceda ukomeleza umanyano.
2. Yonwabela imisebenzi yenoveli
Ewe kufuneka nichithe ixesha kunye. Abantu bathi izichasi ziyatsala. Ngokoluvo lwam oko kuyinyani kuphela kwiimagnethi. Uyenza njani ubudlelwane isebenze xa kungekho nto ifanayo phakathi kwamaqabane? Ayikuko kuba kubudlelwane abantu abanomdla ofanayo kunye nezinto abazithandayo bathanda ukutsala omnye nomnye.
Xa sele nditshilo, kuhlala kungumbono olungileyo ukuchitha ixesha kunye. Nenze imisebenzi kunye. Unokuzibandakanya kwimisebenzi eyahlukeneyo xa ukunye.
Ayililo ixesha enilichitha kunye kodwa luhlobo lwezinto enizenzayo xa nikunye.
Abantu abathandanayo abachitha ixesha kunye bezibandakanya kwimisebenzi emitsha kunye nemiceli mngeni bathanda ukukhula ngakumbi kuthando omnye komnye.
Umzekelo, ukuba uhamba nge-bungee ngokuxhuma kunye okokuqala ngqa, oku kuya kunceda ukomeleza iqhina lakho.
Ke ngoko, zama ukuzibandakanya kwimicimbi ecelomngeni kangangoko.
3. Chithani ixesha elisemgangathweni kunye
Ixesha elichithwa sisibini kunye akusoloko kufuneka libandakanye izinto ezicela umngeni, nangona. Umbono kukuchitha ixesha kunye. Uyenza njani ubudlelwane isebenze xa ungafuni ukuzingela imiceli mngeni enoyisa nobabini? Unokuzibandakanya kwimisebenzi yesiqhelo efana nokupeyinta igumbi elingaphantsi kunye.
Oku kuya kunceda ukuzisa nina nobabini omnye komnye ngokunjalo. Imisebenzi efana nale yomeleza ubudlelwane bemvakalelo phakathi kwesi sibini. Unokujonga ezinye izinto ezinje ngokuthenga ezivenkileni, ukupheka kunye negadi kunye. Ukucoca indlu ngoncedo lomnye akuvakali njengokukhetha okubi nokuba. Yonke le misebenzi idala ubudlelwane bemvakalelo phakathi kwabo bobabini.
4. Ukubonisa uthando
Ukwazi ukuba uyasithanda isiqingatha sakho esingcono akwanele. Enye yezona ngcebiso zibalulekileyo kubudlelwane obonwabisayo, obuhlala ixesha elide kukuba lonke ixesha kufuneka ubonakalise uthando.
Kuya kufuneka ubonakalise uthando oziva ngalo kwiqabane lakho ngeendlela zomzimba.
Akunyanzelekanga ukuba ibe kukuhlangana ngokwesondo. Ukuziva unomsindo xa iqabane lakho likho kwindawo yakho ebonakalayo kwanele ukugcina iintlantsi. Ilula ngoluhlobo.
5. Yiba nelizwi ngezinto ozithandayo
Ukudana nokukruquka yinxalenye yobomi bomntu. Kodwa ezi mpawu okanye ezi mvakalelo akufuneki zichaphazele ulwalamano lwakho nangayiphi na indlela. Kuya kufuneka uxelele omnye umntu ukuba uthanda ntoni okanye uthanda ukwenza ntoni. Ukuba kukho nasiphi na isenzo sokwenza ukuba uzive ulungile, qiniseka ukuba uvumela isiqingatha sakho esingcono ukuba sazi.
Ukuba kukho nantoni na malunga neqabane lakho oyithandayo okanye oyithiyileyo, yidlulisele kubo ngendlela echubekileyo. Kuya kufuneka ukuba ube nelizwi malunga nezinto ozithandayo (okanye ongazithandiyo) kunye neqabane lakho.
Ncedisana. Kwaye ngelixa usenza njalo qiniseka ukuba nobabini nidibana ngamehlo. Zizinto ezincinci zothando njengokuncamisana kobusuku obuhle obuthatha ubudlelwane obude.
Nangona kunjalo, kunokuba nzima kwabanye ukuba bathethe ubuso ngobuso okanye unganobudlelwane obude. Kwimeko apho, sebenzisa inkonzo yelizwi kwaye uthethe intliziyo yakho ngaphandle kwefowuni. Kusengcono kunokuba ungathethi konke konke!
6. Funda ukumamela
Ukumamela kubaluleke kakhulu. Ukuba uyakholelwa ukuba uyakuhlala ubaleka ngokungqina ukuba unyanisile, uyaphazama. Kuya kufuneka umamele iqabane lakho ukuba ufuna ukugcina ubudlelwane obunempilo. Ukugxekwa, ukugxeka kunye nokuthuka akukho nto bayenzayo kodwa bonakalisa ubudlelwane bakho. Ukuba uziva ngathi intetho iyadibanisana, sukungxama ngokukhawuleza. Mamela ngononophelo kwaye uzolile. Musa ukungxama ekuzithetheleleni. Oku akuthethi ukuba awuzikhuseli tu kwaphela. Kodwa qaphela ukubaluleka kokuphulaphula kuqala kunye nokuphendula ngexesha elifanelekileyo.
Olu luluhlu lweendlela ezininzi ezilula zokwenza ulwalamano lwakho luhlale lukwazi ukulungelelanisa nokwenza ubudlelwane bakho buhlale ixesha elide. Ndiyathemba ukuba uzifumene ziluncedo ngokwaneleyo ukulungisa iingxaki zakho zobudlelwane.