Umxholo
- 1. Ibalulekile imali
- 2. Kusenokufuneka ujamelane nobunzima ekulawuleni ixesha lakho
- 3. Sukuzama ukulungisa iqabane lakho
- 4. Ziqhele izihloko ezitsha
- 5. Usenokuba neengxoxo ezingaphezulu
Iibhondi zomtshato zifana nezinye izibophelelo - zikhula kancinci. ~ UPeter De Vries
Umtshato liziko elihle. Inamandla okuseta ikhondo lobomi bethu. Umtshato oqinileyo uzenza lula ezona meko zinzima ziza kuthi. Kodwa njengabo nabuphi na obunye ubudlelwane, kuya kubakho iingxaki ezinzima xa iimvakalelo zothando zinokubonakala ngathi ziyoma. Kumaxhegokazi amaninzi atshatileyo, unyaka wokuqala womtshato ngowona unzima kwaye ngowona ubalulekileyo. Kuya kubakho amava amaninzi, ezinye zilungile kwaye ezinye zingalunganga. Utshintsho olulula kwizimelabizo ezisuka 'kum' ziye kuthi 'zingakhokelela ekubeni uninzi lweemvakalelo ezixubeneyo kunye nokuphendula. Unyaka wokuqala womtshato uzaliswe ngamava ahlukeneyo, angalindelekanga anokuvavanya uthando kunye nomonde wakho kokubini. Njengoko udlula kwezi ziganeko, ubudlelwane bakho buya komelela kwaye bubeke isiseko sobomi bakho bonke kunye.
Apha, sikulethela izinto ezi-5 eziza kukumangaza kunyaka wokuqala womtshato-
1. Ibalulekile imali
Uluvo lwengeniso edibeneyo kunye nokuhamba kwemali kubonakala kumnandi kodwa akufuneki ulibale lonke uxanduva kunye noxanduva oluza nengeniso edibeneyo emva komtshato. Ngokwezibalo, ezemali ngoyena nobangela uphambili wengxaki kunye nokulwa phakathi kwezibini ezitshatileyo. Ngokophononongo oluphambili olwenziwe kwiYunivesithi yase-Utah State, izibini eziphikisanayo malunga nemali ubuncinci kube kanye ngeveki zinamathuba angama-30% okuqhawula umtshato kunabo baphikisana izihlandlo ezimbalwa ngenyanga. Ke, kuya kufuneka uthethe ngokukhululekileyo malunga nengeniso kunye nenkcitho. Zama ukufikelela kwinqanaba elifanelekileyo lesivumelwano kuyo yonke imiba enxulumene nemali kwangaphambili ukunciphisa nayiphi na imbambano kwesi sihloko. Ungalibali ukwazisa iqabane lakho ukuba kukho amatyala, ngaphambi komtshato.
2. Kusenokufuneka ujamelane nobunzima ekulawuleni ixesha lakho
Ukulinganisa iishedyuli zakho zobuqu zokwenza ixesha lokuba kunye kuya kuba yinxalenye ebalulekileyo kubudlelwane bakho. Misela iinjongo ezinokufikeleleka zokuchitha ixesha kunye neqabane lakho kwaye nisebenzise lonke ixesha lenu kunye. Gxila ekwenzeni iinkumbulo eziya kukunceda kamva ngexesha leengxabano.
3. Sukuzama ukulungisa iqabane lakho
Abanye abantu ngokwendalo bazama ukulungisa izinto ezibangqongileyo ukuba baziva into ingahambi ngokocwangciso lwabo okanye kulindelo lwabo. Kusenokwenzeka ukuba wakwenza oku ngoku wawusathandana. Kodwa izinto ziyatshintsha emva komtshato. Ngoxinzelelo olongezelelekileyo kunye nokulindelweyo kolu lwalamano, olu phawu lunokuvela njengolulawulayo okanye olulawulayo. Kufuneka ube lula kolu lwalamano lutsha. Funda ukuziguqula kuqala ngaphambi kokuba ufumane iimpazamo kwiqabane lakho.
Njengoko umntu etshilo ngokufanelekileyo- Impumelelo emtshatweni ayizi kuphela ngokufumana iqabane elifanelekileyo, kodwa ngokuba liqabane elifanelekileyo.
4. Ziqhele izihloko ezitsha
Kuya kuziva kwahlukile ukujongana neqabane lakho lomtshato / lexesha elide njengeqabane lakho. Kuya kuba yinto evuyisayo ukwamkelwa njengoMnu noNksk kunye, esidlangalaleni. Abanye abantu abatshatileyo, olu tshintsho lwesazisi kunokuba nzima ukuba ulwamkele kwaye ulusongele ngentloko. Ewe! Eli lixesha apho uya kuthi bhabhayi ngokusesikweni kwisimo sakho esinye.
5. Usenokuba neengxoxo ezingaphezulu
Uya kuba nemilo. Kuxhomekeke kuwe ngokupheleleyo ukuba uzisingatha njani iimeko zakho. Oku kunokuza njengokujongwa kwenyani ngokukodwa kuba ngaphambi komtshato iqabane lakho lisenokuba beliziphethe ngendlela eyahlukileyo iimpikiswano. Kodwa zithabathe amanyathelo akho. Iqabane lakho litsha kulo manyano njengoko unjalo. Ukwamkela iziphene yinxalenye yokuba sothandweni. Khumbula oku!
Ubomi sisiqhuma sezimanga kuye wonke umntu. Sonke sinethemba lokuba nomtshato wamaphupha kunye nobomi obomeleleyo bomtshato ngaphambili. Kodwa kungokuhamba kwexesha apho siya kuthi siqonde ukuba ubomi buza kuzenzeka njani kwaye siza kusabela njani kwiimeko. "Nawuphi na unyaka womtshato unokuba nzima kwaye, mhlawumbi ngenxa yokuba ulindelo luphezulu kakhulu, izinto ezisezantsi zinokuba buhlungu ngakumbi kunyaka wokuqala," utshilo umcebisi ngezobudlelwane, uSusie Tuckwell.
Ngamafutshane, ukuze sikwazi ukuphila ubomi obonwabisayo noxolo, kufuneka sihlale sizixabisa izinto esinazo kwaye sibale iintsikelelo esinazo. Unyaka wokuqala womtshato wakho ubalulekile ngokuqinisekileyo kodwa kukho ixesha lokuphila elinokuchithelwa kunye kunye nokuninzi kokuphinda kulindwe ukuba kwenzeke, ke ungazikhathazi kakhulu ngezinto ezingahambanga ngokwesicwangciso sakho.