Umxholo
Abantu bahlala bezibuza ukuba kutheni bebaninzi kangaka abantu ababhinqileyo ababethwayo kwaye bahlala befumana impatho engathethekiyo, kodwa bahlala nomhlaseli wabo. Kwaye ngumbuzo ontsokothileyo ekusafuneka uqondwe ngokupheleleyo. Nangona kunjalo, sele sisazi okuninzi malunga namandla phakathi komxhaphazi kunye nexhoba lakhe, kwaye malunga nokungaqiniseki okufihliweyo okuhlasela ubudlelwane kwaye bobabini ababandakanyekayo. Kwaye ngaphezulu, siyazi okuninzi malunga nabo babaphatha gadalala ngokwasemzimbeni abasetyhini ababefanele ukuba babakhathalele kwaye babakhusele kwingozi. Kukho iindidi ezimbini zabaxhaphazi, kwaye zombini kunzima ukushiya ngendlela eyahlukileyo.
1. Ukucothisa uhlobo lokuxhaphaza
Xa imoto yomyeni wakhe ingena kwi-driveway, uziva ngathi kukho into eza kuhamba gwenxa namhlanje. Kwaye ayisiyonto intuition engaphaya kwendalo, yilento nje ukuba umjikelo ubuphinda iminyaka kwaye uyazi ukuba lisondele nini ixesha lokuba umyeni wakhe aphulukane nomdumba wakhe aphinde abe ndlongondlongo. Sele ilixesha okokugqibela ukumbetha, emva koko waxolisa iintsuku, wathembisa ukuba ngekhe aphinde. Kwaye wonke umntu walibala malunga nokuxolisa kwaye uxinzelelo lwaqala ukunyuka kwakhona. Namhlanje, nantoni na ayithethayo okanye ayenzayo ayizukulunga, uya kuba netyala kuyo yonke into, kwaye nangona esabela, akunakuphepheka kuyakwenzeka- uya kuqala ukukhwaza alwe, xa ephendula (nangona ephendula) uya kuba nobundlobongela, kwaye umjikelo uya kuqala wonke. Olu lolunye lweentlobo ezimbini zabaxhaphazi, umntu oxhaphaza kancinci. Nangona kukho isilumkiso esibonakalayo sokuba ubundlobongela buza kuza kuxinzelelo oluya lukhula phakathi komxhaphazi kunye nexhoba, akukho nto ininzi ixhoba ebenokuyenza ukuthintela ubundlobongela obuzayo. La madoda kulula ukushiya kunoluhlobo olulandelayo esiza kuluchaza, kodwa kunzima nokuba ungabuyeli kubo. Ngokwesiqhelo baya kucela uxolelo, balandele amaxhoba abo, kwaye oku kuhlala kuguquka ibe yenye, kuphela imeko enzulu ngakumbi, yesiqendu sobundlobongela, njengoko benokwenzakalisa abantu babo bangaphambili, bababambe, kwaye banokubabulala xa bengaphenduli uxolo nezithembiso.
2. Uhlobo oluthile lwefyuzi yomxhaphazi
Uhlobo lwesibini lwabahlukumezi luyoyikeka kwaye luyingozi ngakumbi kuba kubo akukho kwakha kancinci koxinzelelo. Yonke loo nto yabonakala ngathi lusuku olufanelekileyo kuJ nakwisithandwa sakhe. Bahleka, bonwaba kunye, baya kwikonsathi kwaye babenosuku oluhle. Kwikonsathi, umfana othile waya kuJ xa isoka lakhe lisiya kusela. Wayengabonakali ukumala ngokukhawuleza kwisoka lakhe. Wabonakala ezolile ngokupheleleyo xa wamkhuphela ngaphandle kwaye ngokuqhwanyaza kweliso, ethe cwaka, wambetha kakhulu kangangokuba wawa phantsi. "Musa ukungahloniphi" yiyo yonke into awayeyithetha. La madoda asabela kwangoko kwaye ahambe ukusuka kwi-zero ukuya kwi-100 ngephanyazo. Akukho silumkiso, kodwa kwakhona akukho ukubathintela. Kwaye ukushiya loo mntu kungqineka kunzima ngakumbi kunohlobo oludlulileyo lomxhaphazi, ngenxa yezizathu ezibini. Amaxhoba ahlala enesithukuthezi ngamaqabane abo ngendlela yezifo, kwaye kananjalo - banoloyiko olufanelekileyo lobomi babo ukuba bashiye abo babephethe gadalala. La madoda abona abafazi babo njengepropathi yabo kwaye ukuba abathobeli, abakude kude nokubafundisa isifundo.
Yintoni enomdla kwaye ihlala idimaza kwabasetyhini abawela amaxhoba kula madoda kukuba, njengoko kubonakala ngathi, akukho kubuya emva kokuba isiqendu esixhaphazayo siqala. Nokuba kukuphendula ngokukhawuleza kombane kungekho silumkiso, okanye intlekele ekhula kancinci, nje ukuba "kutshintshwe" kudanyaze, akukho ndlela yokumisa isaqhwithi kunye nokulwa. Ulwalamano ngalunye lunendlela yalo, kwaye yonke into eyenziwayo iyinto echanekileyo. Kodwa inye into eqinisekileyo - ubundlobongela emzimbeni kubudlelwane yimeko etshabalalisayo kwaye iyingozi ukuba ibekho. Nokuba kukucebisa izibini okanye ukushiya umxhaphazi, into ekufuneka yenziwe, kwaye kufuneka yenziwe ngokukhawuleza. Inyathelo lokuqala kukuba nomfanekiso ocacileyo wento eyenzekayo ngokwenene. Ayisiyonto yokudlula, ayizukuhamba, kwaye ayisihle kunokuba ibonakala. Ke ukuba ulixhoba lokuxhatshazwa, cela uncedo, kuba uyakulufuna, kwaye ngenkalipho uphelise imeko engekho mpilweni okuyo.