Umxholo
- 1. Unxibelelwano oluhle
- 2. Thetha ngokukhululekileyo malunga nolindelo lwakho
- Cwangcisa imisebenzi yakho
- 4. Thabatha amanyathelo
- 5. Musa ukuthelekisa ubomi bakho bobulili
- 6. Sukulihoya iqabane lakho ngaphambi okanye emva kokwabelana ngesondo
- 7. Zama ukuphuma-ebhokisini izimvo
Ukwabelana ngesondo yinxalenye esempilweni yabo nabuphi na ubudlelwane bexesha elide, njengoko izibini ezithandanayo zinokonwabela ukuhlala kunye iminyaka kunye neminyaka. Kodwa ubusazi ukuba kukho uhlobo "olungileyo" kunye "nolungalunganga" lwesini? Ewe. Iimpawu ezithile ziyafuneka ukuze ube nobudlelwane obuphilileyo ngokwesondo.
Kunokubakho ukunqongophala kwesini kubudlelwane bakho okanye unokuba kubudlelwane bezesondo obungenampilo kwaye ungazi nokwazi oko.
Ke zithini iimpawu zokungabi yimpilo okanye ukungabinampilo, ubudlelwane bezesondo? Ndenze uluhlu lwazo, oza kulibona apha ngezantsi kodwa ngaphambi koko masiqwalasele iinyani ezisemva koku.
Oko kuthethwa luphando ...
Ukwabelana ngesondo emtshatweni kubaluleke kakhulu okukhuthaza ukoneliseka emtshatweni kwaye kuncede impilo yakho yomzimba. Ngokwabaphandi beYunivesithi yaseChicago uAdena Galinsky noLinda J. abadlan 'indlebe nezibini ezingama-732 eziphakathi kweminyaka engama-57 ukuya kwengama-85 malunga nobuninzi bezesondo, impilo yengqondo kunye nokwoneliseka emtshatweni, "Ukukhusela umgangatho womtshato kubomi basemva, kungabalulekile kubantu abadala ukuba bafumane iindlela zokuhlala besabelana ngesondo, nanjengoko iingxaki zempilo zibangela ukuba iindlela eziqhelekileyo zokulalana zinzima okanye zingenakwenzeka."
Kodwa umbuzo apha ungakanani isondo esempilweni kubudlelwane? I-General Social Survey ithi abantu abatshatileyo babelana ngesondo amaxesha angama-58 ngonyaka ngokomndilili. Ukuba inombolo yakho ingaphezulu kwenani elichazwe apha, ke le yenye yeempawu zokuziphatha ngokwesondo.
Kodwa, okoko nje unolwalamano olusempilweni kunye neqabane lakho, akukho sizathu sakhathazeka. Endaweni yoko, kuya kufuneka ukhathalele ngakumbi ekuchongeni ukuba ulwalamano lwakho lwezesondo kunye neqabane lakho luba yinto engenampilo.
Ke, nikela ingqalelo ukuba ufumanisa naziphi na kwezi zinto zilandelayo kulwalamano lwakho.Kwakhona, gcina-engqondweni, ezi zimpawu zesondo ezingenampilo zinokubonisa nangaliphi na ixesha, nokuba kungumhla wakho wokuqala okanye emva kweminyaka engamashumi amabini sitshatile.
Nokuba iyabonakala nini, indlela yokuziphatha eyingozi okanye eyingozi ngokwesondo okanye ukubonakaliswa kokuziphatha yinto ekufuneka ujongane nayo kwangoko. Kwezinye iimeko, ukuzikhupha kubudlelwane kunye / okanye ngenye indlela ukunyanzelisa unyango lolona khetho lufanelekileyo.
Iingcali zithi isondo akufuneki-
- Zive unyanzelekile, unyanzelwe, okanye ucinezelwe
- Ukhohlise
- Faka izinto okanye imisebenzi ongonwabanga ngayo kubandakanya okanye ukuyisebenzisa
- Yiba buhlungu ngaphandle kokuba iintlungu ziyinxalenye yolonwabo
- Yiba yimeko yothando, okanye ungenalo uthando
- Nyanzeleka
- Yiba kude
- Hlazisa (kungabandakanywa imisebenzi ethile yokudlala indima)
- Yiba isenzo omnye esenza "komnye"
- Isetyenziswe njengesixhobo, okanye ibanjwe njengesohlwayo
- Yiba nemfihlo
- Yenza ukuba umntu aphile ubomi obumbaxa
Iingcali ziyavuma ukuba isondo kufuneka -
- Vumelana
- Yiba ngumqondiso wothando
- Yiba ngumxholo wonxibelelwano
- Ukulawulwa nokulawulwa
- Yibani nobudlelwane kunye nolwalamano
- Yiba nolwalamano, wabelane, kwaye ulingane
- Yiba ngumqhubi wendalo, ungaze unyanzelwe
- Yiba namandla
- Lingana
- Ukuphucula ukuzithemba nokuzithemba
- Yiba noxanduva, ukhuselekile kwaye uhloniphe
Ukulandela amanqaku ambalwa adweliswe apha ngasentla, okona kubalulekileyo koku kukunxibelelana ngokukhululekileyo neqabane lakho. Ngoku masiqonde iindlela ezilishumi ezahlukeneyo zokuba nobudlelwane obusempilweni ngokwesondo.
1. Unxibelelwano oluhle
Ukwabelana ngesondo kufuneka ibe yinto abantu abatshatileyo abanokuyixoxa ngokuthembeka okupheleleyo. Akufuneki kubekho iimfihlo, iintloni, okanye ukugwetywa okunxulunyaniswa nokwabelana ngesondo okanye imisebenzi yesondo.
Ukwabelana ngesondo kufuneka kubandakanye ukusondelelana ngokweemvakalelo kwaye kuhlala kufanelekile ukufezekisa. Kufanelekile ukuba ibe yinto oyenzayo ukukholisa omnye nomnye ngendlela ekwabelwana ngayo.
Ukuba nayiphi na into enxulumene nokwabelana ngesondo okanye into yesondo enje ngemifanekiso engamanyala, inkohliso, ukunyanzela, ukuxhaphaza, okanye ukohlwaya (okt ukubamba isondo), ixhaphake kulwalamano lwakho, okanye nokuba kukho into ekukhathazayo, xoxa ngengxaki neqabane lakho okanye funa ingcebiso yomtshato kwisini esinephepha-mvume okanye kumcebisi womtshato.
2. Thetha ngokukhululekileyo malunga nolindelo lwakho
Ungaze uyijongele phantsi indima yesondo emtshatweni wakho. Ukuba unqwenela ukonwabela ukuba neentlobano zesini neqabane lakho, kuya kufuneka uthethe phandle malunga nolindelo lwakho kunye nezinto ozifunayo. Ukulindela okungafezekiswanga ngokwesondo kunokulimaza ubudlelwane obubi.
Ukuba azingqinelani emtshatweni wakho, kuyacetyiswa ukuba ubonise ngobuchule nangemvakalelo iminqweno yakho -
- Izinto eziza kukwenza uzive ulungile, kwaye
- Izinto ozijonga kwigumbi lokulala.
Cwangcisa imisebenzi yakho
Indlela yokuphila ye-Hectic ishiya ixesha elaneleyo lokuba izibini zinxibelelane. Iintsuku zihamba, kwaye kunqabile ukuba batshintshisane ngaphezu kwamagama ambalwa, kwaye isini sithatha isihlalo sangasemva.
Kodwa, ukusondelelana ngokwasemzimbeni kunye neqabane lakho kunokuba yinto yoxinzelelo olukhulu, isifundo sithi. Kukwakho nezinye izibonelelo ezingachazekiyo zokuba nolwalamano olusempilweni ngokwesondo. Ke, zama ukungagcini isini ezantsi kuluhlu lwakho lwemihla ngemihla.
Kungcono ukucwangcisa isondo sakho endaweni yoko.
Abanye abantu abatshatileyo bahlala kude nalo lonke uluvo lokucwangcisa isondo kodwa ukucwangcisa kuyongeza kulonwabo kwaye kwakha nolindelo. Ukuba ucwangcisa ukuhamba ushushu kwaye usendle phakathi kwamashiti ngokuhlwanje, yeka iingcebiso ukusukela kusasa, nokuba kukwiteksti okanye kwimpawu zothando.
Umlingane wakho uya kulinda ngolangazelelo kwizimanga onokuthi uziphose emva kokuphuma kwezibane.
4. Thabatha amanyathelo
Ungalindelanga ukuba iqabane lakho lithethe ngesini okanye liqalise ukwenza uthando ngalo lonke ixesha nindawonye. Zombini zinoxanduva ngokulinganayo ukonwabela ubudlelwane besondo obuphilileyo.
Bamba izandla, bonisa uthando, ngoku amaxesha ngamaxesha, phumani nithandane ubusuku bosuku, kwaye nenze ezinye izinto ukugcina ilangatye lothando kunye nothando oluvuthayo.
5. Musa ukuthelekisa ubomi bakho bobulili
Awunakulindela ukuba isondo libe ngamava amangalisayo ngalo lonke ixesha uzama. Kwaye, ungalindeli ukuba ubomi bakho bezesondo bukhangeleke njengobushushu njengoko kubonisiwe kwimiboniso bhanyabhanya.
Umahluko omkhulu phakathi kweefilimu kunye nenyani. Ke, yeka ukuthelekisa ubomi bakho bezesondo kunye nemiboniso enefuthe kwiifilimu nakwiithelevishini. Iqabane lakho alisoze likwazi ukuhlangabezana nezinto ozilindeleyo, ezingenangqondo kunye nezonyango.
6. Sukulihoya iqabane lakho ngaphambi okanye emva kokwabelana ngesondo
Kusenokwenzeka ukuba ufumane iingcebiso ezininzi malunga nokuba neentlobano zesini ezilungileyo kubudlelwane. Kodwa, awusoze wonwabele ubudlelwane obunempilo ngokwesondo ukuba uqhubeka nokungahoyi kunye nokuhlutha iqabane lakho. Ngexesha uziva ngathi ufuna ukonwaba kunye nabo, sele belahlekelwe ngumdla wokuhlala kufutshane nawe.
7. Zama ukuphuma-ebhokisini izimvo
Ukuzama indawo enye ephindaphindiweyo kunokuba buthuntu kwaye kuyadika ngexesha elithile emtshatweni wakho. Kodwa, unokugcina umcimbi wakho phakathi kwamaphepha abandakanyekayo ngokuhamba ngaphaya kweendawo zakho zokuthuthuzela kwaye ujonge ezinye iindlela.
Zama izikhundla ezitsha zesini kunye nemidlalo yokudlala ukugcina imicimbi inomdla kwaye inika amandla, kwangaxeshanye.
Kwaye, zikho ezinye iindlela zokonwabela ubudlelwane obuphilileyo ngokwesondo. Oku kubandakanya -
- Ukuhloniphana
- Ukugcina uthando lomzimba omnye komnye
- Ukunyamekela impilo yakho yesondo
Ukuthetha ngesondo kubudlelwane obutsha akukho lula kwaye ukuxoxa ngesondo nomntu osandula ukudibana akucebisi. Kodwa esi sisihloko esinye ekufuneka usizisile ngaphambi kokuba uthathe isigqibo sokungena-nomntu.