Umxholo
Zininzi iintlobo ezahlukeneyo zobudlelwane obungasebenzi kakuhle. Kwiindidi zokuxhomekeka kubudlelwane, indlela yokuziphatha eqhelekileyo enokufunyanwa ngumgibe othintela uxinzelelo. USherry Gaba uchaza le pateni ngokweenkcukacha zakhe kwincwadi yakhe, Umtshato nobudlelwane Junkie, kwaye nje ukuba wazi umgibe, kulula ukuwubona.
Izinto eziguqukayo
Utshintsho kumgibe wokuthintela ixhala lufana nokutyhala kunye nokutsala. Zombini ezi ziindlela zokuncamathisela, kwaye zikwiziphelo ezichaseneyo zembonakalo yomnye nomnye.
Iqabane elixhalabileyo kubudlelwane lihamba liye komnye umntu.Ngamaqabane afuna ukuhoywa, afuna ukusondelelana kwaye uziva ukuba kungokusondela ngokweemvakalelo nangokwasemzimbeni kuphela apho lo mntu aziva anelisekile kwaye anelisekile kubudlelwane.
Umthinteli, njengoko igama lisitsho, ufuna ukumka xa eziva esongelwa kukuxinana okanye ukutyhalwa kubudlelwane. Oku kuyasongela, kwaye kuhlala kubonakala kwaba bantu ukuba bayangxixhwa, bayasindwa kwaye batyiwe ngumntu oxhalabileyo.
Bavakalelwa kukuba baphulukene nokuzazi kwabo, ukuzimela kwabo, kunye nokuzazisa kwabo njengoko iqabane elixhalabileyo lifuna ukusondela ngakumbi.
Umzekelo
Imiqondiso onokuyijonga ukuze ubone ukuba usemngciphekweni wokukhathazeka uquka:
- Iimpikiswano malunga nantoni na- xa iqabane elixhalabileyo lingenakufumana uthando kunye nolwalamano olusondeleyo abanalo okanye baqonde ukuthintela ukufuduka, bakhetha umlo wokufumana ingqalelo abayinqwenelayo.
- Akukho zisombululo-ayisiyiyo kuphela ingxoxo enkulu malunga nezinto ezincinci, kodwa azikho nasiphi na isisombululo. Ukujongana nomba wokwenyani, ubudlelwane kunye nemvakalelo yokuxhalaba, ayikho kwimeko yothintelo. Abafuni ukubandakanyeka ekusombululeni ingxaki njengoko ingxaki, emehlweni abo, ingomnye umntu.
- Ixesha elininzi lilodwa-ukuthintela kuhlala kudala umlo ukuze ubenakho ukutyhalela kude. Njengokuba iqabane elixhalabileyo liba nemvakalelo ngakumbi kwaye linomdla wokulungisa ubudlelwane, umntu othintelayo uya engazibandakanyi kwaye abe kude kakhulu, de bahambe kwaye bafumane ukuzimela abakulangazelelayo.
- Ukuzisola - emva kokugqabhuka komlomo kunye namagqabi athintelwayo, ixhala, ekusenokwenzeka ukuba lathetha izinto ezikhohlakeleyo nezonzakalisayo, kwangoko liziva liphulukene neqabane kwaye liqale ukucinga ngazo zonke izizathu abazidingayo zokuhlala kunye. Kwangelo xesha, uthintelo ujolise kwezo zinto zingalunganga, eziqinisa iimvakalelo zokuba kude nomnye umntu.
Ngexesha elithile, elinokuthatha iiyure okanye iintsuku okanye nangaphezulu, kukho uxolelwaniso. Nangona kunjalo, ukuthintela sele kukude kakhulu, okukhawulezayo ukubangela iqabane elixhalabileyo ukuba liphindaphinde umjikelo, ngaloo ndlela lenze umgibe othintela uxinzelelo.
Ixesha elingaphezulu, umjikelo uba mde, kwaye uxolelwaniso lube lufutshane ngexesha elipheleleyo.
Into enomdla kukuba, kupapasho luka-2009 kwiNzululwazi yezeNzululwazi nguJA Simpson nabanye, uphononongo lufumanise ukuba zombini ezi ntlobo zokuncamathisela zineendlela ezahlukileyo zokukhumbula ungquzulwano, kwaye zombini ezi ntlobo zikhumbula indlela eziziphethe kakuhle ngayo emva kwempixano esekwe kwinto eziyifunayo. ubudlelwane.