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- Inqanaba 1-Umonzakalo wokufumana umcimbi
- Inqanaba 2 -Ukuphonononga imiba enxulumene nokufumana ukuthandana
- Inqanaba 3 -Ukujongana nemicimbi yokufumana ukungcatshwa
- Inqanaba 4 -Ukuyeka usizi kunye nokuqala kokuphilisa
Wenza njani ukuba uthandaze kwaye uphume kuwo ungonzakalanga? Kwiqabane elingcatshiweyo, amanqanaba omcimbi obhenqwayo angabandakanya yonke into ukusuka ekwenqabeni, ukothuka, ukubonakalisa, ukudakumba ukuya ekugqibeleni uye phezulu.
Ukuqonda amanqanaba okufumana ngaphezulu komcimbi kunokukunceda ukuba uwugqibe ngokukhawuleza okanye ngakumbi. Uninzi lwabo bangcatshwayo ngamaqabane abo othando bazakuziva belahlekile ngokupheleleyo kwiimvakalelo, imibuzo, amathandabuzo kunye nokuzithemba, kunye nombuzo wokugqibela - iyakudlula nini le nto okanye iyakuze idlule?
Iza ku.
Ukufumana ngaphezulu komtshato kungathatha iminyaka, kodwa iintlungu ziya kudlula. Kwaye uya kuba namandla kwaye ube ngcono ngakumbi emva koko. Kungenzeka ukuba umtshato wakho uya kuba namandla kwaye ube ngcono. Nangona kunjalo, kuya kufuneka uzilungiselele ukuwela amanyathelo ahlukeneyo, abuhlungu, kwaye ngamanye amaxesha anengqiqo yokufumana umcimbi.
Inqanaba 1-Umonzakalo wokufumana umcimbi
Njengawo nawuphi na umothuko, ukwazi malunga nokuthandana uziva ukhathazekile kwabanye, kwaye ngenxa yoko, awunakukwazi ukucinga ngokucacileyo kweli nqanaba. Uya kuba namava apheleleyo, emva koko iintlungu ezinokuthi zifane nolusu lwakho lutsalwe kuwe, umlilo womsindo, kunye / okanye isidingo sokuziphindezela, kwaye ngamanye amaxesha ezi ziya kutshintshela kwinto evakala ngathi yimizuzwana.
Ngobunzima bengqondo obuninzi, uyazibuza, ungawenza njani umcimbi? Okokuqala, yamkele ukuba konke oku kuqhelekile ngelixa uqhubeka nokuthandana. Kunzima ukumelana, kodwa kuyinto eqhelekileyo. Umhlaba wakho uphela washukunyiswa (okanye watshatyalaliswa), kwaye ayisiyonto ilula le ukuphatha.
Eli xesha linokuhlala, uninzi, ukuya kuthi ga kwiinyanga ezintandathu. Kodwa, wonke umntu ngumntu ozimeleyo, kwaye ungazibali iintsuku, qiniseka ukuba uye kweli nqanaba uzolile kangangoko unokufumana.
Okwangoku, zibambe ekuthatheni nasiphi na isigqibo esikhulu nokuba kukudlula kumcimbi wokudibana kwakhona, okanye ukuhlangana kwakhona, okanye ukubiza kuyekile.
Awukho kwisimo sakho esipheleleyo sobukrelekrele kunye neemvakalelo xa usiva ubunzima, kwaye unokuzisola ngaso nasiphi na isigqibo esenziwe kwezi nyanga. Endaweni yoko, zama ukuqiniseka ukuba uzikhathalela ngokwakho njengenxalenye yokufumana into engaphaya. Yitya kwaye ulale kakuhle, jonga ukuba unganxibelelana nenkqubo yakho yenkxaso, wenze izinto ozithandayo. Linda.
Inqanaba 2 -Ukuphonononga imiba enxulumene nokufumana ukuthandana
Inye into uninzi lwabantu abaqhathiweyo olungenakuyiphatha ngexesha lokuqala kwengozi ijongene nenyani yokuba, nangona iqabane eliqhathiweyo linetyala ngendlela elisingathe ngayo le meko, kusenokwenzeka ukuba ikhona imiba kulwalamano oko kwakhokelela kuyo. Hayi, umcimbi awusoze ube yimpendulo. Kodwa, ukuba uya kunyanga kuyo, kuya kufuneka ufunde kuyo.
Emva kokuba iimvakalelo zokuqala ziyehla ngokuthe ngcembe, wena (kunye neqabane lakho, ngokufanelekileyo) ungaqala ukuphonononga imiba ebakhokelele ekukrexezeni.
Le iya kuba yinkqubo enzima, kwaye kufuneka ulungiselele umlo omninzi. Unokubona ubuso obutsha ngokupheleleyo beqabane lakho, obabufihliwe ngaphambili. Inye engakhange ibonakalise kuba bayifihle ngasemva kwetyala. Kodwa ngoku lixesha lokuba uyikhuphe ekuhleni.
Kule nqanaba lokufumana ngaphezulu komcimbi, into oyifunayo ngamandla okwamkela inyani. Oko kuthetha ukuba, ukwamkela ukuba kukho elinye icala lezinto. Unokungayithandi, kodwa iqabane lakho ngokucacileyo linombono ohluke ngokupheleleyo, kwaye ngoku uya kufumanisa ngalo.
Unokufuna ukutyelela iindibano zocweyo okanye uqhagamshelane nonyango okwangoku, ukukunceda ngezakhono zonxibelelwano eziguqukayo.
Inqanaba 3 -Ukujongana nemicimbi yokufumana ukungcatshwa
Nje ukuba ufunde malunga nokuba kutheni umcimbi wokwenzeka, ungaqala ukusebenza kwimicimbi enxulumene nokufumana ukuthandana. Oku kuya bobabini kumaqabane athatha isigqibo sokuhlala kunye nakwabo baza kwahlukana. Kwimeko yokuqala, ngaphandle kokusombulula ingxaki, awusoze ukwazi ukugqitha kukungathembeki, kwaye ubudlelwane buya kutshabalala.
Ungakudlula njani ukungcatshwa ukuba uthathe isigqibo sokuya ngeendlela ezahlukeneyo? Kulabo bathatha isigqibo sokwahlukana, amaqabane aya kufuneka ajongane neengxaki ngokwawo. Kungenxa yokuba ukuba uyasilela ukuqonda kwaye ujongane neengxaki ezikhokelele kulwalamano, umthwalo uya kugqithiselwa kubudlelwane bakho obulandelayo. Ukufumana ukunganyaniseki akwenzeki ngokukhawuleza.
Akunakubakho ukungathembeki apho, kodwa nawuphi na umba ongasonjululwanga uyingozi kubudlelwane obusempilweni.
Inqanaba 4 -Ukuyeka usizi kunye nokuqala kokuphilisa
Uninzi lwabanyangi bayavuma ukuba owokuqala ungalindela ukuba aqale azive efana nomntu wakho omdala (okanye omtsha), ophilileyo, ujikeleze iminyaka emibini emva kokuba uye wafumanisa ngokungathembeki. Ewe, ukugqithisa umcimbi yinkqubo ende, kodwa, ukuba ilungiswe ngokufanelekileyo, leyo iphelela kwinto entsha, ephucukileyo, esempilweni, kwaye eyomeleleyo.
Oko akuthethi ukuba ngekhe uphinde ube namathandabuzo okanye iintlungu ezifanayo. Kuya kuhlala kukho iinkumbulo ezibuhlungu. Kodwa, ekuhambeni kwexesha, uya kufunda ukubona la mava njengento eyakuncedayo ukuba ukhule.