Umxholo
- 1. Vavanya ubuntununtunu be-LGBTQI yeqabane lakho
- 2. Xelela umhlobo osenyongweni okanye ilungu losapho
- 3. Khetha indawo kawonke-wonkeukutyhila
- 4. Lungiselela isiphumo
- 5. Zithande ngokungenamiqathango
Sasikhona, nesithandwa sam kunye nam, sibukele iindaba kwi-CNN xa kwavela icandelo lebali elifutshane, yayilibali lomntu weTransgender ochongwe njengowasetyhini, esabelana ngebali lakhe lokungena kunye nokukhuphisana njengomkhweli webhayisikile Ukhuphiswano lwebhayisikile lomfazi.
Isithandwa sam sasondela saza sandibuza: uyakholelwa ukuba umntu weTransgender kufuneka azichaze ukuba ungubani kumntu abathandana naye?
Umbuzo undibekele umda opheleleyo malunga nokuba yintoni na ngaphakathi engabalulekanga ngaphandle. olo thando luthando; Kwaye ukuba umntu lowo wangena kubudlelwane nomntu weTransgender engaziwa kubo, kungenxa yokuba bamfumene umntu weTransgender enqwenelekayo kwaye kuphela kwento ebeyidinga ukubasa phambili, enkosi kakhulu.
Njengomhlobo, osebenza naye, kunye nomcebisi kubantu abaninzi abavela kuluntu lwe-LGBTQI, ndibone kwaye ndakuva amabali amaninzi kangaka okungekho sikweni, ubundlobongela, kunye nocalucalulo kwaba bantu, ndihlala ndizifumana sendisenza into endibona ukuba inokwenzeka Isiteyitimenti somgwebo okanye indelelo emntwini esichaza njengeTransgender.
Phantse kwiveki emva kokuba ndikrwada, umntu endisebenza naye kunye nomhlobo wam osenyongweni uMalcom * weza eofisini yam ezokwabelana nam ngencoko asandula ukuba nayo emnxebeni nomntu weTransgender owazichonga njengowasetyhini kwaye efuna iinkonzo zoluntu. UMalcom, oyindoda yeTransgender, wabelana nam ukuba umntu emnxebeni uxele kuye ukuba usebudlelwaneni obuzinikeleyo ngaphezulu kweminyaka engama-20 kwaye kwiminyaka emine edlulileyo kuphela, ngaba uxelele iqabane lakhe ukuba uliTransgender umntu. UMalcom ubonakale othukile xa ebelana nam ngolu lwazi.
Ndabuza uMalcom umbuzo ofanayo nalowo wandibuza wona isithandwa sam kwiveki ephelileyo: Malcom, uyakholelwa ukuba umntu weTransgender kufuneka achaze ubuni bakhe kumntu abathandana naye?
"Ngokuqinisekileyo," waphendula uMalcom,
Ubudlelwane kufuneka busekwe ekunyanisekeni, akufuneki siphange nabani na, ngakumbi abo sithandana nabo, ithuba lokuba kubudlelwane nathi sisazi ngokupheleleyo ukuze benze isigqibo sokuba nathi kwaye basithande ngentliziyo iphela. . ”
Ndathobekile ngempendulo kaMalcom, njengoGqirha wezobuDlelwane, uMqeqeshi, noMlamli ndiyazi ukuba:
Ukukhuthaza ukuthembana, yindlela esakha ngayo isiseko sobudlelwane obuqinileyo kunye obuhlala buhleli.
UMalcom kwaye sicingisise ngamanyathelo ama-5 ekufuneka uwathathe ukuba ungumntu weTransgender ofuna ukuveza isazisi sakho kuloo mntu ukhethekileyo ebomini bakho:
1. Vavanya ubuntununtunu be-LGBTQI yeqabane lakho
Ngaba iqabane lakho linabahlobo abachonga njenge-LGBTQI? Kube yintoni kuye / amava akhe naba bantu? Bazichaza njani malunga nabantu abachonga njenge-LGBTQI? Ukufumana ulwazi kunye nokufumana ukucacelwa kweenkolelo zeqabane lakho, uqikelelo, kunye nembali nabantu be-LGBTQI kuya kukunceda uvavanye indlela oza kuya ngayo kwincoko yokuxela.
2. Xelela umhlobo osenyongweni okanye ilungu losapho
Baxelele ukuba uza kuxela nini kwaye phi kwaye ubuze loo mntu ukuba abekho ngaloo mini ukuze akunike inkxaso, jonga ukhuseleko lwakho, kwaye akunike indawo yokuncipha kumnyhadala ukuba uyafuneka. Kubalulekile ukuba abanye bayazi into olungiselela ukuyenza kwaye ucele inkxaso oyifunayo ukuze ubambe kule nkqubo.
3. Khetha indawo kawonke-wonkeukutyhila
Kwi-2016, ubuncinci ama-23 okusweleka kwabantu be-transgender axelwe e-United States ngenxa yobundlobongela obubulalayo, eyona yakhe yabhalwa. Qinisekisa ukhuseleko lwakho kuqala kwaye rhoqo, yenza incoko kunye neqabane lakho kwindawo yokutya exakekileyo, kwindawo yokutyela, okanye nakwezinye iindawo zikawonkewonke ukunciphisa ukubakho kobundlongondlongo obuyingozi kuwe. Nceda uqaphele ukuba andinakulibaxa igama "ukunciphisa ” Kule ngxelo, akukho ziqinisekiso, kodwa ubuncinci iya kwenza kube nzima ngakumbi.
4. Lungiselela isiphumo
Kunokubakho ukubakho kokuxela kwakho akunakukubonelela ngeziphumo obuzilindele, zama ngandlela zonke ukuba ungene kwincoko ngaphandle kokuncamathisela kwisiphumo. Emva kokubhengeza, vumela indawo eyahlukileyo yokuphefumla wena kunye nesithandwa sakho ukuba siqhubekise ulwazi oluchaziweyo kunye neemvakalelo ezivela kulo.
5. Zithande ngokungenamiqathango
Kokubini wena kunye nomntu omtyhilelayo uya kuhamba nge-rollercoaster yeemvakalelo, ziphathe ngothando olufanayo, uvelwano, kunye nokuthantamisa okunika oyena mthandi wakho uxabisekileyo.
Khumbula ukuba ukuthanda wena nabanye abantu, sesona senzo sikhulu senkalipho, kwaye isipho sakho sokuphila ngentliziyo epheleleyo siqala ngokuma nokuthetha inyani yakho.
* Amagama atshintshiwe ahlonipha ukungaziwa