Umxholo
- Ukudibanisa kunzima ngakumbi kunokudala usapho
- Imiceli mngeni abajongana nayo abantwana
- Ukujongana neengxaki ngombono womntwana
Izibini ezininzi eziqala inkqubo yokudibanisa ubomi bazo kunye nabantwana bazo zenza njalo ngolindelo olwamkelekileyo ukanti nangoloyiko malunga nale mida mitsha yokoyisa. Njengoko sisazi, izinto ezilindelweyo zinokuza nokudana xa zigcwele amathemba aphezulu, iinjongo ezilungileyo kunye ne-naiveté.
Ukudibanisa kunzima ngakumbi kunokudala usapho
Ukudityaniswa kweentsapho ezimbini ezahlukileyo kuya kuba ngumceli mngeni omkhulu kakhulu kunaye kunokuba yayiyinxalenye yosapho lokuqala. Le ntsimi intsha igcwele imingxunya engaziwayo kwaye ihlala ihleli ingalindelekanga kunye nokuphambuka endleleni. Igama elichaza oluhambo luza kuba lutsha. Yonke into ngesiquphe intsha: abantu abadala abatsha; abantwana; abazali; imicimbi emitsha; ikhaya, isikolo okanye igumbi; Isithintelo esitsha sendawo, iimpikiswano, iyantlukwano, kunye neemeko eziza kuthabatha iinyanga kunye neminyaka kolu lungiselelo lutsha losapho.
Ukuphonononga lo mbono we-panoramic wobomi bosapho obudibeneyo, kunokubakho uxinzelelo lweengxaki ezingalindelekanga zokusombulula kunye neentaba zokunyuka. Ngenxa yemiceli mngeni emikhulu enokudalwa, ngaba le nkqubo inokuncitshiswa ukuze abantwana kunye nabazali bafumane iindlela zokuziqhelanisa?
Imiceli mngeni abajongana nayo abantwana
Enye yezona zinto zibalulekileyo, ezibalulekileyo kunye ezinokubangela inkathazo ekudibaneni kweentsapho yile nto yenziwa yindima entsha yomzali. Abantwana beminyaka eyahlukeneyo bajongana ngesiquphe nomntu omdala othatha indima yokuba ngumzali ebomini babo. Igama elithi inyathelo lomama okanye utata wenyathelo libonisa ubunyani baloo ndima. Ukuba ngumzali kubantwana bomnye umntu akwenziwa ngamaxwebhu asemthethweni kunye namalungiselelo okuhlala. Ingcinga esiyenzayo yokuba iqabane elitsha lithetha ukuba umzali omtsha yinto esinokuthi senze kakuhle ngayo ukuba siqwalasele kwakhona.
Abazali bebhayiloji banethuba elikhulu lokukhulisa ubudlelwane babo nabantwana babo phantse kwasekuzalweni. Yindibaniselwano yokuhlangana eyakhiwe ngokuhamba kwexesha kwaye yaqoshwa ngobuninzi bothando kunye nentembeko. Kwenzeka phantse ngokungabonakali, ngaphandle kokuba amaqela esazi ukuba ukuzimisela kwabo ukuthatha inxaxheba kumzali nomntwana kubini kwenziwa umzuzu nomzuzu, imihla ngemihla, unyaka nonyaka. Ukuhloniphana nokunikezela nokuthatha intuthuzelo, isikhokelo kunye nokutya kuyafundwa ngamaxesha amaninzi onxibelelwano kwaye kuba sisiseko sonxibelelwano olusempilweni, olusebenzayo phakathi kwabazali nabantwana.
Xa umntu omtsha omtsha engena kobu budlelwane, ushiyeke engekho kwimbali yangaphambili eyenze iqhina lomzali nomntwana. Ngaba kusengqiqweni ukulindela ukuba abantwana bangene ngequbuliso kwindlela yokunxibelelana nomzali nomntwana omtsha nangona kukho lo mahluko mkhulu? Abazali abangabazali abaqala umsebenzi wokukhulisa abantwana ngaphambi kwexesha ngokuqinisekileyo baya kulwa nalo mqobo wendalo.
Ukujongana neengxaki ngombono womntwana
Iingxaki ezininzi ezinxulumene nokuba ngumzali kumzali ongenaxanduva zinokuthintelwa ukuba imicimbi ijongiwe ngokwembono yomntwana. Ukuchasana okuvakala ebantwaneni xa befumana ulwalathiso kumzali omtsha wesibini kuyinto yendalo kwaye kufanelekile. Umzali omtsha womzali akalifumananga ilungelo lokuba ngumzali kubantwana beqabane lakhe. Ukufumana elo lungelo kuya kuthatha iinyanga kunye neminyaka yokunxibelelana kwemihla ngemihla, eziyiziseko zokwakha nabuphi na ubudlelwane. Ixesha elingaphezulu, abazali bomtshato wesibini banokuqala ukwenza ukuthembana, imbeko kunye nobuhlobo obubalulekileyo ekuqinisekiseni ubudlelwane obuqinileyo nobonelisayo.
Imfundiso endala yokuba abantwana kufuneka bathathe isikhokelo okanye uqeqesho kuye nawuphina umntu omdala ngoku sele ishiywe ixesha elide ngokuthanda indlela ehloniphekileyo, nesuka entliziyweni ehambelana namanqanaba okukhula komntu. Abantwana banolwazelelelo kwizinto ezifihlakeleyo zobudlelwane kunye nenqanaba apho iimfuno zabo zifezekiswa khona. Umzali wesibini onovelwano ngokufanayo kwaye onovelwano kwiimfuno zomntwana uya kububona ubunzima bokuba ngumzali ngaphambi kokuba umntwana akulungele.
Thatha ixesha lokwakha ubuhlobo kunye nabantwana abatsha; hlonipha iimvakalelo zabo kwaye unikeze indawo eyoneleyo phakathi kokulindelekileyo kunye nemfuno yokuphendula. Njengomntu omdala ohlala kule meko intsha yosapho, kuphephe ukucinga ukuba abantwana kufuneka balungelelanise ubukho kunye nokukhethwa ngumzali womzali kwimicimbi enxulumene nokukhulisa abantwana. Ngaphandle kokuthatha ixesha elaneleyo ukwakha isiseko solwalamano olutsha, zonke iinzame zokunyanzelisa isikhokelo sabazali kunye nolwakhiwo zinokuchaswa ngabom nangokufanelekileyo.
Abazali bomtshato wesibini kufuneka bazi kakuhle abantwana bamaqabane abo kwaye bakhulise ubuhlobo bokwenyani. Xa obo buhlobo bungasindwa ngumthamo wamandla angengowamandla, bunokutyatyamba kwaye bukhule bube kukuthandana, ukubuyelana. Nje ukuba yenzeke loo nto, abantwana abathandayo ngokwenyani baya kuyamkela loo mizuzu iyimfuneko xa isikhokelo sabazali senzeka xa sinikezelwa ngumzali womzali. Xa oko kufezekisiwe, ukudityaniswa kwenyani kwabazali nabantwana kufezekisiwe.