Umxholo
- Ubomi emva kokuhlaselwa ngokwesondo
- Ukufumana kwakhona ukuxhatshazwa ngokwesondo kunye nokuxhatshazwa
- Musa ukunyanzela umba
- Khululeka ukuxoxa ngalo mbandela
- Yigcine iyimfihlo
- Ukuqesha i-Therapist
Ukudlwengulwa kunye nokwenzakala ngokwesondo kuxhaphake kakhulu kunokuba sonke sikhokelwa ukuba sikholwe.
NgokweZiko leSizwe laseMelika lokufumana ubuNdlobongela obuphathelele kwezesondo, ibhinqa elinye kwabahlanu ladlwengulwa ngaxa lithile ebomini balo. Iya isiba mbi, uphononongo lwe-FBI lubonisa ukuba zine kuphela kumatyala alishumi okudlwengulwa axeliweyo. Lowo ngumntu onomdla ocinga ngokuwukhuphela ngaphandle, kuya kufuneka uyazi ukuba mangaphi na amatyala odlwengulo awenzekayo.
Ukuba akuchazwanga, eli nani alikho.
Kuya kuba yimeko yeklasikhi ongayaziyo ongayaziyo, kodwa iinombolo zomlingo ze-FBI ecaleni, into esiyaziyo ukuba iyenzeka kubantu abaninzi, kwaye uninzi lwamaxhoba ngabasetyhini.
Ubomi emva kokuhlaselwa ngokwesondo
Amaxhoba okonzakala ngokwesondo kunye nokuhlaselwa kunesiphumo esingapheliyo ngokwengqondo.
Kuyinyani ngakumbi ukuba umenzi wobubi ngumntu olixhomekeke kuye ixhoba. Bakhulisa imiba yokuzithemba, i-genophobia, i-erotophobia, kwaye kwezinye iimeko badelela imizimba yabo. Zonke ezi zinto zingasentla zingumqobo kulwalamano olusempilweni nolusenyongweni.
Ukuxhatshazwa ngokwesondo kunokuhlala ubomi bonke, kunokuthintela amaxhoba ekubeni nobudlelwane obunentsingiselo okanye abonakalise abo banabo. Ukoyika kwabo isondo, ukusondelelana, kunye nemicimbi yokuthembana kuya kubenza babande kwaye bakude kumaqabane abo, beqhawule ubudlelwane.
Akuzukuthatha thuba lide ukuba amaqabane abo aqaphele iimpawu zoxinzelelo ngokwesondo ezinje ngokungabikho komdla kwisini kunye nobunzima bokuthemba. Ligcuntswana kuphela eliya kuthi ligqibe njengobungqina bokuhlukumezeka ngokwesondo kunye nokuphathwa gadalala. Uninzi lwabantu luya kuyitolika njengokungabikho komdla kubudlelwane babo. Ukuba ixhoba lomonzakalo ngokwesondo alizimiselanga ukuxoxa ngokudlulileyo ngezizathu ezahlukeneyo, ubudlelwane abunathemba.
Ukuba elinye iqela liyakwazi ukuyiqonda ekuhambeni kwexesha okanye ixhoba libaxelele isizathu sokuba babe neengxaki zokuthembana nokusondelelana, emva koko esi sibini sinokusebenzisana kunye kwaye siphumelele kwiziphumo ezibi zoxinzelelo ngokwesondo.
Ukufumana kwakhona ukuxhatshazwa ngokwesondo kunye nokuxhatshazwa
Ukuba isibini sikwinqanaba ngokubhekisele kwintlungu edlulileyo yesondo, kuya kuba lula ukuba iqabane livelane nezenzo zexhoba.
Nangona kunjalo, ukuphilisa ukwenzakala ngokwesondo okanye ukuxhatshazwa ayingomsebenzi olula. Ukuba isibini sifuna ukuzama ukuzenza ngokwaso ngaphambi kokuya kwingcali Nazi ezinye izinto abanokuzenza ukunciphisa imeko.
Musa ukunyanzela umba
Hayi hayi. Ukuba ixhoba liyala ukuthandana, yeka. Banengxaki yokuxhatshazwa ngokwesondo kuba umntu wanyanzela lo mbandela kwasekuqaleni. Ukuba ufuna ukuba bayigqibe ngenye imini, qiniseka ukuba awubenzi bave amava afanayo nawe.
Amagama amnandi, umtshato, kunye nezinye izizathu ziya kwenza izinto zibe mandundu. Uninzi lwezigulana ezihlukumezekileyo ngokwesondo zaphathwa gadalala ngabantu ababathembileyo. Ukuqhubeka kwenkqubo yakho emva kokwala kuya kubonisa kuphela ukuba uyafana nomenzi wobubi wokuqala.
Oko kuya kubathintela ukuba babe nolwalamano olunentsingiselo kunye nawe, ngonaphakade. Ke sukuyenza loo mpazamo, nokuba kukanye.
Khululeka ukuxoxa ngalo mbandela
Enye yezona mvakalelo ziphambili kumaxhoba okuhlaselwa ngokwesondo kunye nokuxhatshazwa kuluhlazo. Baziva bengcolile, bengcolisiwe, kwaye besetyenziswa. Ukubonisa indelelo kwimeko yabo nokuba kungekho ngqo kungabenza baphinde babuyele kwiqokobhe labo.
Ukuthetha ngayo kunceda inkqubo yokuphilisa. Ixhoba linokuxoxa ngokuzithandela ngelinye ixesha, kodwa ukuba abayenzi loo nto, linda de bakulungele. Kuyenzeka ukuba ugqithe kulo lonke olu vavanyo ngaphandle kokwabelana ngamava abo. Ukuthetha ngayo nomntu abathembayo kwabelana ngomthwalo. Kodwa kukho abantu, kwaye ngekhe ubazi ukuba ngoobani aba bantu, abanokuthi bazigqobhoze ngokwabo.
Ukuba baye bagqiba ukuxoxa ngayo, musa ukugcina isigwebo kwaye uhlala ecaleni neqabane lakho. Kuya kufuneka bazi ukuba ayilotyala labo kwaye konke kwakudala. Kuya kufuneka ubaqinisekise ukuba bakhuselekile ngoku, bakhuselekile, kwaye ngekhe uphinde uvumele into elolo hlobo yenzeke kwakhona
Yigcine iyimfihlo
Ukugcinwa kwemfihlo kubalulekile. Iimeko azinamsebenzi, kodwa ungaze uvumele nabani na ukuba azi malunga nesi sehlo. Sukuyisebenzisa njengesixhobo nakweyiphi na indlela, nokuba ekugqibeleni wohlukana nomntu.
Ukuhamba kunye kunye njengesibini kuya kuyomeleza ukuthembana kwenu kunye nezibophelelo, nokuba iinkcukacha azizange zichazwe.
Sukuvumela into engaziwayo itye kude kwi-subconscious yakho, wonke umntu unexesha elidlulileyo elimnyama, kodwa lidlulileyo.Kodwa ukuba ikwachaphazela ngokuthe ngqo ikamva, yiyo loo nto nina nesibini singasebenza kunye okwangoku.
Ngokuqinisekileyo iya kulonakalisa ubudlelwane, kwaye uninzi lwezibini luya kuba nzima ukujongana neziganeko ezidlulileyo kunye nobunzima obuzisayo ngoku. Ukuhlukumezeka ngokwesondo ayisiyonto incinci, ukuba izinto ziba nzima kakhulu, ungasoloko ufuna uncedo lweengcali.
Ukuqesha i-Therapist
Ukuqhubeka nenkqubo yokuphilisa ukukhathazeka ngokwesondo kunye nokuxhatshazwa njengabantu abathandanayo lukhetho olufanelekileyo.
Kufanele ukuba luhambo ezimbini. Ukushiya ixhoba kuya kuqinisa kuphela imiba yabo yokuthembana. Ukuba nengcali ukukukhokela kuhambo lwakho kwandisa amathuba okuphumelela kunye nokunciphisa umonakalo kubudlelwane obukhoyo ngoku.
Unyango lokwenzakala ngokwesondo oluqhutywa ziingcali lusekwe kwizifundo ezivela kwezinye izigulana ezinengxaki efanayo kule minyaka imbalwa idlulileyo. Esi sibini asizukuphuthaphutha ebumnyameni kwaye siqonde izinto njengoko zihamba. Ingcali iya kuba nesicwangciso esicacileyo esixhaswa zizifundo eziphumeleleyo.
Ukonzakala ngokwesondo ngokwenkcazo luhlobo lwasemva koxinzelelo lwasemva koxinzelelo. Kubonakalisa iimvakalelo zokuziva unetyala, uneentloni, ungancedi, ungazithembi kwaye ulahlekelwe lukholo. Nokuba umonakalo ophilileyo uyanyanga, amaxhala engqondo kunye neemvakalelo ahlala ixesha elide. Into elungileyo kukuphazamiseka okupheleleyo kuyanyangeka ngonyango olululo kunye nothando oluninzi.
Ukuxhasa iqabane lakho ulixhoba ngentliziyo iphela kwaye ukuba bakulungele ukuqhubela phambili nohambo lwabo lokuphilisa nawe, sele lulwalamano olunentsingiselo. Nje ukuba isibini sikwazi ukoyisa uxinzelelo ngokwesondo kunye, iya kuba nentsingiselo ngakumbi kunangaphambili.