Umxholo
Zininzi iintlobo zemiqobo ethintela ukuba ungonwabi. Baqhubeka bezisa phantsi okanye bakukhumbuze malunga nokusilela kwakho kunye nokusilela rhoqo. Kodwa khumbula ukuba le miqobo ayisosigxina. Uninzi lwale miqobo kulonwabo yile nto uzakhele yona kwaye kunokwenzeka ukuba uyihlaziye kwaye uzikhulule kwindlela yolonwabo kunye nokuzithanda.
Sisebenzise kakhulu ukugxeka abanye ngokungonwabi kwethu silibale ukuba akukho mntu unokwenza izinto zibe ngcono okanye zibe zimbi kuthi. Sithi kuphela abalawula yonke into eqhubekayo ebomini bethu. Ubomi buphosa imiceli mngeni kuthi ngalo lonke ixesha; le yinto esingakwaziyo ukuyilawula.
Singalulawula ukonwaba kwethu, kodwa asenzi njalo ngokusekwe kwingcinga ephosakeleyo yokuba le yinto ingekho sezandleni zethu.
Apha ngezantsi, kukho uluhlu lwezithintelo eziqhelekileyo ezikugcina ungonwabanga kwaye ungonqoba njani nganye yazo.
Ukudikwa
Ukudikwa kukwenza ungaziva ungonwabanga.
Ngumqobo ophambili kulonwabo. Kukwenza uzive ukuba awunanto yakwenza kwaye akukho mntu onokonwaba naye. Kukugcina unoluvo lokuba awunamdla ebomini.
Kodwa unokuthatha uxanduva ngokulula kule meko kwaye utshintshe izinto ngokwakho. Into ekufuneka uyenzile kukuphakama uhambe. Thatha uhambo, unike umhlobo umnxeba kwaye ucwangcise ukudibana, okanye ufunde incwadi oyithandayo. Nantoni na ezala ukonwaba, intshisakalo, okanye ukwazi kukhetho olukhulu lokufumana isithukuthezi. Oku kuthetha ukuba unexesha ezandleni zakho lokutyala imali ngokwakho. Gcina ixesha ngeli ukuhlakulela ubudlelwane kunye nawe.
Ukukruquka yimeko yengqondo kwaye ungayitshintsha kuba ungumlawuli wengqondo neengcinga zakho.
Ukuziva iintlungu zengqondo
Sonke siye sajamelana neemeko ebomini ezisichaphazele kanobom.
Asinakulibala ukuba kwenzeka ntoni kwixesha lethu elidlulileyo. Ngamaxesha athile, siyoyika ukonwaba, sisoyika ukuba ukonwaba kwethu kuya kuhlala ixesha elifutshane. Intlungu evela kwixesha elidlulileyo iyakhathaza okwangoku kwaye iyonakalisa ikamva lethu. Ukuba ukhe wanembali enzima neyoyikekayo, kwaye uphantsi kweentlungu zengqondo, mhlawumbi uziva ngathi ulonwabo yimeko ongenakufikelela kuyo. Esi sesona sithintelo siphambili solonwabo.
Nangona kunjalo, unokwenza izinto zibe ngcono. Kuya kufuneka wamkele nantoni na eyenzekileyo kwixesha elidlulileyo kwaye udlule kuyo. Ngethuba nje uhlala uhlala kwimeko yokwenqaba, awuyi kuvuya okwangoku.
Ukuthetha kakubi
Wonke umntu unomgxeki wangaphakathi abathetha naye.
Uthetha nomntu wangaphakathi ngengcebiso kunye nezimvo. Nangona kunjalo, lo mgxeki wangaphakathi angangcungcuthekisi. Abanye abantu, abagxeki bangaphakathi bubukho obubi. Ihlala ibatyhafisa, ibakhuthaza kwaye ibagweba. Ayikhe ibenze bazive bonwabile.
Unokucinga ukuba lo mgxeki ngaphakathi kuwe ungaphaya kolawulo lwakho kodwa hayi, akunjalo. Konke okufuneka ukwenze kukunika lo mntu wangaphakathi ukuba avale umnxeba kwaye uqalise ukuthetha kakuhle nawe. Uya kumangaliswa kukubona umahluko onokwenziwa ngulo ntshukumo. Uya kuqalisa ukuziva ulula kwaye wonwabile ngokuthetha ngokwakho! Khawufan 'ucinge.
Ukuba ubuthandana nomntu, ngaba ubuya kuzama ukuzikrazula ngokungakhathali? Ke kutheni uzenza kuwe?
Ukungayamkeli into elungileyo
Omnye weyona miqobo mikhulu kulonwabo kukungavumi zonke izinto ezilungileyo ebomini.
Ukuba uqhubeka uzithelekisa nabanye, awusoze wonwabe. Ukujonga yonke into abanye abanayo kunye nokusilela ebomini bakho kuya kwenza ubomi bakho bube lusizi.
Ukuze wonwabe ngokwenene, kufuneka uyeke ukuzithelekisa nabanye. Kufuneka uvule amehlo akho kwizinto ezintle onazo ebomini. Akunyanzelekanga ukuba babe zizinto eziphathekayo. Zingaba ubudlelwane obunentsingiselo, impilo entle, okanye umsebenzi ongahlawuli ngokwaneleyo kodwa uyinto oyithandayo!
Ukukhathazeka
Isitshixo sokonwaba kukuyeka ukukhathazeka nokucinga ngokugqithiseleyo.
Ukukhathazeka ngezinto ongenakukwazi ukuzitshintsha akunanjongo. Kutya amandla akho kwaye kukushiye ulusizi kwaye ungonwabanga.
Cinga ngendlela onokonwabela ngayo okwangoku ngokuzeleyo kunokubambelela kumaxhala angenasiseko. Endleleni yokuzithanda, shiya ecaleni amaxhala kwaye uza kubona ukuba uya kuba sempilweni nasemzimbeni.
Ngaba uziva ngathi uvumele le miqobo ingene endleleni yolonwabo lwakho? Yenza isigqibo sokuba wonwabe namhlanje kwaye ube nenkalipho yokoyisa le miqobo kulonwabo ukuze ubone umohluko ozithandayo wedwa ebomini bakho!