Umxholo
- Ngaba kunokwenzeka?
- Iyacetyiswa- Gcina iKhosi yam yoMtshato
- Kutheni le nto ungenako ukuwusindisa wedwa umtshato wakho?
- Ukulungiselela ukungaguquguquki, ukuba umntu omnye akakwazi ukugcina umtshato, okuchaseneyo kufuneka kube yinyani, umntu omnye akanakuwonakalisa umtshato
Umtshato unokuba ngumceli mngeni ngamanye amaxesha kwaye kuthatha umsebenzi omninzi kunye namandla ukugcina umtshato womelele kwaye usempilweni. Abantu abaninzi abatshatileyo ngamanye amaxesha baye bazibuze ukuba ingaba umtshato wabo ungasindiswa na. Zininzi izibini ezitshatileyo eziya ekucebiseni zinalo mbuzo ungqondweni. Nokuba kukwaphuka konxibelelwano, umsitho obalulekileyo ebomini, ukuzalwa komntwana okanye iliso elibhadulayo leqabane lakho, zininzi iziganeko ezinokucela umngeni kwaye zishukumise ngokuthe ngqo isiseko somanyano.
Ukuba uhleli apho, ucinga ngomtshato wakho kwaye uyazibuza ukuba ungawugcina ngokwakho, eli nqaku linokunceda.
Ngaba kunokwenzeka?
Ngaba elinye iqabane linokuwusindisa ngokwalo umtshato? Ukuba elinye iqabane belisebenza ngokwaneleyo, ngaba linga kwanela bobabini abantu emtshatweni? Andithandabuzi ukuba abanye abantu babambe le fantasy, kodwa andikholelwa ukuba inokwenzeka. Ndiwabonile amaqabane azama oku ngaphandle kwento.
Iyacetyiswa- Gcina iKhosi yam yoMtshato
Kutheni le nto ungenako ukuwusindisa wedwa umtshato wakho?
Ewe, impendulo ixhomekeke kuhlobo lomtshato. Umtshato yintsebenziswano, iqela. Ukusebenzisana kufuna unxibelelwano ukuze uphumelele kwaye unxibelelwano luyindlela ezimbini. Ngokuqinisekileyo, iqabane ngalinye linokwenza eyalo indima ukusebenzela ukugcina umtshato wabo, kodwa ekugqibeleni kufuna ukudityaniswa kweenzame zeqabane ngalinye.
Xa ndisebenza nezibini, ndiye ndizifundise kwangethuba ukuba ekuphela kwento abanokulawula kuzo ziinkolelo zabo, iimvakalelo kunye nokuziphatha kwabo. Uninzi lweziphazamiso emtshatweni zivela kwiimfuno ezingekho ngqiqweni kunye neenkolelo ezibambekayo ezingabalulekanga kwaye zingasebenzi. Nokuba isimilo seqabane lakho asisebenzi, usenakho ukubamba iinkolelo ezingekho ngqiqweni malunga nokuziphatha kwabo njengokuthi “BABEKUFANELEkanga bayenze loo nto” kwaye “Kuba bayenzile, KUKUBONISA ukuba abakhathali ngam”.
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Ukulungiselela ukungaguquguquki, ukuba umntu omnye akakwazi ukugcina umtshato, okuchaseneyo kufuneka kube yinyani, umntu omnye akanakuwonakalisa umtshato
Ngoku, abanye benu abafunda le nto inokuba bethetha bodwa, "uthini xa iqabane lakho likuqhatha?". Iqabane elinye ngokuqinisekileyo lingenza into ekuchaphazeleni ubudlelwane, njengokukhohlisa. Kodwa mininzi imitshato esele ihlangulwe, kwaye yenziwa ngcono emva kokuba iqabane likopelile.
Xa elinye iqabane likopela, elinye iqabane linokuba neenkolelo ezahlukeneyo ezikhokela indlela abaziva ngayo kunye nento abayenzayo malunga nemeko. Ukuba iqabane linenkolelo yokuba "Amaqabane AKUFANELE angakopeli, kwaye ukuba ayakwenza oko, AKALUNGI", iimvakalelo zokudakumba, umsindo ongafanelekanga kunye nokwenzakala kuya kulandela. Ukuba ezi mvakalelo zingafunekiyo zenzeka, isimilo esingenampilo siza kwenzeka kwaye amathuba okuba umtshato usinde unciphile.
Ukuba, nangona kunjalo, iqabane linenkolelo yokuba “NDINQWENELELA ukuba iqabane lam lingakhange lenze into, kodwa ayenzi njalo, oko akuthethi ukuba abalunganga, oko kuthetha ukuba BENZE kakubi”. Le nkolelo kunokwenzeka ukuba ivelise iimvakalelo eziphosakeleyo ezinje ngokudabuka, umsindo ophilileyo kunye nosizi. Ezi mvakalelo zempilo ziphosakeleyo ziya kukhokelela kwizenzo ezinemveliso ezinjengokufuna unyango, ukusebenzela uxolelo kunye nokusindisa ubudlelwane.
Ngoku masithi umntu ukholelwa ekubeni KUFUNEKA bakwazi ukuwugcina ngokwabo umtshato. Kunokubakho izinto ezininzi ezingasebenzi kakuhle ukuba eli bango alifikeleli. Ezi zinto zinokuvakala ngathi "sisiphoso sam sonke", "Andilunganga kuba andinakukwazi ukugcina ubudlelwane", "Andizukufumana elinye iqabane", "Ndizimisele ukuba ndedwa". Ukuba umntu uyikholelwa le nto banokuziva beziva bedandathekile, benomsindo okrakra, okanye benetyala kakhulu. Ukuba umntu uziva ngale ndlela, banciphise amathuba okuba bangene kubudlelwane obutsha kwaye banciphe babe semngciphekweni wokuqinisa ukucinga kwabo okungancediyo.
Ukubuyela kumbuzo wokuqala:
"Ngaba kunokwenzeka ukugcina umtshato wakho wedwa?", Ndiza kubambelela nkqi kwinkolelo yokuba ayinakwenzeka
Kungenzeka, nangona kunjalo, ukugcina iinkolelo zakho ngomtshato wakho.
Awunakho ukulawula okwenziwa liqabane lakho okanye elingakwenziyo kodwa ungalawula into ozixelela yona malunga nezinto ezenziwa liqabane lakho okanye elingazenziyo. Ukuba uneenkolelo eziluncedo nezisebenzayo malunga nomtshato wakho, wenza eyakho indima kulwalamano kwaye oko kunika umtshato elona thuba lihle lokusinda.