Umxholo
- Usenokungafani kangako
- Ulwalamano lwakho luya ugwetywe kwaye wabuza
- Unga nyangwa njengomntwana
- Ukudibana namalungu osapho kunokuba nzima
- Ukucwangcisela ikamva akukho lula
Ubudlelwane buka-Meyi-Disemba abuyonto intsha kwihlabathi laseHollywood. Kodwa, kubantu abangazizityebi nabadumileyo, ukuba kubudlelwane obunje kuza nokulwa okuninzi. Nokuba ungoyena mncinci okanye umdala, ukuthandana nendoda okanye umfazi, kuya kubakho imicimbi onokuthi ungene kuyo. Nazi ezinye zeendlela zokujongana nazo eziza kukunceda uqinise ubudlelwane bakho.
Usenokungafani kangako
Ukujonga umohluko kwiminyaka, umdla wakho uyahluka ngokunjalo. Unokuba nobunzima ekukhetheni uhlobo lomculo enilithandayo nobabini ngexesha lokukhwela imoto okanye ukufumana izihloko eninokuthetha ngazo ngelixa nisitya isidlo sakusasa. Oku kunokwenza wena okanye iqabane lakho ukhathazeke ngamanye amaxesha, kodwa eyona nto iphambili kukucinga ngaphandle kwebhokisi. Kuhlala kunezinto eninokuzenza kunye, kufanele ukuba ibekhona into ekutsalile kufutshane kwasekuqaleni.
Ngamanye amagama, gxila kokufana kwaye ungachithi ixesha elininzi ucinga kwaye uphikisana ngomahluko. Kwakhona, musa ukoyika ukudibana nabahlobo babanye kwaye wenze ezintsha kunye. Inokubonelela ngombono owahlukileyo oya kuthi ufumane ukukhuthaza kunye nokunceda uzive uyinxalenye yobomi bomnye nomnye.
Ulwalamano lwakho luya ugwetywe kwaye wabuza
Inye into ecaphukisayo onokuyilindela ukuba yenzeke kukubuzwa zonke iintlobo zemibuzo ekungafunekiyo ukuba ibe yeyeshishini lomntu ngaphandle kweyakho. Abantu bacinga ukuba uhlobo "olungaqhelekanga" lobuhlobo bakho lubanika ilungelo lokubeka izimvo ngalo. Ungayichazanga eyokuba emehlweni abo babukeleyo, yonke ingxaki onokuba nayo, nokuba ingabalulekanga kangakanani, iya kuba sisiphumo somahluko wobudala bakho. Kwakhona, uluntu lusamkelwa kancinci ngabafazi abathandana namadoda amadala kunamadoda athandana nabasetyhini abadala. Ke, ukuba ukwisikhundla esincinci, musa ukumangaliswa xa abantu ngokuzenzekelayo becinga ukuba ukunye neqabane lakho ngenxa yemali.
Into ebalulekileyo kukuba ungavumeli iintetho ezingabalulekanga zifike kuwe. Abantu bakhohlakele kwaye bathambekele ekugwebeni yonke into ephambukayo kwesiqhelo, nokuba incinci. Eyona ndlela yokujongana nezi ntetho kukucinga ngendlela elula nechubekileyo yokuzivalela kwaye uqhubeke ngobomi bakho. Nangona kunjalo, ukuba ezo ntlobo zezimvo zivela kumalungu osapho lwakho, kuya kufuneka uchithe ixesha elithile uchaza ukhetho olwenzileyo. Nangona kunjalo, musa ukuvumela amagama akonzakalise okanye akwenze ubuze ngolwalamano lwakho. Uyazi kutheni uhlala neqabane lakho kwaye kuphela kwento ebalulekileyo.
Unga nyangwa njengomntwana
Ukuba ungoyena mncinci kulwalamano, ngamanye amaxesha unokuziva ngathi iqabane lakho alikuthathi ngokwaneleyo. Banokuba nokulawula kakhulu okanye benze ngokungathi baneempendulo zonke. Izizathu ziyahluka-banokuba nomona ngolutsha lwakho, okanye kusenokubakho imicimbi enzulu ekhoyo. Ukuba baqala ukukujikeleza phambi kwabanye abantu nangona kunjalo, ngokuqinisekileyo iba yingxaki enkulu.
Eyona ndlela yokujongana nale ngxaki kukuthetha. Cacisa ukuba indlela abaziphatha ngayo ikwenza uzive njani, zama ukuqonda izizathu zezenzo zabo kwaye ubone ukuba ungasifumana na isisombululo kunye. Emva kwayo yonke loo nto, ubudala abulingani nokuvuthwa ke into yokuba umncinci kuneqabane lakho ayisosizathu sokuba bakuphathe ngokwahlukileyo kunokuba bebeya kuphatha umntu olingana nabo.
Ukudibana namalungu osapho kunokuba nzima
Ukuba uthandana nendoda endala, ukumazisa kusapho lwakho kunokuba nzima. Amalungu osapho lwakho anokungaqondi kwasekuqaleni, kodwa ungatyhafi. Baza kuza xa bebona indlela enonwabe ngayo kunye. Isithandwa sakho notata wakho banokuba ngabahlobo abasenyongweni njengoko besondele kwiminyaka yabo kuneqabane lakho kunye nawe.
Enye into ebalulekileyo ekufuneka uyikhumbule ayikuthandabuzi. Sukuvumela abazali bakho bacinge ukuba awuqinisekanga malunga nokhetho lwakho okanye oku “sisiqendu nje”. Usenokungakwazi ukubenza babuthabathe ngokungathandabuzekiyo ubudlelwane bakho kwangoko, kodwa ungababonisa ukuba wena uzimisele mpela malunga naloo nto.
Ukucwangcisela ikamva akukho lula
Unokuba ungakhululekanga ukuthetha ngekamva lakho kunye, kodwa iseyingxenye ebalulekileyo yobudlelwane bakho. Omnye wemicimbi emikhulu ngezibini zikaMeyi-Disemba ngabantwana. Kuya kufuneka uxoxe ngokuba uyafuna na. Ukuba omnye wenu sele eyenzile, nokuba ufuna ukufumana ngaphezulu. Ewe kunjalo, into yebhayoloji akufuneki ihoyiwe, ngakumbi ukuba uyazi ukuba iqabane lakho lifuna ukuba nabantwana kwaye awunakho ukuzalisekisa loo mnqweno.
Kuya kufuneka uyamkele into yokuba ukuba ungoyena mncinci kubudlelwane, ngenye imini uya kuba ngumgcini osisigxina weqabane lakho. Ukuhlala kumzuzu kulungile, kodwa akufuneki uyihoye inyani engenakuphepheka yokuba iqabane lakho liya kuhlala likhulile kunawe.
Nangona abantu besithi ubudala linani nje, ukuthandana nomntu omncinci kakhulu okanye omdala kunawe uhlala eza neengxaki ezithile ezithatha umonde kunye nomzamo wokoyisa. Eyona nto iphambili kukuba nguwe wedwa umntu ogqiba ukuba uthandana nabani, ke yiba nokuzithemba malunga nokhetho lwakho, sebenzisana ngemiba kunye, kwaye ukuba nithandana kwaye nihloniphana, ubudala buyakuba yinani nje.
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