Umxholo
- Umgqirha olungileyo akanakuze ayenze loo nto
- Ukubuyisela ubudlelwane kumkhondo
- 1. Imbono
- 2. Uxanduva lomntu
- 3. Ziqhelise
Abantu abaninzi abatshatileyo bayoyika ukucetyiswa ngomtshato. Bayabona njengokuvuma ukoyiswa kunye nokuvuma ukuba kukho into engalunganga kulwalamano lwabo. Oku akusoloko kulula ukujongana nako. Bacinga ukuba xa beqala ukucebisa ngomtshato, ugqirha uya kugqamisa zonke iziphene kubudlelwane kwaye abeke ityala komnye okanye kubo bobabini amaqabane. Oku akubonakali njengenkqubo enomdla.
Umgqirha olungileyo akanakuze ayenze loo nto
Enye yezinto zokuqala endizibuza izibini kwiseshoni yazo yokuqala kukuba "Ungandixelela ibali lendlela odibene ngayo?" Ndibuza lo mbuzo kuba ndifuna ukuba baqale bakhumbule kwaye bathethe malunga nento ebatsalayo komnye nomnye ukuze baqaqambise okuhlala kufihlakele kwimbonakalo ngamaxesha engxabano enkulu. Ngoku baqala ukufumana amandla kwizinto ezintle, nangona zilityaliwe, ubudlelwane babo.
Ndiyabuza kwakhona: “Ukuba umtshato ubuyile ndlela kanye ubufuna ube yiyo kwaye ibiyiseshoni yakho yokugqibela le, ubudlelwane buzobonakala njani? Ungenza ntoni ngokwahlukileyo? ” Isizathu sam soku siphindwe kabini. Okokuqala, ndifuna ukuba baqale ukugxila ngakumbi kwinto abayifunayo kunokuba bangayifuni. Okwesibini, ndifuna ukubanika amandla ngokubabonisa ukuba izenzo zabo zingenza umahluko kubudlelwane.
Ukubuyisela ubudlelwane kumkhondo
Kwiminyaka eliqela eyadlulayo ndaqulunqa indawo yokusebenzela yokulungisa umtshato ndaza ndayibonisa kaninzi ngonyaka. Kulo masifundisane ndifundisa izibini izixhobo ezisebenzayo kunye nobuchule ukubanceda babuyisele ubudlelwane babo kumkhondo. Oku kubandakanya ubuchule bokumamela kunye nonxibelelwano, ukumisela iinjongo kunye neendlela zolawulo lwexesha, kunye nolunye ulwalathiso lobudlelwane. Kodwa, ngaphambi kokuba ndiqalise ukwazisa ezi zakhono, iodolo yokuqala yeshishini kukukhuthaza ezi zibini ukuba zitshintshe indlela yazo yokuziphatha. Lo ayingomsebenzi olula kwaye ufuna utshintsho olukhulu lweparadigm.
Ngamanye amagama uhlengahlengiso kwisimo sengqondo lubalulekile kwisiphumo esiphumelelayo.
Ndicacisa kwizibini zam ukuba isiseko sale nkqubo yotshintsho bayenzayo yingqondo yabo. Kubalulekile kubo ukuba babe nesimo sengqondo esifanelekileyo ukuze kwenzeke utshintsho oluqinisekileyo.
Kukho imigaqo-siseko esisiseko emi-3 eziziibhloko zokwakha kuyo yonke le ngqondo ibalulekileyo.
Ndibabiza ngokuba nguMandla ee-3 P's.
1. Imbono
Ngaba ubomi abukho konke malunga nembono? Ndixelela izibini zam ukuba ndiyakholelwa ukuba ubomi bumbono we-99%. Oko ujolise kuko kuyanda. Ukuba ujolisa kwiimpazamo kwiqabane lakho nakubudlelwane bakho, yiloo nto oya kuyifumana. Kwelinye icala, ukuba ukhetha ukugxila kwiimpawu ezintle yinto oza kuyibona. Ngoku, ndiyaqonda ukuba xa ubudlelwane bunobuzaza bengxabano enkulu, ukungavisisani kuhlala kugubungela kwaye kufihla zonke izinto ezilungileyo. Kungenxa yoko le nto ndikhuthaza izibini zam ukuba zinxibe ii-caps zabo uSherlock Holmes kwaye babe "ngabacuphi bamandla" kubudlelwane babo. Bafuna ukukhangela ngokungapheliyo kunye nokwandisa ezi zinto zilungileyo. Oku kuba kukuphumelela kuba kwinkqubo bafumana ulwaneliseko lokwenza amaqabane abo azive kamnandi, kwaye baya kuthatha inxaxheba ngokupheleleyo kutshintsho oluqinisekileyo olwenzekayo.
2. Uxanduva lomntu
Ndinombhalo ocatshulwe nguGandhi odongeni kwigumbi lam lokulinda ethi: "Yiba lutshintsho onqwenela ukulubona emhlabeni." Ndiyathanda ukukhuphela oku kwiworkshop yam: "Yiba lutshintsho onqwenela ukulubona kubudlelwane bakho." Ndicacisa kwizibini zam ukuba iyavakala ngakumbi into yokuba ujolise kumandla akho axabisekileyo kwinto onokuyenza ukwenza utshintsho olulungileyo kunokuba unqwenele ukuzibuza ukuba iqabane lakho liza kutshintsha nini. Ndiyabakhumbuza ukuba amandla abo alele ekuzimiseleni kwabo ukuba lolu tshintsho bafuna ukulubona kubudlelwane babo.
3. Ziqhelise
Ndifundisa izixhobo kunye nobuchule obuninzi kwindibano yam, kodwa ndixelela izibini zam ukuba ezi zakhono aziyi kubanceda nganto ukuba abazigodusi bazisebenzise. Amaqabane akezi eze kundibona xa efuna uncedo ngesiganeko esizimeleyo. Bangena ukuza kulungisa ukuma okude, imikhwa yokungasebenzi. Kungenxa yokuba siyazi ukuba indlela yokuziphatha eyenziweyo ixesha elide ngokwaneleyo iba yipateni. Ke ukuba uyaziqhelanisa ngokungaguquguqukiyo ekugqibeleni iba ngumkhwa. Ke kufuneka baqale ngokuziphatha okuhle kwaye baziqhelanise nexesha elide ngokwaneleyo ukuze ibe ngumkhwa. Ngoku bakwi "akukho ndawo yengqondo." Baye badibanisa ngempumelelo umkhwa omtsha osempilweni kulwalamano lwabo, kwaye kuye kwaba yinto ezenzekelayo. Oku, ewe, kubandakanya ukuphindaphinda okungaguquguqukiyo kokuziphatha okuhle. Isibini kufuneka siziqhelanise nezinto esizifunayo, hayi esingafuni, de kube le nto siyifunayo ibe yinyani entsha.
Kuphela kusemva kokuba belwamkele ngokupheleleyo olu tshintsho lubonakalayo olunokubakho utshintsho lokwenyani nolungapheliyo.
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