Kufuneka ubenezakhono zobudlelwane ekusombululeni ungquzulwano

Umxholo

• Kufuneka ubenezakhono zobudlelwane ekusombululeni ungquzulwano
• Ifomula yokusombulula ukungqubana: APR
• Amaqabane asombulula umba ngenjongo
• Ifomula yeendlela zonxibelelwano ezifanelekileyo ilula

Kufuneka ubenezakhono zobudlelwane ekusombululeni ungquzulwano

Izakhono ezinxulumene nazo zingundoqo kwimpumelelo yexesha elide, ubudlelwane obusondeleyo buninzi kunxibelelwano oluqinileyo.

Uluhlu lufutshane; ukhetho lokuthanda, amaxabiso asisiseko, unxibelelwano, ukubonakalisa iimvakalelo, ukhetho kunye nemida kunye nokusombulula ungquzulwano.

Wonke umntu "unomsebenzi wokwenza" kwezi. Ke ngawaphi amanyathelo okusombulula ukungavisisani?

Kubalulekile ukukhumbula, sihlala singumsebenzi oqhubekayo. Ke kuyindalo ukuba sibonakale kwaye sizibonele iindawo esinokuthi sikhule kuzo, siphucule, siphucule kwaye ewe sitshintshe.

Ngelixa yonke le micimbi, ubuchule obunxulumene nobugqiba ukuba ubudlelwane buyaphela ngaphambi kokuba "ukufa kusasahlule" yile: Ukusonjululwa kongquzulwano. Akukho mzuzwana ukufutshane kwaye nasi isizathu.

Izibophelelo ezibini ezinxulumene ngokusondeleyo kunye nokuncamathisela ixesha.

Njengokuba unxibelelwano lwabo lusanda, ukusondelelana kwabo kuyanda kuzo zonke iindawo- ngokomoya, ngokwasengqondweni, kumava, ngokweemvakalelo nangokwesondo, baba sesichengeni ngakumbi.

Baziveza ngakumbi nangakumbi iziqu zabo zokwenyani kumaqabane abo.Ngolu kuvezwa kuza umngcipheko; umngcipheko wokwaliwa, ukugwetywa, ukugxekwa, ukungaviwa, ukuqondwa nokuthandwa.

Xa izehlo ezinje ngencoko, umyalezo omfutshane wombhalo, ukungaphangeli, njl.njl.

Umthombo awungeni ndawo.

Umntu othile uthethile into kwaye amagama ahlala phantsi. Bafike bahlala 'kwindawo ethambileyo' kwelinye lamaqabane. Eli qabane liyarhoxa, lizivale, liphendule ngamazwi anomsindo, njl njl.

Imiba ihambisa abantu kude nothando ababelana ngalo.

Imicimbi, yonke imiba, kufuneka isonjululwe ngendlela ebuyisela amaqabane kulolo thando ekwabelwana ngalo olwalukho ngaphambi kokuba umcimbi uvele.

Imicimbi ayinakho 'ukungakhathalelwa' okanye ukuhlengahlengiswa ngo "s / wayengathethi nyani, uyandithanda." Hayi, iimvakalelo zazibandakanyekile, amagama abangela into, elinye iqabane lashenxiswa kude kwaye leyo yinkcazo yomcimbi.

Obu bubuzaza bomcimbi malunga nokusonjululwa kwembambano.

Ukusombulula ungquzulwano yeyona ncoko iqabane lisondeleyo.

Ifuna ukuba izibini ezitshatileyo zisebenze ngokusuka kwinyani yazo yokwenyani, zibeke phantsi iindlela zazo zokukhusela, uloyiko kunye nokunyaniseka.

Jonga kwakhona:

Ifomula yokusombulula ukungqubana: APR

(Inkqubo yedilesi ye-APR isombulula)

Umcimbi ngamnye kufuneka uphendulwe liqabane elixhokonxelwe ekuvakaliseni: kwenzeke ntoni, uthini amagama, ithini impendulo yam, into endiyenzileyo "ngapha".

Oku konke malunga nawe. Akukho 'hlaselo' kubo apha. Kukho ingxelo, ebonisa umcimbi. Amaqabane abo umsebenzi: Mamela. "Mamela" njengakwi "kuva impembelelo 'Ngaphaya'.

Impendulo ekufuneka yenzekile kukwamkela okwenzekileyo phaya ukuphinda unxibelelwano ngokupheleleyo ngaphandle kokubeka ityala, iintloni, ukuziva unetyala, okanye ukuzithethelela.

Okulandelayo, umsitho uqhubekeka ngencoko malunga namava emvakalelo kunye nokubangela,

“Ubusithi, 'Ndinike apha, ndiza kuyenza!' Ndeva ukuba andixatyiswanga. Andizange ndikwazi. Ndandilawulwa, kwakhona. Ndaziva ndingaphantsi. Ivelile kubo bonke ubudlelwane bam bangaphambili kwaye yinto endiyisebenzeleyo kum ”okwexeshana kodwa iseza”.

Iqabane liphendula ngokwazisa ukuqala kunye nefuthe lamagama. Ingxelo yokuqonda okuyinyani; athini amagama / izenzo zabo, ezibangelwe liqabane labo kunye noko baziva, amava abo ngokweemvakalelo.

"Ndiyayifumana. Ndithathe apho ndinotyekelo lokwenza khona. Xa ndenza njalo, awuziboni ukuba ndiyakuxabisa, okanye igalelo lakho kubudlelwane bethu okanye ndiyathemba ukuba ungayenza le nto ndiyaziyo ukuba ayiyiyo leyo.

Ndiyayiqonda into eyenzekileyo, into endiyithethileyo kunye nento ekuzisele yona, phaya. ”

Inqaku elisecaleni kwizicwangciso zokusombulula ungquzulwano: "Ukunyaniseka" kufuna nakuphi na ukukhanyela, ukuzikhusela, ukunqamla, ukugxotha, kunye nezinye iimpendulo zenziwe ishelfu.

Ezi zibulala incoko; akukho nto isonjululwayo.

Amaqabane asombulula umba ngenjongo

Isivumelwano "sokwenza into eyahlukileyo" kwixesha elizayo nini imeko ivela njengoko kwenzekile apha. Kwaye benza i cukukhutshwa kwesi sivumelwano sitsha.

[Ikhutshiwe] “Ndiyazi ukuba uyandixabisa kwaye uyandixhasa. Ndizakusebenza kolu luvo lokungaxatyiswa liqabane lam. Xa 'kukho into eyenzekayo' kwaye leya ndlela indala iqala ukuphakama kum, ndiza kuthatha ikhefu ndikwazise okwenzekayo "ngapha." ‘Gosh busi, xa uthathe indawo kunye nomthengisi, bendinokuqonda ukuba into exabisekileyo endiyisebenzelayo iphinde yavela '. Ndizakuyibamba kwaye ndizibophezele ekukufuneni okanye ukuba ubambe isandla sam, ndiza kusondela, andizukunqamula nje. ”

[Iqabane] “Ndingayenza loo nto! Ndiyayazi eyam indima. Nditsiba phakathi.

Ndiyathatha indawo. Andilibethi ikhefu kwaye ndisebenze nawe.

Ndidinga ukwenza umsebenzi ongcono. Ndiza kuzibophelela ekubeni ndikwazi ngakumbi ukuhambela phambili kuba ndiyayazi impendulo eyenzekayo xa "ndenza le ndiyenzayo." Chwechwa nje, okanye faka isandla sakho epokothweni okanye uhlale ethangeni ufumane ingqalelo yam. Andizukugqibelela kuyo, ibindim ixesha elide, kodwa ndiza kusebenza kuyo. ”

Ezinye iijusi ezenza isondo mhlawumbi ziya kulandela kungekudala kule modeli yokusombulula ungquzulwano (Kukuthatha kwam!)

Injongo yokusombulula ungquzulwano ilula: buyisela ubudlelwane kufutshane nothando amaqabane amabini abelana ngalo.

Ifomula yeendlela zonxibelelwano ezifanelekileyo ilula

1. Idilesi
2. Inkqubo
3. Sombulula

Yenza isivumelwano esitsha kwaye wenze ukuzibophelela ekugcineni isivumelwano.

Iyasebenza. Kuthatha iinzame ezizizo kunye nokwazisa ngabantu bobabini ukuze kwenzeke.

Ukusonjululwa kwembambano, ukusonjululwa kwemiba ejongene nomhlaba, kumisela isiphumo; Ngaba ubudlelwane buya kuzisa uvuyo, ukwaneliseka kunye nokwaneliseka okanye ngaba amaqabane aya kuqhubeka eshenxa kude nothando.