Umxholo
- Ukufunda indlela yokwazi iimpikiswano kubudlelwane kunempilo
- Ukuxoxa ngempilo engenampilo kuxa umntu eqala ukuzikhusela
Ngoku, sonke sinabo bahlobo babo bathi bathandana kakhulu namaqabane abo kangangokuba bengazange baphikisane okanye baphikisane.
Kwaye siyazi ukuba bonke bangamaxoki. Lonke ulwalamano, nokuba lolothando okanye lweplatonic lube nesabelo esifanelekileyo kwizikhala.
Uninzi luthi iqabane lakho othandana nalo okanye iqabane lakho likazi ngcono, nangaphezulu kunabazali bakho okanye abantakwenu. Ngokuvuleka okunjalo kwaye kungekho zimfihlo, kuza izigwebo ezininzi kwaye ndikuxelele-ke, sonke singabantu apha.
Nangona kunjalo, ngokuchasene nenkolelo yeminyaka eliwaka, impikiswano esempilweni ilungele naluphi na ulwalamano, ngakumbi olothando.
Ke, ungazi njani xa iimpikiswano kubudlelwane zisempilweni kwaye xa kungenjalo?
Ukufunda indlela yokwazi iimpikiswano kubudlelwane kunempilo
Okokuqala nokuphambili, impikiswano esempilweni iya kuba nesiphelo kuyo.
Nobabini niya kusinga emvuzweni. Umzekelo: ukuphikisana ngeyona ndawo ingcono yokuthenga indlu? Okanye malunga nohlobo lwesikolo ofuna ukuthumela kuso abantwana bakho? Okanye leliphi icala losapho eliza kutyelela iiholide ezizayo?
Abanye abantu abatshatileyo baphikisana ngesibonelelo samaqabane abo xa iqabane lingaboni kakhulu ukuze libone. Ukwazi isikhokelo sempikiswano yenye yempendulo “kwindlela yokuqonda ukuba iingxoxo kubudlelwane zisempilweni na?”
Impikiswano esempilweni inokubona amazwi ambalwa aphakanyisiweyo, unxunguphalo, okanye ukuthula kangangeeyure / iintsuku ezimbalwa, kodwa ayikuko malunga nokuba nomsindo okanye ukuphulukana nolawulo lomntu kundoqo womcimbi.
Impikiswano esempilweni imalunga neembono ezahlukeneyo okanye ukungavisisani, ungaze ube nomsindo.
Njengoko kukhankanyiwe, ukuzigcina upholile kwaye unomsindo yingxelo yokuba yindoda okanye inenekazi. Uyacaphuka, uyadana, okanye usenokude ubenomsindo, kodwa eyona nto ukhetha ukuyenza ngulo msindo-yeyona nto ibalulekileyo. Ukuqonda xa iingxabano kubudlelwane zisempilweni, kuya kufuneka ujonge indlela oziphatha ngayo, isenzo kunye nokuphendula.
Ngaba ubeka i-ego yakho okanye umsindo wakho kubudlelwane bakho okanye abantu ebomini bakho?
Beka uluvo lweqabane lakho kuqala, kwaye zibeke ezihlangwini zabo. Nichithe ixesha elininzi kunye, kwaye kufuneka olazi iqabane lakho ngcono. Ukuba awukwazi ukuyeka izinto ezimbalwa apha naphaya kwaye ulalanise ke ngaba kukho umahluko phakathi kwakho nabaphi na ababaziyo?
Ukuxoxa ngempilo engenampilo kuxa umntu eqala ukuzikhusela
Ukuba imeko yakho iyatshintsha kwaye uyala ukuba uhloniphe ngokwaneleyo kwanokujonga umbono wenye, ke leyo yeyona flegi ibomvu.
Iimpikiswano ezingenampilo zezo zingenayo injongo yokuphela kuyo. Ke ngoko, banokuqhubeka iintsuku, kunye neenyanga ngexesha. Ulahlekelwa nakho ukumamela iqabane lakho. Awufuni ukubanika imbeko eyoneleyo yokuba bavakalise izimvo zabo okanye izimvo zabo.
Ukuba ufuna ukufunda hKuya kufuneka uqaphele xa iingxabano kubudlelwane zisempilweni, kuya kufuneka ukhumbule ukuhlala unyamezele.
Into ephambili yokucinga malunga nendlela onokunceda ngayo iqabane lakho ukuba libe ngumntu ongcono.
Khumbula, asizalwa sifezekile kwaye asifezekanga. Liqabane lethu elithandanayo elinokusinceda ukuba sibe yinguqulelo yethu-kungoko, umbono weqabane lomphefumlo.
Oko kuthetha ukuba kuya kufuneka usebenze njengeyunithi kwaye. Umzekelo: Ungakwenza njani oko Mna nceda iqabane lam? Yintoni enokuyenza Mna uzenze zibone? Kufuneka Mna backup eli xesha?
Ingxaki ivela xa uqala ukuphambuka kwaye udlale umdlalo wokugxeka; apho igama elithi 'Wena' liphoswa kakhulu endaweni yokuba 'mna'.
Yamkela iimpazamo zakho, wamkele xa uphazamile, kwaye ufunde ukuthatha uxanduva olufanelekileyo nolufanelekileyo.
Yonke ayilahlekanga. Ukuba ufumanisa ukuba uphakathi kwinqanaba lokuphikisana elingenampilo, ungakhathazeki. Usenakho ukujika jikeleze.
Inyathelo lokuqala eliphambili iya kuba kukwamkela ukuba ufuna ukuba iqabane lakho lonwabe- nobabini. Kwaye nokuzama ukufunda indlela yokwazi ukuba iingxoxo kubudlelwane zisempilweni na, luphawu oluqinisekileyo.
Yiba nengxoxo yokuhlala phantsi, kwaye ubeke omnye nomnye phambi kwakho. Akukho mntu ukubuza ukuba ungaze ulwe.
Umlo olungileyo kwaye usempilweni unokuhlala ukhokelela kwi-catharsis, elungileyo kubo bonke abantu. Nangona kunjalo, kubalulekile ukuba ukwazi ukuchonga apho umlo uqhubeka khona ukuze ungonakalisi ubudlelwane kakhulu. Okwangoku, ukutyelelwa kwezibini zonyango kuya kuba kuhle. Umgqirha uya kuba nakho ukukukhokela ukuba ube nengxoxo esempilweni ngokukhuselekileyo nangokufanelekileyo.