Umxholo
- Umdlalo wokugqibela engqondweni
- Iingcamango zibaluleke kakhulu
- Rhoqo umntu udibana nomntu ohambelana nazo zonke iinjongo zabo ngokugqibeleleyo
- Ukudakumba okungapheliyo kwenye yeebhokisi zokuqala ezingakhange zikhethwe
- Ukuthelekisa umntu wokwenyani nomxholo ocinga ukuba ubekho ezingqondweni zabo
Zininzi izizathu zokuba sitshatele umntu esenzayo kodwa uninzi lwayo luye ngexesha elifanelekileyo. Nobabini mhlawumbi benikulungele ukuzibophelela ngokweemvakalelo komnye umntu ngeli xesha ebomini bakho.
Ngaphandle kokuba umntu akulungele ukubandakanyeka kubudlelwane obunzulu, banokuthandana nabantu abaninzi kuphela ukufumanisa ukuba ngamnye uneziphene ezininzi malunga noko ukufunayo.
Umdlalo wokugqibela engqondweni
Xa oku “kukhetha” kwenzeka amaxesha ngamaxesha kunye nomntu othi ujonge iqabane lobomi ngokungathandabuzekiyo, uqala ukuzibuza ukuba abakulungelanga na ukulungelelanisa neenjongo zabo. Ngokwenyani, yonke inkqubo yokuthandana kunye nokukhangela uMnu okanye uNksk.
Uninzi lwabantu lubhekisa kule njengenkqubo kunye nomdlalo wayo wendalo njengo “kusonjululwa” kwaye kuthathwa njengento embi.
Kodwa ngaba yinto embi okanye ukuthoba ulindelo lomntu yinto esengqiqweni esivumela ukuba sikhuphe ngokuthelekisa ukuthanda kwethu umntu othile, sikhethe umntu othile, kwaye sizivumele ukuba sinamathele kulo mntu. Nokuba siyakuqonda oko okanye akunjalo sithandana noluhlu lweenjongo ezingqondweni zethu esizama ukuzidibanisa.
Iingcamango zibaluleke kakhulu
Ibhinqa eliselula elalisandul 'ukuthandana, lathi kum, “Uzikrobile zonke iibhokisi!” Waziva enethemba kwaye enomdla ngaye.
Eminye imizekelo yeenjongo ezibaluleke ngokwenene kukutsala komntu kunye nokuba nezinto ezifanayo kwimvelaphi nokuba zezenkcubeko, ezenkolo okanye ezentlalo.
Umdla oqhelekileyo kunye nokuthandeka ngokubanzi kuhlala kubonwa njengeempawu abantu abazijongayo.
Abanye abantu banyanzelisa inqanaba elithile lemfundo, okanye impumelelo yezemali kwaye abanye bafuna ukubona uburharha kwiqabane labo elizayo.
Rhoqo umntu udibana nomntu ohambelana nazo zonke iinjongo zabo ngokugqibeleleyo
Ngelixa kungekho nzima ukufumana umntu owanelisa ezinye okanye uninzi lwezi ndidi, kunqabile ukuba umntu ahlangane nomntu olingana nazo zonke iinjongo zabo ngokugqibeleleyo. Kwaye uninzi lwabantu luya phambili kunye nolwalamano kwaye bafunda ukulungelelanisa, okanye basebenze ngokujikeleza izinto ezingangqinelaniyo ngokugqibeleleyo.
Ke, ngaba oku kuncitshiswa kwemigangatho kabani ngumzekelo "wokuzinza" okanye kukuba bhetyebhetye kwaye kube sengqiqweni? Kwaye kulapho ixesha lifika khona. Abantu abadibene nomntu ojonga uninzi lweebhokisi, bahlala bevumela ukuba iibhokisi zabo ezifanelekileyo zingaqwalaselwa.
Ngaba oko kuthetha ukuba bahlala kwinto eyayingeyiyo eyona nto bayifunayo okanye bafumanise ukuba banelisekile ngumntu kumanqanaba amaninzi nangona zonke iibhokisi zazingakhange zihlolwe. Kwaye mhlawumbi bafumene iimpawu ezithile abonwabileyo abangakhange bazilindele okanye bacinga ukuba bangazibandakanya kuludwe lweempawu zabo.
Kumsebenzi wam nezibini ezinengxaki enye yeemvakalelo zokuqala endidibana nazo yimvakalelo yokuphoxeka umntu ngamnye anayo malunga nenye. Nokuba ulwalamano oluninzi lusebenza kakuhle kwaye luyanelisa, kusekho le mvakalelo imbi njengelifu elingwevu elixhonywe kuthi egumbini.
Ukudakumba okungapheliyo kwenye yeebhokisi zokuqala ezingakhange zikhethwe
Xa ndiqala ukukhupha into engasebenziyo kubudlelwane babo ndifumana ukukhathazeka okungapheliyo kwenye yeebhokisi zokuqala ezingakhange zikhethwe. Olu luvo oluzinzileyo lokulahleka umntu angakhange alusizi ngokupheleleyo kwaye aluyeke. Banethemba lokubona iqabane labo ekugqibeleni lijonga le bhokisi ingenanto ukuze bazive bazalisekisiwe ngokwenyani.
Kubalulekile ukuba uqaphele ukuba akukho namnye owakhe wayichaza ngolu hlobo. Abaqondi nokuba yingxaki le. Ezi zizibini ezithandanayo zodwa zibonakala zincinci. Kodwa eyona nto iphambili kwezi ndawo zixabeneyo kunye neengxoxo kukudana.
Bahlala besithi bebengalindelanga ukuba umtshato ubenze bazive ngolu hlobo. Baziva bedimazekile, ngamanye amaxesha bevalelekile, kwaye bade “baphuke” njengesibini.
Nangona le ayisiyiyo kuphela ingxaki kubudlelwane babo, okanye eyona ngxaki inkulu iyongeza kwiimvakalelo ezingapheliyo zokudakumba komnye nomnye.
Ukuthelekisa umntu wokwenyani nomxholo ocinga ukuba ubekho ezingqondweni zabo
Xa befuna unyango lweZibini ezitshatileyo kwaye olu luvo lokuphoxeka ngenxa yento ubani ayifumeneyo kunaleyo ebehlala eyifuna kwaye ekholelwa ukuba baya kuyifumana, kukho imvakalelo yokukhululeka eza kubo.
Baqala ukuqonda ukuba bathelekisa umntu wokwenyani nomxholo ocinga ukuba ubukho ezingqondweni zabo iminyaka. Ukuqonda oku kunika indlela eya phambili. Ke, hayi abatshatanga nomntu ongalunganga emva kwayo yonke loo nto. Abazange nje bayeke ukulindela kwabo.