Phelisa iingxaki zobudlelwane emtshatweni wakho

Umxholo

• 1. Zithobe ngokwakho
• 2. Ziqhelanise nokuxhonywa kwakho ngokwesondo
• 3. Thatha ngaphandle kwegumbi lokulala
• 4. Yenza ixesha lokusondelelana
• 5. Xuba izinto
• Ungalugcina njani ulwalamano ngaphandle kwesondo

Xa kuvela iingxaki kwigumbi lokulala, umtshato wakho uphela unokuziva ungonwabanga. Iingxaki zobudlelwane zingangena kuwo nawuphi na umtshato kwaye zonakalise ulwaneliseko kubudlelwane.

Ngelishwa, ukuba iingxaki zomtshato ezisondeleyo ziyaqhubeka, zinokuwonakalisa umtshato. Ukubuyisa okanye ukuphucula ukusondelelana kunokwenzeka kodwa kufuna umsebenzi omncinci kuwe kunye nobudlelwane.

Kufuneka wenze ntoni malunga neengxaki zokuthandana emtshatweni?

Ngomonde omncinci, unokuziphelisa iingxaki zobudlelwane emtshatweni wakho.

Kubalulekile ukuba uqonde kuqala amanqanaba okusondelelana owabelana nawo neqabane lakho, ukuqonda iziphumo ezikhanyayo zokungabikho kobuhlobo kubudlelwane kunye nokwenza umzamo oqinisekileyo wokubuyisela ukusondelelana emtshatweni.

Nika ezi ngcebiso zilandelayo ukuba ufuna ingcebiso malunga nokukhula kobuhlobo emtshatweni kwaye ufuna ukujika ukuswela ukusondelelana emtshatweni, entloko.

Nantsi indlela yokulungisa iingxaki zobudlelwane emtshatweni

1. Zithobe ngokwakho

Kukwimeko yomfazi ukubeka wonke umntu nayo yonke enye into kuqala, uhlala elibala ngaye. Thatha ixesha lokukhulisa umphefumlo wakho kwaye wenze izinto ozithandayo.

Ukuthatha ixesha lakho kukhulisa ukuzithemba nokuzithemba, nto leyo eya kuba nomtsalane kumyeni wakho.

Yiba ngumntu okhutheleyo, nxiba iimpahla ezikwenza uzive unomtsalane, kwaye ubeke ixesha elithile lokuphumla ukuze ube yeyona nguqulelo ilungileyo unokuzenzela yona kunye naye.

2. Ziqhelanise nokuxhonywa kwakho ngokwesondo

Ukuxhonywa ngokwesondo ekukhuleni kwakho kunokwenza ukuba ukusondelana kube nzima. Ngokwakha ubudlelwane obusondeleyo kubalulekile ukuba uphume kwigobolondo lakho lokwabelana ngesondo kwaye uzonwabele ngokwabelana ngesondo.

Abafazi abaninzi kakhulu bakhuliswe ukuba babone isondo "njengamdaka". Ukuba iimvakalelo zokuziva uneentloni okanye ukuziva unetyala ziya kuthintela ukuba ube nakho ukusondelelana, kuya kufuneka usebenze kule micimbi.

Ukusondelelana yinxalenye ebalulekileyo yomtshato kwaye kufanelekile ukuba ukwamkele. Ukuthetha nonyango sisiqalo esihle sokulungisa iingxaki zobudlelwane. Thetha ngokuphandle ngeminqweno yakho. Ukusondelana okwenyani kuvela ekuvulekeni ngokupheleleyo nasekunyanisekeni neqabane lakho. Ukukwazi ukuthetha ngesondo kunye neminqweno yakho kunokukusondeza kunye kunye nokwandisa ukuvusa.

Ikwavula indlela yokwabelana ngesondo ngcono kwaye ifundise ngamnye kuni ngakumbi malunga nokufunwa ngomnye umntu kwaye ekonwabelayo. Ukuba uneentloni ngokuthetha ngesondo okanye awuqinisekanga ukuba uza kuyizisa njani; Ukwabelana ngewebhusayithi efana nale kunye naye kunokubonelela ngokutsiba okuhle kwinqanaba.

3. Thatha ngaphandle kwegumbi lokulala

Ukusondelelana kungaphezulu nje kwesenzo sesondo.

Unako ukuphucula ukusondelana ngokomzimba nangokweemvakalelo ngokubonisa uthando lwakho ngaphandle kwegumbi lokulala. Cuddle esofeni ngelixa ubukele umabonakude, ungqiyame kufutshane uze umchukumise njengoko nithetha ngesidlo sakusasa, okanye ukulibala ukwanga ixesha elide xa umbona ekuseni.

Unokwenza ulwalamano olusenyongweni ngokwenza nje uqhakamshelwano imini yonke, ke sebenzisa ithuba ngalinye lokunxibelelana.

4. Yenza ixesha lokusondelelana

Ewe ubomi bunokuxakeka kwaye iishedyuli zethu zixakekile, kodwa ukungakwenzi ukusondelelana kube yeyona nto iphambili kunokukhokelela ekutshatyalalisweni komtshato wakho.

Ukwenza ixesha lokunxibelelana ngokusondeleyo nomyeni wakho kubalulekile kuni nobabini ukuba nifuna ukoyisa iingxaki zokusondelelana.

Ngokubeka isondo kwisitovu esingasemva, awubeki emngciphekweni wokuqhekeka kuphela, kodwa uyamtyhalela kude ngokunika umbono wokuba akangoyena uphambili.

Beka abantwana ebhedini kwangethuba, ulibale ukuhlala ubukele umboniso, okanye umake kwikhalenda yakho — nokuba yintoni eyonwabisayo ukusondela.

5. Xuba izinto

Ukwabelana ngesondo kunokuba yinto eqhelekileyo xa ukhe waba nomntu okwethutyana. Ubomi besondo obungafezekanga bunokukhokelela kubudlelwane obusondeleyo kunye neengxaki zomtshato, ushiye omnye okanye bobabini baziva benesithukuthezi okanye bengafuneki. Ukuhlala emtshatweni ngaphandle kobuhlobo kungakhokelela kumjikelo wobubi wokunganqabiseki kunye nokungonwabi.

Gcina izinto ezinomdla ngokuzama izinto ezintsha ngaphakathi nangaphandle kwegumbi lokulala, kwaye iingxaki zokusondelelana ziya kuba yinto yexesha elidlulileyo.

Utshintsho kwinkqubo yesiqhelo kwakanye kwinto edla ngokwanele ukuba iphinde ibe yintlantsi. Zama ukunxiba iimpahla zangaphantsi ezintsha okanye ukuhlamba kunye njengesiqalo.

Ungavumeli ishishini lobomi lingene kwindlela yokubonisa uthando lwakho kwaye wonwabele kwigumbi lokulala. Ukungabikho kobudlelwane obusondeleyo kwi-buzzkill yokugqibela kulwalamano lolonwabo kunye nokuzaliseka.

Gcina ixesha lakho nolwalamano lwakho, kwaye wenze konke okusemandleni ukugcina uthando kunye nolonwabo luphila emtshatweni wakho.

Sukuvumela ubudlelwane ngaphandle kobuhlobo buphazamise ulonwabo lwakho lomtshato.

Ungalugcina njani ulwalamano ngaphandle kwesondo

Akukho buhlobo emtshatweni bunokuthi buthathaka ubudlelwane bomtshato phakathi kwesibini.

Umtshato ngaphandle kobuhlobo kubandakanya ukungabikho konxibelelwano phakathi kwamaqabane, ukungoneliseki kubudlelwane kunye nenzondo ngenxa yeemfuno ezingafunekiyo zomzimba.

Nangona kunjalo ngamanye amaxesha ngenxa yokuzalwa komntwana, ukuphazamiseka kwesini, ukungasebenzi kakuhle kwe-erectile, kunye nezinye iimeko zonyango okanye ezengqondo, isondo alinakwenzeka.

Zininzi iindlela zokuzilolonga emtshatweni kunokuba zikuncede ukonwabele ukusondelelana ngaphandle komtshato.

• Bambana ngezandla ukonwabela ukuqhubeka nokuziva usondelene neqabane lakho, kwanasemva kweminyaka yokuhlala kunye.
• Bandakanya ixesha elongeziweyo lokuncanca njengoko sisiqinisekiso esisebenzayo sokwenza wena kunye neqabane lakho nive kwangoko nangoko ukuba nisondelelene.
• Phuhlisa umdla omtsha okanye kwizinto ozithandayo kwaye kungekudala uza kuyifumana le misebenzi ivuselela ingqondo ivula iindlela zeencoko ezintsha zemihla ngemihla.
• Phinda wenze umhla wakho wokuqala okanye ukhumbule malunga nale mihla yokuqala kunye nee-anecdotes zokuvuselela i-spark efanayo owawunakho ekuqaleni kobudlelwane.
• Ukuba ungumfazi, Qonda ukuba yintoni ebangela ukuba indoda idibane nomntu obhinqileyo. Qala nge ukuba ngowasetyhini ujikeleze umntu wakho, ukumamela ngovelwano kwaye ngaphandle kokuphazamisa, Ukubonisa ukuzithemba kwakho kubuchule bakhe kwaye ukubandakanyeka kwimidla yakhe.
• Ukuba uyindoda, Qonda ukuba yintoni ebangela ukuba umfazi azimanye nendoda. Sebenzela ekwakheni iimpawu ezintle zobuntu njengokuhlala ulungile, unyanisekile, unebhongo, uyazithemba kwaye ube ngumntu ngubani onokumhlekisa.

Kukwacetyiswa ukuba unxibelelane nengcali yezesondo ethembekileyo enokukunceda ekulweni ukungabikho kobuhlobo emtshatweni ngezixhobo ezinje ngeziqhelana nezihlobo, kunye neengcebiso ezisebenzayo zokucombulula iingxaki zomtshato. Ngokuthatha isishwankathelo semicimbi yokusondelelana emtshatweni ungathatha amanyathelo okulungisa ukuphucula ukusondelana emtshatweni kunye nokuvuselela ukuthanda kwakho kubudlelwane bakho.