Umxholo
- Ungenza ntoni xa umntwana wakho egrogrisa ukubaleka?
- Nxibelelana nomntwana wakho
- Fundisa izakhono zokusombulula iingxaki
- Yenza imeko entle
- Bacinga ukuba oko kuya kuqhekeza ubudlelwane ukuya kuthi ga kwimeko yokulungiswa
Kuqikelelwa ukuba nangaliphi na ixesha, kukho abantu abakwishumi elivisayo abaphakathi kwesigidi esinye nesithathu e-United States abachazwa njengabaleka okanye bengenamakhaya. Zininzi izizathu zokubaleka ekhaya. Iziphumo zokubaleka zibi. Kubalulekile ukuba abazali baqonde oonobangela kunye nefuthe lokubaleka ekhaya.
Inani elothusayo elihlala lingaqapheleki kwelona lizwe lityebileyo emhlabeni, kodwa ekufuneka ilungiswe rhoqo nangakumbi kwaye inomdla ngakumbi kwiinkalo ezithile zoluntu.
Ngomsebenzi wokunyanzeliswa komthetho kunye neenkampani zabucala zophando, uninzi lwaba bantwana lubuyiselwa ekhaya kwiintsapho zabo minyaka le. Kodwa ngaphandle kokuba oyena nobangela wokuba kutheni bemkile kwasekuqaleni kuphendulwe, ezi ntlobo zemicimbi ziya kuqhubeka zisenzeka amaxesha ngamaxesha.
“Ayiqheleki into yokuba ulutsha lubaleke ngaphezulu kokukhula, siye sabona abazali bezama ukufikelela kuthi izihlandlo ezininzi becela uncedo lokufumana unyana okanye intombi yabo,” utshilo uHenry Mota, umcuphi wabucala onelayisensi eTexas.
Ungenza ntoni xa umntwana wakho egrogrisa ukubaleka?
Kubalulekile ukuba uqale uqonde ukuba kutheni kuvela imiba ebalekayo kwasekuqaleni.
Kukho izizathu ezininzi zokuba ulutsha lubaleke ekhaya, uninzi lwazo lubangelwa kukufika kwamaqonga amajelo onxibelelwano afana neTwitter kunye neSpapchat evumela abaxhaphazi kwi-Intanethi ukuba batsale abantwana kude nezangqa zabo zenkxaso. Nangona kunjalo, kwinqanaba elinomdla njengakwishumi elivisayo, kunzima ukuqonda iziphumo zokubaleka.
Ezinye izizathu zokuziphatha okubalekayo kubandakanya ukuxhatshazwa ngokwasemzimbeni nangokwasekhaya ekhaya, ukusetyenziswa kweziyobisi, ukungazinzi kwengqondo okanye ukugula kunye nolwaphulo mthetho.
Eyona ndlela ilungileyo yokuba abazali bajongane nemicimbi yokubaleka kulutsha kukujongana ngqo nengxaki ngaphambi kokuba ifike kwinqanaba apho umntwana efuna khona iindlela zokushiya ikhaya ngokwasemzimbeni.
Kodwa yintoni enokwenziwa ngabazali, xa kubonakala ngathi banomntwana ojonge esihogweni ekujikeni umva wokuba umva wabo ujikile? Ngokwendlela yokuziphatha yabantwana kunye namaqela enkxaso kwi-Intanethi afana nokuXhobisa abazali kukho izinto nawuphi na umzali anokuzama ngaphambi kokuba ufike kwinqanaba apho amapolisa kunye / okanye iinkonzo zophando zabucala kufuneka zibizwe.
Nxibelelana nomntwana wakho
Unokucinga ukuba unxibelelwano sele lomelele phakathi kwakho nomntwana wakho, kodwa ungothuka xa bebaninzi abazali abanezimvo ezahlukileyo kwezabo. Thatha lonke ithuba onokungena ngalo nomntwana wakho, nokuba ubuza nje ukuba lunjani usuku lwabo okanye bangathanda ukutya ntoni isidlo sangokuhlwa.
Kunkqonkqoza kumnyango wabo wokulala xa udlula, ukuze bazi ukuba ukhona ukuba ikhona into abangathanda ukuthetha ngayo. Kwaye qiniseka ukuba uyafumaneka xa ithuba livela, nokuba unokwenza ntoni. Ukuba bafuna ukuthetha, yeka yonke into kwaye ube nencoko leyo.
Fundisa izakhono zokusombulula iingxaki
Esinye sezona zakhono zibalulekileyo onokuthi usinike umntwana wakho yindlela yokusombulula iingxaki eyedwa. Emva kwayo yonke loo nto, awuyi kubakho ngonaphakade ukwenza izigqibo zabo, kwaye abayi kufuna ukuba ubekho.
Ukuba umntwana wakho unengxaki, mkhuthaze ukuba acinge ngeendlela ezinokuthi zisombululwe kunye / okanye kusonjululwe ngazo. Ukubaleka akusiso isisombululo, ke hlalani phantsi kunye nicinge ngeendlela zokujongana nemeko ekhoyo ngendlela enengqiqo neyakhayo.
Kwaye xa ingxaki isonjululwe, qiniseka ukuba unika inkuthazo kangangoko unako. Nika ingxelo eyakhayo kwaye ukhuthaze ngakumbi olu hlobo lokwenza izigqibo ukuya phambili.
Yenza imeko entle
Uyazi ukuba uyamthanda umntwana wakho ngaphandle kwemiqathango, kodwa ngaba unyana okanye intombi yakho iyayazi loo nto?
Ngaba ubaxelela yonke imihla ukuba uyabathanda kwaye zezona zinto zilungileyo zakha zenzeka kuwe?
Nokuba abantwana abafikisayo bathi abafuni ukuyiva le nto kubazali babo rhoqo, ezantsi kubalulekile ukuba bayive kwaye bazi entliziyweni ukuba iyinyani.
Qiniseka ukuba umntwana wakho uyazi ukuba uza kubathanda nokuba enze ntoni na ngaphambili, okanye nakwixa elizayo. Bakhuthaze ukuba beze kuwe neengxaki, nokuba zinkulu kangakanani okanye zincinci kangakanani.
Bacinga ukuba oko kuya kuqhekeza ubudlelwane ukuya kuthi ga kwimeko yokulungiswa
Uninzi lwabantwana luyabaleka emakhaya kuba bajongana nemicimbi abanentloni ngayo okanye baneentloni zokuthetha nabazali babo, kwaye bacinga ukuba oko kuya kuqhekeza ubudlelwane kude kube kungalungiseki.
Qiniseka ukuba bayazi ukuba oku akunjalo kwaye banokuza nantoni na kuwe. Kwaye xa bekuxelela iindaba ongafuniyo ukuziva, thatha umoya kwaye ujongane nazo kunye nomntwana wakho.
Asitsho ukuba ezi ngcebiso zingasentla ziya kusombulula yonke imiba yakho yosapho okanye imiba yokubaleka, kodwa ukumilisela olu hlobo lokuziphatha ngokuqinisekileyo kungahamba indlela ende ukuba ujongene nomntwana okwishumi elivisayo oqubisana nezinto angaziqhelanga ukuzilungisa. Yiba khona ubenzele kwaye uphulaphule ngokwenene oko kusengqondweni yabo. Ngethemba, konke okunye kuya kuzikhathalela.