Umxholo
- Makhe sifumane ikofu kuqala
- Masenze izinto ngendlela efanelekileyo
- Masenze isivumelwano
- Ucebisa ntoni
- Makhe sixoxe ngale nto kwenye indawo
- Uxolo
- Makhe sithethe ngento esiza kuyenza ukusukela ngoku
- Masithathe inyathelo eliya emva kwaye sithethe ngale nto ngomso
Iimbambano kunye neempikiswano ziya kwenzeka nakweyiphi na ubudlelwane. OUnxibelelwano lwepeni luyakhuthazwa kulo naluphi na ubudlelwane, kodwa iingxoxo azihlali ziyinxalenye yonxibelelwano oluvulekileyo.
Inokukhawuleza ivele ibe kukugqabhuka kweemvakalelo, kwaye abantu banokuthetha izinto abanokuzisola ngazo. Inokuphela ingumqhudelwano odaka udaka, iphinde ivule amanxeba amadala, kwaye okubi kakhulu, inokuphelela kubundlobongela emzimbeni.
Maninzi amabinzana asempilweni okuthintela iingxabano kubudlelwane. La mabinzana anokunceda ukuguqula impikiswano ibe lunxibelelwano olwakhayo kwaye ugcine "njengentetho" kwaye kuthintele ukuba kungabi "ngumlo."
Makhe sifumane ikofu kuqala
Ikofu eshushu inokuvakala ngathi yinto embi ukuba nayo ngexesha lengxabano, kodwa abantu abaninzi bayazola ngayo. Akunyanzelekanga ukuba ibe yikofu; Kungangobhiya, i-ayisikhrim, okanye nokuba yiglasi yamanzi abandayo.
Ikhefu elifutshane lokucoca intloko kwaye ubuyisele izinto endaweni yazo. Ingayiphelisa ingxabano kwaye iyithintele ekubeni ibe ngumlo omkhulu.
Masenze izinto ngendlela efanelekileyo
Ukuthetha ngeembono, iimilo ezininzi ziqala kwizinto ezincinci ezingezizo ezona zinto zibalulekileyo kwisikimu esikhulu sezinto.
Rhoqo ulibala ukubeka isihlalo sangasese, ukuchitha iiyure ezimbini ulungiselela usuku, ukutya iqhekeza lokugqibela lekhekhe, izinto ezinje ziyacaphukisa kwaye zinokwakha intiyo ekuhambeni kwexesha.
Kodwa kwisikimu esikhulu sezinto, kufanelekile ukuba ulwe kakhulu neqabane lakho ngaphezulu?
Abantu abaqolileyo bafunda ukuhlala nayo. Kukungafezeki okuncinci emntwini okubonisa indlela iqabane labo elibathanda ngokwenene.
Imikhwa emibi ithatha ixesha elide ukuyilungisa, kodwa amaxesha ngamaxesha kunoko ayisoze ihlale nomntu ngonaphakade. Kungalula kuwe neqabane lakho ukuziqengqa nayo kunokufundisa ihagu ukucula.
Ngaphandle koko, ukuba uyamthanda umntu, akufuneki ukhathalele ukuba bahlala besitya imfihlo yakho yasentlango.
Masenze isivumelwano
Iimpikiswano zihlala zithetha ukuba into ayonelisi kwelinye iqela kwaye ijongene neqabane labo malunga nayo ukufumana isisombululo.
Elinye lamabinzana asempilweni okuthintela iimpikiswano kubudlelwane kukubonisa ukuba ukulungele ukulalanisa.
Khangela izinto esivumelana ngazo kwaye nixoxe lo mba ngokufanelekileyo.
Ngaphandle kokucacileyo, kunzima ukunika ingcebiso yokwenyani malunga nento oza kuyithetha. Nangona kunjalo, ukuqala ngokuthi "masenze isivumelwano" kuya kulithoba iqabane lakho ukuba licinge ukuba uzimisele ukumamela icala labo kwaye nenze ukulungelelana.
Ekugqibeleni, kuya kufuneka uyenze loo nto, umamele, kwaye ulungelelanise, ungalibali ukusebenzisa eli thuba ukufumana into oyifunayo ekugqibeleni.
Ucebisa ntoni
Ukuthetha ngokulungelelanisa, ngokucacileyo ukuba uzimisele ukuyenza ngaphandle kokuzibophelela kuyo (kuba ibango lingenangqondo) linokulizolisa iqabane lakho.
Ukumamela iingcebiso zabo kungakhokelela kugxeka olwakhayo kunye nokuphucula wena kunye nolwalamano lwakho luphela.
Emva kokuba umamele izinto ezibaxhalabisayo, musa ukoyika ukuphendula ngezimvo zakho uzolile.
Kuya kufuneka kubekho isizathu sokuba inyani yahlukile kwilizwe elifanelekileyo. Ke bekani amakhadi enu etafileni kwaye niwasebenzise kunye njengesibini.
Makhe sixoxe ngale nto kwenye indawo
Iimpikiswano zinokwenzeka naphina, nanini na. Uninzi lwazo alusombululwanga kuba lwenzeke kwindawo engalunganga kwingxoxo yabantu abadala.
Ukuhamba kancinci ukuya kwivenkile yekofu ethuleyo okanye kwigumbi lokulala kunokucoca umoya kwaye kugcine incoko yabucala.
Ukungenelela komntu wesithathu kuyacaphukisa kwaye kunokuxhaphaza iqabane elinye kwikona kwaye inokubakhokelela ekulweni. Ukuba oko kuyenzeka, kuya kuba lula ngengxoxo elula ukuba ibe ngumlo omkhulu.
Kunzima kakhulu ukufumana kwakhona. Amabinzana asempilweni okuthintela iingxoxo kubudlelwane obufana nale ingagcina iincoko zikhulile, zilungile kwaye ziyimfihlo.
Uxolo
Asinakuba noluhlu lwamabinzana asempilweni okuthintela iimpikiswano kubudlelwane ngaphandle kwale. Kukho amaxesha apho Uxolo kwaye uthathe ukubetha, nokuba ayilotyala lakho, Uya kuwuphelisa umlo ngoko nangoko.
Kuyinyani ngakumbi ukuba yimpazamo yakho. Kodwa nokuba ayisiyiyo, ayisiyonto inkulu yokuthatha iqela kwaye ulithobe ikratshi lakho ukugcina uxolo.
Ukuba yinto enkulu kwaye ayilotyala lakho, ungasoloko usithi, "Uxolo, kodwa ..." iyakuqala incoko necala lakho lingabonakali libuthathaka kwaye ligcina iqabane lakho lingazikhusele kwaye livule ingxoxo efanelekileyo.
Makhe sithethe ngento esiza kuyenza ukusukela ngoku
Ingavakala ngathi le yenye yeenguqulelo zokulalanisa kwaye, kodwa oku kusetyenziswe kakuhle xa impikiswano ijika ibe kukukhomba ngomnwe kunye nokufumana iimpazamo.
Lelinye lamabinzana asempilweni okuthintela iingxabano kubudlelwane kuba usebenzisa eli binzana xa wena neqabane lakho niphendukela kumdlalo wokubeka ityala endaweni yokufumana izisombululo.
Khumbula ukuba nokuba ngubani onetyala, zama ukufumana indlela yokuphuma kule ngxaki sikuyo ngoku.
Masithathe inyathelo eliya emva kwaye sithethe ngale nto ngomso
Xa konke okunye kusilele, emva koko kunokuba yimfuneko ukuba ushiye ikhefu. Ngamanye amaxesha ingxaki yokusombulula ngokwendalo; ngamanye amaxesha, esi sibini siyakulibala ngayo.
Nokuba kwenzeka ntoni, ukumisa impikiswano ngaphambi kokuba ibe mbi ngamanye amaxesha kuphela kwendlela yokwenza isenzo.
Esi sisisombululo sokugqibela, kwaye ukusebenzisa eli binzana kakhulu kuya kuphula ukuthembana kunye nokwakha imiqobo yonxibelelwano kubudlelwane.
Eli binzana likrele elintlangothi-mbini; inokuthintela ingxabano kwaye imise izibini ekuthetheni izinto ezinokuzisola ngazo kwaye zaphule iziseko zobudlelwane kanye apho.
Bububi obuncinci kwaye buthathelwa ingqalelo njengelinye lamabinzana asempilweni okuthintela iimpikiswano kubudlelwane.