Umxholo
- Inyathelo 1: Cwangcisa!
- Inyathelo 2: Khetha uxolo
- Inyathelo 3: Zinyamekele
- Inyathelo 4: Qala ukuzilungiselela
- Inyathelo 5: Sebenza ngoqhawulo mtshato NEqabane lakho
Akululanga ukuya kuqhawulo-mtshato okanye ukwahlukana ngokwasemthethweni- yinto enzima kwaye inzima kubo bobabini abatshatileyo.
Abasetyhini bahlala bekwazi ukuzibonakalisa ngokwasemphefumlweni kwaye bahlala befumana intuthuzelo phakathi kwabahlobo kunye nosapho ukubanceda bajongane noqhawulo mtshato.
Kodwa eyindoda, ukufumana inkxaso yeemvakalelo okanye nokulungisa iimvakalelo zakho kunye nokuzikhathalela kunokuba nzima ngakumbi.
Kungenxa yoko le nto silungiselele esi sikhokelo siluncedo ngendlela yokulungiselela uqhawulo-mtshato lwendoda- ukuze ukwazi ukuqhubeka nenkqubo ngokutyibilikayo.
Inyathelo 1: Cwangcisa!
Ukwazi amanyathelo ekufuneka uwathathile ngexesha lenkqubo yoqhawulo-mtshato, zonke izinto ekufuneka uzithathele ingqalelo, kunye nezigqibo ekufuneka uzenzile zinokwenza ukuba yonke inkqubo yoqhawulo-mtshato ibe lula kwaye ngethemba lokuba ingabi noxinzelelo.
Ukucwangcisa, kuya kufuneka ujonge onke la manqaku alandelayo:
- Yenza uphando lwakho kwaye uzifundise ukuba isebenza njani inkqubo yoqhawulo mtshato.
- Funda malunga neenzuzo zoqhawulo mtshato, kuba ziya kwenza izinto zibe lula kakhulu.
- Hlela iimali zakho
- Khetha ingcali enamava ukukunceda uhambe kwinkqubo.
- Thatha inxaxheba kwiingxoxo zakho zoqhawulo mtshato ukuze uthathe uxanduva.
- Tshintshela kwintloko yeshishini lakho xa kufikwa kuthethathethwano lomtshato neqabane lakho kwaye ucime iimvakalelo kangangoko kunokwenzeka
- Funa umcebisi woqhawulo mtshato okanye umcebisi kwezobudlelwane akuncede uphathe uqhawulo-mtshato kwaye akuncede ekufezekiseni inqaku langaphambili.
- Gcina ubudlelwane obuhle kunye neqabane lakho, ubuncinci ngenxa yabantwana.
- Qinisekisa ukuba uyasombulula iimfuno zakho kunye nokuzilolonga.
- Gxila kumathuba okuba uphinde wonwabe kwakhona.
Inyathelo 2: Khetha uxolo
Lo kunokuba ngumceli mngeni onzima, ngakumbi ukuba iqabane lakho alikhethi uxolo kodwa likhethe ukuhlala lizolile, lilungelelene kwaye linenjongo apho kufanelekileyo.
Ngokuzimasa umtshato iingcebiso ukukukhokela kule nkqubo, uyakufumanisa ukuba uyaluthoba uxinzelelo, uxinzelelo kwaye ulawule iimvakalelo zakho ukuze ukwazi ukulawula ubudlelwane obunzima onokuthi ube nabo neqabane lakho.
Ukuba uyakwenza oku, awuyi kuzisola ngendlela ozibambe ngayo ngexesha lenkqubo yoqhawulo-mtshato, kwaye ngekhe kubekho nto iqabane lakho elinokuyisebenzisa kuwe kwixa elizayo.
Kwaye, ukuba unabantwana, izenzo zakho zoxolo ngoku ziya kuthi zikubuyise njengoko usakha ubudlelwane obutsha kunye neqabane lakho langaphambili njengomama wabantwana bakho kunye nomntu oza kuhlala ebomini bakho kwixesha elizayo.
Ukuba usebenza ngoqhawulo-mtshato wakho ngenjongo yokugcina uluxolo kangangoko, izenzo zakho ziya kukubuyekeza amatyeli alishumi.
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Inyathelo 3: Zinyamekele
Amadoda amaninzi aqhawula umtshato ahlala ezifumanisa esofeni, ehlala kwiindawo ezingazinzanga, engazilolongi umzimba, okanye ezondla ngokufanelekileyo. Oku kunokubangela ukuhlaselwa koxinzelelo kunye nokuzithemba okuphantsi kwaye unokujika ube ngumkhwa onqwenela ukuba ungazenzeli wona kwixa elizayo.
Ayizukukunceda udibane nomntu omtsha (nokuba yinto leyo ongenakuyicinga ngoku).
Kwenze kube yinto ephambili ukufumana isiseko esikhuselekileyo, nesifanelekileyo kuwe ukuze ube uneemfuno zakho ezisisiseko.
Emva koko setha inkqubo yokujongana nokutya kwakho, ukulala, kunye neemfuno zempilo- nokuba ngamanye amaxesha kuye kufuneke uzinyanzele ukuba uhambe ushukuma, uyakonwaba ukuba wenze njengoko ubomi bakho buguqukela kwindawo entsha eyonwabileyo.
Inyathelo 4: Qala ukuzilungiselela
Kuya kufuneka wenze amakhulu ezigqibo ezibalulekileyo ngexesha lenkqubo yoqhawulo mtshato ezakuchaphazela wena nabantwana bakho iminyaka emininzi ezayo. Okukhona uzilungelelanise, kokukhona kuya kuba ngcono umgangatho wobomi bakho kunye nothethathethwano (kunye nesiphumo sokuvumelana).
Kulapho uzakuxhamla ngokusebenza nomntu onamava ngenkqubo yoqhawulo-mtshato, ukuze bakukhokele kuwo onke amanyathelo okukunceda ekulungiseleleni ngokwezimali yonke imiba yoqhawulo mtshato, kubandakanya nothethathethwano.
Nazi ezinye zezinto ekufuneka ziqwalaselwe ngeli nqanaba:
- Wedwa okanye kunye neqabane lakho, qala ukwenza uluhlu lweeasethi kunye namatyala.
- Hlanganisa iikopi zazo zonke iirekhodi zemali
- Yenza uhlahlo-lwabiwo mali lomtshato ukuze uqonde ukuba zithini iindleko zakho zanyanga zonke xa nihlala kunye kunye neendleko zenyanga eziqikelelweyo emva komtshato.
Inyathelo 5: Sebenza ngoqhawulo mtshato NEqabane lakho
Thatha ixesha lokuthetha neqabane lakho nixoxe ngendlela eninokuncedana ngayo ngokuqhawula umtshato ngoxolo kwaye, apho kunokwenzeka, ngoxolo.
Ukuba uyakwazi, cinga ngendlela oza kujongana ngayo xa usiya phambili kwaye udibana namaqabane amatsha, indlela yokunxibelelana xa ujongene nabantwana, kunye nokusombulula nayiphi na eminye imiba ochaphazelekayo eya kuvela.
Cingani ngokuya kunye neengcebiso zokuqhawula umtshato ngaphambi komtshato okanye emva komtshato kunye ukuze nikwazi ukusombulula naziphi na iingxaki ngelixa nisaqhawula umtshato, oko kuthetha ukuba xa sele ukwenzile kwelinye icala, uya kuba nemithwalo yemvakalelo encinci kwaye unokuba nesidima ubudlelwane kunye neqabane lakho langaphambili njengebhonasi eyongeziweyo!