Umxholo
- 1. Fumana iingcebiso
- 2. Sebenzisa "mna" ixesha
- 3. Yenza imida
- 4. Zinike uluhlu lwamaxesha
- 5. UKngoku uchasene
Kwenzeka ntoni xa “kude kube kufa sisahlulwa” kungahambi njengoko bekucwangcisiwe?
Wonke umntu uzibophelele kuloo mazwi ngosuku lwabo lomtshato, kodwa ngamanye amaxesha ubomi buba endleleni.
Ukungathembeki, uxinzelelo lwezezimali, izehlo ezothusayo, okanye ukukhula nje ngokubanzi; zininzi izizathu zokuba kutheni umtshato onesiqhamo unokujika ube muncu ngokuhamba kwexesha.
Xa oko kusenzeka, esi sibini kufuneka sithathe isigqibo. Unokusebenzela ubudlelwane bakho kwaye uzame ukugcina umtshato wakho, okanye ungahamba ngeendlela zakho ezahlukeneyo.
Sisigqibo esinzima kakhulu kwizibini ezininzi ezihamba ngokurhabaxa okanye ezimbini. Ukuba bakhetha ukwahlukana, kunokuba lutshintsho olothusayo kubomi ababaziyo.
Nokuba zikhona iingxaki zomtshato, ubomi bamaqabane abandakanyekileyo bunxibelelene ngokunzulu; Kunzima ukukhulula iqhina kwaye ufumane okulandelayo.
Abanye basenokungafuni ukutsibela emtshatweni owonwabileyo baze baqhawule umtshato bexhalabile. Njengomtshato ngokwawo, uqhawulo-mtshato linyathelo elikhulu kubudlelwane nakubomi. Ifuna ukuthathelwa ingqalelo kwaye ihlolwe kuzo zonke ii-angles.
Endaweni yokungxamela kwisigqibo esisisigxina soqhawulo-mtshato, kunokuba yinto ebhetele ukwahlukana okwethutyana kwaye ubone ukuba ungasisebenzisa na eso sahlukaniso ukugcina umtshato wakho.
Ukuthatha inyathelo ubuye umva kule ngxaki kwaye ufumane indawo komnye komnye kunokuba sisisombululo esifunwa sisibini.
Ukuqhubela phambili, siza kubuyisa umkhusane kwaye sijonge izinto ezi-5 ekufuneka uzazi malunga nokugcina umtshato wakho ngexesha lokwahlukana. Inokuba sisixhobo esiluncedo ekugcineni umtshato ukuba wenziwe ngokuchanekileyo.
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1. Fumana iingcebiso
Ukuba uzimisele ukusebenzisa ukwahlukana kwetyala ukulungisa umtshato wakho kwaye uphucule umgangatho womtshato ixesha elide, ugqirha okanye umcebisi uyafuneka ngoku kunakuqala.
Basenokungakwazi ukusombulula zonke iingxaki zobudlelwane, kodwa banokuchonga uninzi lweengxaki ngcono ngenxa yokuchaneka.
Kwakhona, yindawo evulekileyo kunye nokunyaniseka malunga neemvakalelo zakho. Ukuba uthathe isigqibo sokwahlukana, awunakuphulukana nanto. Ngumtshato wesichotho "mary."
Sebenzisa indawo ekhuselekileyo yeofisi yonyango ukubeka yonke imiba etafileni kwaye ubone ukuba ungayifumana indlela yokubuyela komnye nomnye.
2. Sebenzisa "mna" ixesha
Esinye sezizathu zokuba wena neqabane lakho nisenokuba nihlukanisile kungenxa yokuba nobabini nilahlekelwe kukunxibelelana nento eyonenza nonwabile.
Zininzi izinto ezonwabisayo ekwabelwana ngazo emtshatweni, kodwa kusafuneka kubekho iipokotho zolonwabo lomntu ngamnye.
Ukuba ubuzithanda iincwadi ezihlekisayo ngaphambi kokuba utshate, kodwa awukayichongi enye okoko zakhala iintsimbi zomtshato, uthule uthuli kwaye ubenako ukulujonga.
Ukuba ubuthanda ukuthanda ukwenza kwindawo yokubonela yasekuhlaleni, kodwa uyityhalele ecaleni loo nto ngenxa yomtshato wakho, jonga ukuba kuya kubakho uvavanyo.
Ke ngoku mnaf uyahlukana ukuze ugcine umtshato wakho, buyela kwakhona ekunxibelelaneni nento ekuvusileyo phambi kokuba wabelane ngobomi bakho neqabane lakho.
Qaphela ukuba yintoni othanda ukuyenza. Ukuba unenjongo malunga noku kuphinda uzifumane kwakhona, unokufumanisa ukuba yayikukusilela kokulandela umntu okubeka umtshato wakho emngciphekweni.
Abantu ababini banokuhlalisana emtshatweni onothando ngelixa bekwanomdla wokuzonwabisa kunye nezinto abanomdla kuzo. Ukuba ungcwabe izinto ozithandayo kudala, sebenzisa eli xesha lokwahlula ukuze uphinde ufumane. “Mna” ongcono wenza “thina” engcono. Njalo.
3. Yenza imida
Uwugcina kanjani umtshato wam ngexesha lokwahlukana?
Ukuba wena neqabane lakho nigqiba ekubeni ukwahlukana yeyona ndlela ilungileyo yokwenza, yiphathe ngokunyaniseka.
Yenza imida eza kubonisa ukwahlula ngokwenyani omnye komnye. Nika omnye komnye igumbi lokuphefumla elifunekayo lokwahlukana.
Yenza izigqibo malunga nokuba ngubani oza kuhlala phi. Cacisa malunga nento eniza kuyenza nobabini malunga nemali kunye neeakhawunti zebhanki ezidibeneyo.
Ndingacebisa nokuba ndivale okanye ndibabande; Ukwahlulwa okugcweleyo kungayichitha ngokukhawuleza iakhawunti yebhanki. Ukuba unabantwana, khetha indawo abaza kuhlala kuyo kunye nexesha abaza kulichitha nomzali ngamnye.
Inqaku yile: ukuba uthatha isigqibo sokwahlukana ukuze ugcine umtshato wakho, yenze. Ukuba uyangcangcazela emva nasemva, ngekhe wazi ukuba kuya kusebenza na. Kuya kubakho umohluko kwindlela osebenza ngayo.
Ukuba awuhloniphi utshintsho ozama ukulwazisa emtshatweni wakho, ngekhe kubekho lutshintsho kwiziphumo zalo mtshato.
4. Zinike uluhlu lwamaxesha
Ngaba ukwahlukana kunokusindisa umtshato?
Xa uthatha isigqibo sokwahlukana neqabane lakho, nokuba lisemthethweni okanye alikho sesikweni, yinike umhla wokuphela.
Endaweni yokuthi, "Ndicinga ukuba kufanele sohlukane," yithi, "Ndicinga ukuba kufanele sihlukane iinyanga ezi-6 emva koko sithathe isigqibo sokuba uyaphi lomtshato."
Ngaphandle komda wexesha engqondweni, ungahamba iminyaka ngaphandle kokuphinda ujonge imiba yomtshato. Isimo "sohlulwe" sinokuhlala iinyanga okanye iminyaka.
Emva kwethutyana, iba yimeko ekhoyo kulwalamano lwakho, isenza kube nzima ukudibana. Nika ukwahlukana kwakho umhla oqinileyo kunye nesiphelo ukuze wena neqabane lakho niliphathe ngokungxamisekileyo nangxamisekileyo.
Jonga kwakhona: Ngaba ukwahlukana neqabane lakho kunganceda ukugcina umtshato wakho.
5. UKngoku uchasene
Ukuba usebenzisa ukwahlukana njengesixhobo sokugcina umtshato wakho kwaye unethemba lokuphucula imeko yomtshato wakho, yazi nje le statistic: ngokophando olwenziwe kwiYunivesithi yaseOhio State, iipesenti ezingama-79 zokwahlukana ziphela kuqhawulo mtshato.
Oku akuthethi ukuba akunakwenzeka ukusebenzisa ukwahlukana kwakho ukuphucula nokugcina umtshato wakho; kuthetha nje ukuba unemisebenzi oyicwangciselwe wena.
Qiniseka ukuba uyayenza inkuthalo yakho emva kokuba uthathe isigqibo sokwahlukana. Yiya kwiofisi yonyango. Beka loo mida. Nandipha ixesha lakho "mna". Nika ukwahlukana kwakho nomhla obekiweyo.
Sukuthatha elixesha ebomini bakho kancinci. Abanye abantu bahlukaniswe iminyaka bengakhange balisebenzise elo xesha ukuzama ukulungisa oko bemke kuko.
Ukuba yiyo loo nto usiya kude kwindawo yokuqala, zimisele malunga nexesha olichitha ngokwahlukana.Yisebenzise ukwakha isiseko esomeleleyo xa wena nothando lobomi bakho niyifumana indlela yokubuyela omnye komnye.