Umxholo
- Inkcazo yokuchaswa komzali
- Amaxhoba esifo sokuhlukaniswa kwabazali
- Inkcazo kunye neempawu zokwahlukaniswa kwabazali bomtshato wesibini
- Iziphumo zokuhlukaniswa kwabazali ebantwaneni
Uqhawulo-mtshato yinto esingayifuni sonke kodwa ngamanye amaxesha, ubomi budlala iqhinga kuthi ngesiquphe sizibone sibacaphukela abatshatileyo kwaye isisombululo esona kuphela oya kusibona kukufaka umtshato. Oku kunokuba yinto embi hayi eyesibini kuphela kodwa ikakhulu kubantwana ababandakanyekayo. Akunakuze bakulungele ukuba yinxalenye yosapho oluqhekekileyo. Kukho amaxesha apho omabini amaqabane eshiywe ngumsindo ogqithileyo kunye nokuqhuba ukuziphindezela kwelinye kwaye ngelishwa, eyona ndlela yokuphindezela kukusebenzisa ukwahlukana komzali kodwa akupheli apho. Ukwahlula-hlulwa komzali wokutholwa kukwakho kwaye kunokuba nzima kakhulu njengoko benokukufumana oku kubo bobabini abazali.
Masiqhelane nokuzahlula kwabazali.
Inkcazo yokuchaswa komzali
Yintoni ukwahlukaniswa kwabazali? Ngokwenkcazo, ukwahlulwa komzali kwenzeka xa umntwana efulathela omnye wabazali bakhe ngokweemvakalelo. Amaxesha amaninzi, oku kuyenzeka kwiintsapho eziqhawule umtshato apho umzali oqala ukwahlukana naye ikwangumkhathaleli ophambili.
Umntu kufuneka aqonde ukuba bobabini abazali banokuba ziithagethi ezinokubakho zokwahlukaniswa kwabazali. Ayinamsebenzi nokuba ngubani umnakekeli ophambili- nje ukuba icebo lenziwe lingathatha iinyanga okanye neminyaka ukumxhaphaza umntwana ngaphandle kokucaca, ukondla ulwazi olungalunganga ngomnye umzali.
Oku kuhlala kusenzeka xa umzali owahlulayo enesiphene kubuntu obufana ne-NPD okanye ukungalunganga kobuntu.
Akukho mzali uya kufuna ukuba umntwana wakhe aphathwe gadalala kwaye akukho mzali unokutshabalalisa igama lomnye umzali emehlweni omntwana wakhe ngaphandle kokuba lo mzali unengxaki ethile yobuntu. Okulusizi kukuba, ngumntwana oya kuva ubunzima kwezi zenzo.
Amaxhoba esifo sokuhlukaniswa kwabazali
I-PAS okanye isifo sokwahlulwa kwabazali- igama eliqulunqwe ngasekupheleni kweminyaka yee-1980 malunga nendlela umzali anokujika ngokuthe ngcembe abantwana bakhe athumele omnye umzali ngobuxoki, amabali, ityala kunye nokufundisa abantwana babo ukuba benze njani komnye umzali. Kuqala, uphononongo lubonise ukuba uninzi lwamaxesha, ibingoomama abanokwenza oku kuguqula abantwana babo ngokuchasene nooyise. Kwathiwa yeyona mpindezelo inkulu abanokuyifumana kodwa uphononongo lwakutsha nje lubonisa ukuba nawuphi na umzali unokuba lixhoba kwaye awudingi nokuba ube ngumkhathaleli oyintloko onelungelo lokukwenza. Kwaye kwafunyanwa kamva ukuba umzali oya kwenza oku uhlala enengxaki yobuntu.
Ixhoba le Isifo sokuhlukaniswa kwabazali ayinguye nje omnye umzali kodwa nomntwana ngokunjalo.
Umntwana oza kukhula ekholelwa kubuxoki kunye nezenzo zokwala omnye umzali naye uya kuba sisiseko sendlela abaza kuliphatha ngayo kwihlabathi. Yonakalisa ingqondo yomntwana ukuba afumane impindezelo kunye nokwoneliseka.
Inkcazo kunye neempawu zokwahlukaniswa kwabazali bomtshato wesibini
Ngelixa sonke sigxile kwinkqubo yesiqhelo yokwabiwa komzali, kukwakho ukwahlukana komzali ongumzali. Kulapho umzali anokuxhaphaza umntwana khona baya kuthiya kwaye bamgatye umzali-wesibini.Uhlobo lwenzondo, umona, kunye nendlela umntu angayamkeli ngayo into yokuba omnye umntu angangumzali emntwaneni wabo baya kukhetha ukwahlukaniswa kwabazali njengendlela yokuziphindezela nokuqinisekisa ukuba baseyiqhawe ebalini. Nangona kunjalo, aba bazali baphambeneyo bamfanyekiswe yinto yokuba ukwahlukaniswa kwabazali kunefuthe elibi kakhulu emntwaneni.
Iimpawu zokwahlulwa komzali womzali Ingabandakanya ukuba umntwana angawala naziphi na iinzame ezivela kumzali-wesibini kwaye angaphuma njengengxabano kwaye uhlala enomsindo.
Umntwana uya kuhlala evala naziphi na iinzame ezivela kumzali womzali kwaye uya kuhlala ethelekisa nomzali owahlulayo. Ingavakala njengaye nawuphi na umntwana ohlangabezana notshintsho kodwa kufuneka siyiqonde into yokuba ngabantwana kwaye akufuneki bazive bezivalele ngokugqithileyo ngaphandle kwesizathu.
Iziphumo zokuhlukaniswa kwabazali ebantwaneni
Nokuba kungasizathu sini na, inokuba kungenxa yomtshato owenzakalisayo, umona womzali womtshato wesibini, okanye ngenxa nje yokuba uziva unomsindo kunye nesidingo sokuziphindezela, akukho sizathu sokuba umzali angabenza abantwana bakhe omnye umzali okanye umzali wabo wokugqibela. Ezi ntshukumo zineziphumo zexesha elide emntwaneni kwaye ezinye zezona zinto zixhaphakileyo zezi:
- Inzondo ngomzali-Ngelixa le iyinjongo yesenzo esivela kumzali ohlukanisileyo, umntwana mncinci kakhulu ukuba angaziva enenzondo komnye umntu, kungasathethwa ke ngomzali wakhe. Ukondla okanye ukwenza iprogram ngendlela umntwana wakho afanele acinge ngayo kubaphanga ebuntwaneni.
- Ukuzicaphukela - Esinye isiphumo esinoku kumntwana kuxa umntwana eqala ukuziva engonelanga kwaye eqala ukubuza ukuba kutheni omnye umzali emkile. Amabali okondliwa emntwaneni aya kuba sisiseko sendlela abazibona ngayo nabo.
- Ukuphulukana nentlonipho- Umntwana uya kuphulukana nembeko yakhe hayi kumzali ekujoliswe kuye okanye kumzali-wokuqala kodwa iya kuchaphazela nendlela ababona ngayo abantu basetyhini okanye amadoda ngokubanzi. Njengoko bekhula, baya kuthi ekugqibeleni benze intiyo kunye nokuswela imbeko.
- Impilo enkenenkene yeemvakalelo -Umntwana woqhawulo-mtshato sele esengozini yokufumana iimpembelelo ezithile kwimpilo yabo yeemvakalelo, yintoni ngakumbi ukuba umntwana uqhele ukwahlukaniswa nabazali? Uza kuba yintoni umntwana owayekade enosapho olupheleleyo kwaye ngoku edidekile ukuba bayathandwa okanye hayi? Umntwana ubuyela njani kuzo zonke ezi zinto?
Sonke sinelungelo lokuziva iintlungu, umsindo, nokuba nenzondo kodwa akulunganga ukusebenzisa umntwana ukukhathaza umntu osibangele zonke ezi ngxaki. Umntwana uhlala ehlala ebabona bobabini abazali babo ukuba bangoobani hayi le nto ufuna ukuba bayibone. Abantwana akufuneki babe sisixhobo sokwahlulwa kwabazali okanye nakuphi na ukuziphindezela komntu okucwangcisiweyo. Njengomzali, kufanelekile ukuba ubakhathalele kwaye ungazisebenzisi ukoneliseka.