Umxholo
- Ukulawula ubudlelwane
- Kwenzeka ntoni kwilungiselelo lokondla
- Izimvo zokunceda ukuququzelela ubudlelwane obunempilo
Ukukhetha ukuba ngabazali abangabondli kukuzibophelela okumangalisayo emtshatweni kunye nosapho. Ukongeza ekubeni ngumnyangi onelayisensi kunye nonyango lobugcisa olubhalisiweyo, ndingumzali okhulisa umntwana wabangowakhe kunye nokwamkela umyeni wam. Sibe nethuba lokukhuthaza amaqela abantakwethu abebenezinto ezahlukeneyo zokuxhatshazwa okanye zokungahoywa ezineziphumo ezahlukeneyo ngokulinganayo. Usapho ngalunye olukhulisayo lunamandla olubonelela ngabantwana babo. Amandla ethu alele kulwazi lwethu lwentlungu yabantwana, ukunciphisa iilahleko zabantwana, ukhuseleko kunye nokuxhasa iimfuno zabo.
Ukulawula ubudlelwane
Kukho imiba engaphaya kokukhulisa abantwana ekuxoxwa ngayo ngokungaqondakaliyo ngexesha loqeqesho lwabazali. Umzali okhulisa umntwana ongengowakhe unokunceda kulawulo lobudlelwane ngethemba lokunciphisa usizi kunye namava okuphulukana nomntwana okhuliswa ngabantu abangamzaliyo. Olunye ubudlelwane luyimfuneko ekufezekiseni iimfuno zabantwana ezinje ngoonontlalontle, iingcali zonyango, amagqwetha, kunye nabameli benkundla. Olunye ubudlelwane luzele ziimvakalelo ezixubeneyo kubazali abangabondli kunye nabantwana njengabazali bokuzalwa, abantakwabo kunye nootatomkhulu noomakhulu. Lonke olu lwalamano lunokubaluleka kwalo kwaye abazali abakhulisa umntwana ongengowabo badlala indima ebalulekileyo ekugcineni olo nxibelelwano losapho.
Kwenzeka ntoni kwilungiselelo lokondla
Indawo nganye yokufumana umntwana ikwimeko eyodwa yokungahoywa okanye ukuxhatshazwa. Ukusukela eyona njongo iphambili kunye neyona iphambili kukhathalelo lomntwana kukudityaniswa kosapho lokuzalwa, ukufakwa kwabantwana kunokuba yithuba elifutshane okanye elide. Abazali bokuzalwa banikwa inkxaso yokuphucula iimeko zabo zobomi ezikhokelele ekubekweni kwabantwana kunye nokuphuhlisa izakhono zobuzali ngenjongo yokwandisa ukhuseleko kunye nokubonelela ngendawo efanelekileyo yokukhulisa abantwana. Onke amaqela: iingcali zononophelo lwabazali, abazali bokuzalwa, abantwana kunye nabazali abangabondli, bonke baya kuba nemibono eyahlukileyo malunga nokungahoywa okanye ukuxhatshazwa. Ngelixa abazali bevuselela imeko ngendlela efunekayo, kukho "ukutyelelwa kusapho" okanye amaxesha amiselweyo apho abantwana nabazali bokuzalwa bechitha ixesha kunye. Olu tyelelo lunokwahluka phakathi kweeyure ezimbalwa zexesha elibekiweyo ukuya kubusuku bonke ngaphandle kolawulo ngaphandle kokuxhomekeka kwinqanaba lenjongo kunye nenkqubela phambili yomzali wokuzalwa. Inyani ihleli yeyokuba abazali abakhulisa umntwana wabanye abantu bakhulisa abantwana uninzi lweveki. Oku kunokudala imeko yelahleko kubazali bokuzalwa. Abantwana banokudideka ngenxa yabanonopheli abaninzi kunye nemithetho eyahlukileyo.
UWilliam Worden ubhala ngemisebenzi yokulila kwincwadi yakhe UkuCebisa ngeNtlungu kunye noNyango lweNtlungu enokusetyenziswa ngokulula ebantwaneni, kwiintsapho zokuzalwa kunye nakubazali abangabondli. Imisebenzi yeLizwien yosizi ibandakanya ukuqonda ilahleko eyenzekileyo, ukufumana iimvakalelo ezinzulu, ukuphuhlisa ubudlelwane obutsha obulahlekile kunye notyalo-mali kunye namandla kubudlelwane obutsha kunye nemisebenzi. Njengabazali abangabondli kunye nabazali abamkele umntwana wabangowakhe, sinako ukuyibona le misebenzi kwaye sincede aba bantwana ngeendlela ezifanelekileyo imeko yabo.
Umyeni wam kunye nam sisebenzise iindlela ezininzi ukulungiselela ukuvuleka kwindawo nganye yokufumana abantwana kwaye safumana ubuninzi bezibonelelo. Iintsapho zokuzalwa zazimamkele kwaye zithathe inxaxheba ngokusekwe kwinqanaba labo lokuthuthuzela.Injongo yethu ihlala ikukuvuma ilahleko ebaphakathi kukhathalelo lwabantwana abangabodwa, ukuxhasa abantwana ukuba bajongane neemvakalelo ezinamandla, ukukhuthaza ulwazi ekwabelwana ngalo malunga nabantwana ukuphucula ubudlelwane kunye nokuchonga iindlela zokubandakanya usapho lokuzalwa ngendlela esempilweni nekhuselekileyo.
Izimvo zokunceda ukuququzelela ubudlelwane obunempilo
1. Funda iincwadi nabantwana
Imfundo yeemvakalelo inceda abantwana ukuba bakhulise ukuthembana nosapho olukhulisayo. Baqala ukufunda indlela yokulawula iimvakalelo ezinzima zokukhathalela abantwana. Ngokwesiqhelo hlela iimvakalelo abantwana abanokuzifumana kwiintsuku zabo nakwiiveki ngeencwadi ezifana Iintsuku zam ezininzi eziBala NguGqirha Seuss kunye Unjani uXobuka nguS. Freymann noJ. Elffers. Kuxhomekeke kubudala bomntwana, ukuqhubeka kwengxoxo kunokubandakanya ukuba banokuba baziva njani na okanye banokunceda. Umtya ongabonakaliyo nguP. Karst no-G.Stevenson banokunceda abantwana bamelane nomgama kumalungu osapho. Ikhaya elitsha likaZachary: Ibali labantwana abakhuliswa kunye nabazali abamkelweyo nguG. Blomquist noP P. Blomquist bathetha ngemiba yokuhlala kwikhaya elitsha elinabazali abahluke kakhulu emntwaneni. Mhlawumbi iintsuku: Incwadi yaBantwana kuKhathalelo lwabantwana NguJ. Wilgocki noMnu. Kahn Wright banceda abantwana baphonononge ukungaqiniseki kwekamva. Abazali abakhulisa umntwana wabanye abantu bayakhuthazwa ukuba babelane ngokuphandle ukuba nabo baphila “Mhlawumbi Iintsuku” okoko iintsapho ezikhulisiweyo zifumana ulwazi oluncinci kakhulu ngaphandle kolwazi malunga nemeko yosapho lokuzalwa kunye nenkqubela phambili.
2. Zama ukuvula iindlela zonxibelelwano
Unxibelelwano oluvulekileyo luhlangabezana neenjongo ezintathu. Okokuqala, amanqaku malunga neziganeko, ukuthanda ukutya okanye ukungathandi, imeko yempilo yomntwana, naluphi na ulwazi olutsha malunga nezinto onomdla kuzo okanye imisebenzi emitsha enceda abazali bokuzalwa ukuba babakhathalele kwaye banxibelelane nabantwana. Okwesibini, abantwana banokugcina unxibelelwano olusempilweni kwiintsapho zabo zokuzalwa rhoqo ngokubandakanya inkcubeko yosapho kunye nembali. Ukongeza, iincwadana ezincinci zendlela umntwana anokufana ngayo nabazali bakhe kunokwabelwana ngayo ukuba usapho lokugcina luyakwazi ukufunda malunga nosapho lokuzalwa ngokubuza imibuzo ekhuselekileyo enje ngohlobo lomculo oluthandwa ngabazali okanye umculo wegcisa, umbala, ukutya, izithethe zosapho, kunye nokuziphatha kwabantwana okudlulileyo. Gcina ukhumbula izinto ezizodwa zokungahoywa okanye ukuxhatshazwa kwangaphambili, kwaye uphephe izihloko ezinokubonakala ngathi zilungile kwindalo ezinokubangela iinkumbulo ezibuhlungu. Okokugqibela, indlela yeqela iyanciphisa imiba yokunyaniseka edla ngokusokoliswa ngabantwana abakhulisa abantwana abangengobabo njengoko beziqhelanisa nosapho olukhulisa umntwana wabanye abantu.
3. Thumela amashwamshwam neziselo
Intsapho nganye ineemeko ezahlukeneyo zemali kunye nokukwazi ukucwangcisa. Iingcamango zokutya eziphakanyisiweyo ziyi-granola / i-cereal bars, i-goldfish, i-pretzels okanye ezinye izinto ezinokuphatheka kunye / okanye zigcinwe ngolunye usuku. Injongo yeyokuba umntwana azi ukuba bakhathalelwe ngawo onke amaxesha ngakumbi kunokuba ukutya kuyasetyenziswa. Ithemba ngabazali bokuzalwa abaqala ukuyithatha le ndima. Nangona kunjalo, abazali abakhulisa umntwana ongengowabo banokunqwenela ukuqhubeka nokubonelela ukutya okutyiwayo ngenxa yomahluko kwinkqubela phambili yomzali wokuzalwa.
4. Tshintshiselana ngeefoto
Thumela imifanekiso yemisebenzi kunye namava abantwana. Abazali bokuzalwa banokuthanda ukuba nale mifanekiso njengoko ixesha liqhubeka. Ukuba ucinga ukuba abazali bokuzalwa bavulekile, thumela ikhamera elahliweyo ukuba bathathe imifanekiso njengentsapho kwaye bathumele iikopi kuphinda olulandelayo. Ungayifaka le mifanekiso uyifumeneyo uyibeke kumagumbi abantwana okanye kwindawo ekhethekileyo ekhayeni lakho.
5. Nceda abantwana bamelane noxinzelelo
Umntwana ngamnye uya kuba neemfuno zakhe ekulawuleni iimvakalelo ezinzima. Funda ngendlela abantwana abasabela ngayo kutyelelo kwaye ubone naluphi na utshintsho kwindlela yokuziphatha. Ukuba umntwana uthanda ukukhaba okanye ukubetha, zama ukuseta emva kokundwendwela imisebenzi evumela olo hlobo lokukhululwa njenge karate okanye taekwondo. Ukuba umntwana urhoxile ngakumbi, yenza indawo yemisebenzi ethe cwaka enje ngobugcisa, ukufunda okanye ukugoba ngesilwanyana esithandwayo okanye ingubo njengoko umntwana etshintsha ngelixa umzali okhulisa umntwana okhoyo ehleli ukuze afumane intuthuzelo.
6. Gcina incwadi yobomi yomntwana ngamnye
Oku kuxoxwa ngokubanzi kuqeqesho lwabazali abakhulisa umntwana wabanye kwaye kubaluleke kakhulu kumntwana ohlangulayo. Le yinxalenye yembali yabo ngelixa uhlala kusapho lwakho. Ezi zingangincwadi ezilula kakhulu ezinemifanekiso yeziganeko ezizodwa, abantu okanye iziganeko ezibalaseleyo zomntwana. Kuyacetyiswa ukuba ugcine ikopi yakho kwimbali yosapho ngokunjalo.
7. Uncedo ngokubekwa okanye utshintsho kwiinjongo
Ukuba umntwana utshintsha amakhaya, abazali bokugcina banokuba luncedo kakhulu kule nkqubo yotshintsho. Ukwabelana ngolwazi oluqhelekileyo, ukukhetha ixesha lokulala kunye neeresiphi zokutya okuthandwa ngumntwana okanye ukutya kunokunceda usapho olulandelayo lokubeka okanye usapho lokuzalwa. Ukuba injongo itshintshile ngokusisigxina ngokuthatha umntwana ongamzalanga abe ngowakho, uninzi lwabazali abanokukhulisa banokhetho oluninzi abanokulujonga malunga nokuvuleka ekugcineni unxibelelwano.
Ukukhulisa ubudlelwane ngaphakathi kukhathalelo lwabantwana yinkqubo enzima. Ilahleko ininzi kubo bobabini abantwana abakhulisayo kunye neentsapho zokuzalwa. Imfesane kunye nobubele kwicandelo losapho lokugcina abantwana kunokunceda ukunciphisa ilahleko yexesha elizayo enokuthi ihambelane nexesha lokubekwa. Sebenzisa ezi ngcebiso njengephedi yokuvula imibono emitsha yokuxhasa ubudlelwane bosapho obunokusetyenziswa kwiimeko ezizodwa. Lindela ukuba ube namanqanaba ohlukeneyo entsebenziswano kwiintsapho zokuzalwa. Injongo yakho ethembekileyo iya kuba nezibonelelo ezininzi. Ukuzinikezela kule nkqubo kuyathemba ukuba kuya kunceda abantwana bakhulise umbono ophilileyo wehlabathi, imeko yokuxabiseka kunye nokuzazisa.