Umxholo
- 1. Lixabise iqabane lakho
- 2. Yithi enkosi ngezinto ezincinci
- 3. Khathalela inkangeleko yakho
- 4. Gcina ubudlelwane ngaphandle komtshato wakho
Sonke siyazi ukuba isini ayisiyiyo yonke into kwaye siphelela emtshatweni. Siyazi ukuba ubudlelwane bujolise kakhulu kwicala lesini kubudlelwane obunokuthi bungazalisekisi, kodwa siyazi ukuba isini sibalulekile nathi. Ke siyifumana njani ibhalansi?
Impendulo yalo mbuzo ilula kodwa ihlala ilityelwe.
Ubudlelwane obuphilileyo nobulungeleleneyo budinga umzamo oqhubekayo, ukuzibophelela kunye nokuxabisana kunye nenani lamaqhinga ekwabizwa ngokuba ziindlela ezingezizo ezesondo zokugcina umtshato usempilweni.
Ngokufumana izimvo ezimbalwa kunye neendlela ezingezizo ezesondo onokuzigcina uphilile emtshatweni wakho, uya kuqinisekisa ngokulula ukuba ugcina ubudlelwane bakho bukhula kwaye ibhonasi yile, ukuba kokukhona utyala imali kwezi ngcebiso zincinci kunye namacebo okugcina umtshato wakho usempilweni kokukhona kuya kuba nefuthe elihle kunxibelelwano lwakho ngokwesondo kunye namava! Yimeko yokuphumelela.
Nazi iindlela zethu eziphezulu ezine ezingezizo ezesondo zokugcina umtshato usempilweni ekufuneka uzame ngoku.
1. Lixabise iqabane lakho
Khumbuza iqabane lakho ukuba uyabaxabisa, kwaye uzikhumbuze ukuba uyalixabisa iqabane lakho (oku kuvakala kungaqhelekanga, kodwa kulula ukuhamba nje ngokuhamba). Nangona kunjalo, uxabiso esixoxa ngalo apha lusebenza kuphela ukuba luyinyani kwaye lukhumbula.
Fumana iindlela ezincinci zokubonisa uxabiso lwakho, bhala amanqaku amancinci, ulange iqabane lakho ngokufanelekileyo xa bephuma okanye bebuya emsebenzini. Kwaye njengezinye izibini ezikwenza kube yeyona nto iphambili ukuba ungaze ulale kwimpikiswano (eyindlela entle yokubonisa uxabiso lwakho kwiqabane lakho) yenza inqaku lokungaze ulibale ukuxabisana kwaye ubonise oku kangangoko kunokwenzeka.
2. Yithi enkosi ngezinto ezincinci
Endaweni yokugcina umkhondo wazo zonke izinto ezincinci ezinokwenziwa okanye ezingenakwenziwa liqabane lakho, yitshintshe ugxile kwaye endaweni yoko ugcine amanqaku azo zonke izinto ezincinci ezenziwa liqabane lakho okanye elingazenziyo ezikonwabisayo kwaye emva koko kubo.
Ukuqiniswa okuqinisekileyo kwenza izinto ezimangalisayo ngengqondo yomntu, ukuzithemba kunye nokuba sempilweni ke esi sicwangciso-nkqubo siyindlela elungileyo engeyiyo eyokwabelana ngesondo ukugcina umtshato usempilweni kuba uyaqhubeka nokuqinisa okuhle emtshatweni wakho.
Uninzi lwezibini zenza ngokuchaseneyo, kwaye kwiimeko ezininzi, kukwakhiwa kwezi zimvo zibalulekileyo ezinokuthi ekugqibeleni zihlukanise isibini. Uyalwazi uhlobo - 'ndikwenzele u-x ke ngoku kufuneka undenzele', 'awusoze wahlamba izitya', 'kutheni kusoloko kufuneka ndi ...' kwaye ke iyaqhubeka. Akukho nanye kwezi ngxelo eqinisekisayo.
Nangona kunjalo, xa usebenzisa iingxelo ezikhuthazayo ngethemba, liyakuqinisekisa kwaye likhuthaze iqabane lakho. Ukuze kungekudala iqabane lakho liyakwenza okufanayo kuwe okanye likubonise uxabiso lwakho lokuzithemba ngendlela eyahlukileyo kubo.
3. Khathalela inkangeleko yakho
Ngaba wakha wanamava apho ubukhe kunye neqabane lakho okanye iqabane lakho iminyaka emininzi? Bakhululekile kakhulu kuwe kangangokuba abenzi mzamo ngenkangeleko yabo-naphakade. Ngaphandle kokuba bayaphuma. Kwaye njengoko bemka ngobusuku, okanye ngexesha lenu lokuphuma kunye uzifumana uvuma kaninzi ukuba umtsalane njani iqabane lakho. Mhlawumbi kunzima nokuzigcina izandla zakho.
Ewe iyafana nangenye indlela ejikelezileyo.
Ewe kunjalo, ukuba nihlala kunye, nibe nabantwana kwaye nijongana nobomi bemihla ngemihla obuxakekileyo anizukuhlala nijonga okona kulungileyo. Kodwa ukwenza iinzame zokugcina inkangeleko yakho kwaye ujongeka umhle, rhoqo kuthintela ukonwaba ekungeneni, kwaye kuya kugcina iintlantsi ziphila.
Kwaye kukho esinye isibonelelo sokugcina inkangeleko yakho, kwaye oko kukuthi nina nobabini neqabane lakho niza kuziva nizonwabele, nto leyo eya kuthi yenze iintlantsi zibhabhe. Ingxaki kuphela, kukuba ngelixa eli qhinga liyindlela engeyiyo eyokwabelana ngesondo ukugcina umtshato usempilweni kuya kuba ngumceli mngeni ukuphuma kwigumbi lokulala njengesiphumo!
4. Gcina ubudlelwane ngaphandle komtshato wakho
Ukuchitha impelaveki uhamba nabafana okanye amantombazana, ukuya kumnyhadala wentlalo kunye nokugcina ubomi obuzimeleyo ngaphandle komtshato kuya kubenza bube mnandi ngakumbi ubomi bakho bomtshato.
Uya kuba nokuninzi onokuthetha ngako neqabane lakho njengoko ubazisa amava akho kubo kwaye uyakhuthazeka ngabanye abantu kunye neendawo. Oko kuthetha ukuba uya kuzisa loo mpembelelo emtshatweni wakho kwaye kungenjalo.
Ukuba nobudlelwane ngaphandle komtshato kwenza omnye nomnye anomdla ngakumbi kwaye anomdla ngakumbi kumava amatsha. Uyakonwabela umzamo oya kuwenza kunye xa nithe nahlukana, nto leyo eya kuzisa indlela entsha nenomdla engeyiyo eyokwabelana ngesondo ukugcina umtshato usempilweni.
Emva kwayo yonke loo nto, bathi umgama wenza ukuba intliziyo ikhule ithande.