Umxholo
- Ukuba ubona ukungabikho kothando kubudlelwane bakho, ungalahli ithemba
- Ungalibala ukubonisa uthando kulowo mntu ulilitye lakho
- Umsindo unokuba ngumbulali wokwenene wothando
- Imfihlo encinci- usenakho ukulithanda iqabane lakho ngaphandle kokubonisa ukuthandana
- Chonga ukuba zeziphi iimfuno zakho zothando
Ayenzeki ngobusuku obunye. Ngapha koko, ukwehla kuthatha iminyaka embalwa. Mhlawumbi awuqapheli ukuba kwenzeka ntoni de uvuke kwaye uzibuze ukuba kwenzeke ntoni. Ngenye imini xa ujonga iqabane lakho kwaye uyaqonda into: uhlala ngakumbi njengabantu ohlala nabo kunamaqabane athandanayo. Ukuya phi ukuthandana?
Ukuba ufana nezinye izibini ezitshatileyo ezinde, iintsuku zokuqala zomtshato wakho zazikhangeleka zahlukile kuleyo yemihla ngemihla. Ngeentsuku zakho ezisandul 'ukutshata, ubungenakulinda ukufika ekhaya omnye komnye. Ubusuku bakho nangeempelaveki zibone uthando oluninzi, ungasathethi ke ngokwanga, ngokuwola nangokunxibelelana nomzimba. Kodwa ngokuhamba kweminyaka, bekukho incanca encinci kunye nothando, kunye noludwe "lobusi" kunye nelihlo elisecaleni lahamba inkunkuma engakhange ikhutshwe ngaphandle kokucela kwakho.
Ukuba ubona ukungabikho kothando kubudlelwane bakho, ungalahli ithemba
Zininzi izinto onokuzenza ukubuyisa ukukhanya emehlweni akho, kwaye wandise ukuthandana phakathi kwakho. Ukuba awufuni ukuba ubomi bakho bomtshato bufane nemeko yokuhlala ekwabelwana ngayo, yiya koku. Makhe sisebenze ekubuyiseni uthando!
"Kutheni" emva kokwehla kwezothando kubudlelwane. Akukho nzima ukukhomba ukuba kutheni uthando luyehla kubudlelwane bexesha elide. Uninzi lwayo lubangelwa zezinye iziganeko zobomi ezikhuphisana nexesha lesibini sothando. Izinto ezinje ngosapho olukhulayo, okanye ukuzibophelela kobungcali, ukongezwa kweemfuno zosapho (abasebukhweni, abazali abagugileyo, amalungu osapho agulayo), isangqa sakho (umdlalo wobusuku kunye nabamelwane, imisebenzi yecawa), iimfuno zesikolo sabantwana bakho (umsebenzi wasekhaya, ukuzithandela kwigumbi lokufundela , Ukuhamba neklasi kwiihambo zentsimi). Uluhlu alunasiphelo kwaye ayothusi into yokuba kushiyeke ixesha elincinci kakhulu ukuba wena kunye neqabane lakho nizinikele ekuthandaneni kunye.
Ungalibala ukubonisa uthando kulowo mntu ulilitye lakho
Kukwakho nombuzo wesiqhelo. Njengokuba umtshato wakho usiya phambili, kungokwemvelo ukuba nesiqhelo sokuzifaka kwaye mhlawumbi uqala ukuthatha omnye nomnye ngokungakhathali. Elona candelo lilungileyo kukuba uyazi ukuba unaye umntu onokuthembela kuye, usuku nosuku. Inxalenye embi yoko kukuba ungakulibala ukubonisa uthando kunye nombulelo kuloo mntu ulilitye lakho. Ubudlelwane bakho bunokungena kuruth, njengoko uhlala unamathela kwisiqhelo ukuze yonke into yenziwe. Ngaphandle kokungalindelekanga okanye ukumangaliswa, unokuziva ukuba akukho thando luseleyo, akukho nto injengemihla yakho yokuqala xa yonke into yayintsha kwaye inika umdla.
Umsindo unokuba ngumbulali wokwenene wothando
Uthando lunokufa kuba unokugcina ingqumbo kwiqabane lakho. Umsindo, ongachazwanga okanye ovakalisiweyo, unokuba ngumbulali wokwenene wothando. Kunzima ukuziva unothando kwaye unomdla ngomntu osoloko ekuphoxa okanye osebenza ngokuchaseneyo nawe kwiintsapho eziguqukayo. Le yimeko enzima ngakumbi kwisibini ukuba siyilawule sodwa ke ukufuna ugqirha wosapho kuyanceda apha ukukunceda ubuyele emgceni, ukuseka iindlela zonxibelelwano ezifanelekileyo, kwaye ufunde ukuthetha malunga nento ekucaphukisayo ukuze isisombululo sikwazi yenzeke kwaye iimvakalelo zothando zinokubuya.
Imfihlo encinci- usenakho ukulithanda iqabane lakho ngaphandle kokubonisa ukuthandana
Ngaba iyakothusa loo nto? Kukho izigidi zabantu abatshatileyo abangadingi zimpawu zothando, ezinkulu okanye ezincinci, ukuze bazi ukuba ubudlelwane babo buyinto enothando. Baxhomekeke ngakumbi kwezi nyaniso zilandelayo ukuba ubudlelwane babo bababonelela ngothando. Banoluvo olomeleleyo lokuba kukho ubudlelwane obuthandanayo phakathi kwabo, kwaye abadingi zintyatyambo, amanqaku othando okanye iimpahla zangaphantsi ukukhumbula oku. Bakhathalelane ngokwenene. Ezi zibini zinomoya ozolileyo kunye ongaguquguqukiyo wokukhathalelana okrwela umtshato wazo. Akunakubakho ukuthandana mihla le, kodwa baya kukuvuyela ukurhweba ukuba ngemvakalelo efudumeleyo kunye nenkathalo abanayo kubudlelwane babo. Ukwamkelana njengokuba benjalo. Ababini abamkelanayo kubo bonke ubuntu babo (iimpazamo kunye nazo zonke!) Banokuba nothando olunzulu ngaphandle kokufuna iidosi ezinkulu zothando.
Isiseko solonwabo. Ezi zibini zihamba phambili zinoluvo lokuqhubeka lokonwaba nje ukuba kunye. Nokuba bayaphola kwigumbi elinye okanye bayothenga ukutya, bonwabile, kungekho sidingo sokwazisa ngothando. Ubuhlobo. Isenokungabi nakuphumelela, ukutya kunye nothando, kodwa kuhlala kukho imvakalelo yobuhlobo kwaye "ndikho kuwe" ngezi zibini.
Chonga ukuba zeziphi iimfuno zakho zothando
Kubalulekile ukuba uchonge ukuba zeziphi iimfuno zakho zothando kubudlelwane bakho. Unokuba yinxalenye yeqela elingafuneki kwimiboniso yothando yemihla ngemihla ukuze uzive uxabisekile kwaye ukhuselekile emtshatweni wakho. Okanye, unganqwenela ukuba iqabane lakho lenze nje kancinci kwicala lezothando. Ukuba kunjalo, thetha neqabane lakho kwaye wabelane ngeemfuno zakho kunye nalo. Akunzima ukunyusa umdlalo womntu kwisebe lezothando, kunye neenzame nje ezimbalwa zokubuyisa olo thando lokuqala. Kodwa khumbula: ukuthandana akubalulekanga ukuba uthando lokwenene lubekhona.
Baninzi abantu abatshatileyo abakonwabelayo ukuhlamba omnye komnye ngeempawu ezibizayo zothando, kwaye baphela beqhawula umtshato nangona kunjalo. Into ebalulekileyo kukuba ulwimi lwakho lothando lucacile omnye komnye, kwaye uvulelekile kwinto oyifunayo ukuze uzive uxabisekile, uthandwa kwaye uxabiswa liqabane lakho.