Umxholo
- Ungquzulwano olufuna imfihlo kunye nolwalamano olusenyongweni
- Isidingo sobucala sichazwa gwenxa lelinye iqabane
- Yazi indlela yokwenzakala nokucela uxolo
- Imvakalelo yokwenzakala ihlala inxulumene nemida engakhuselekanga ngokwaneleyo
- Amathandabuzo akhokelela ekuthandeni ukuzibophelela
- Ziqhelise ukuxolela
- Unyango lwepatheni engasebenzi kakuhle
Ngokungathandabuzekiyo okubi kokubonakala, Ukungaqiniseki emva kwayo yonke into, ukuze sikhohliswe, Oko kunokuba kukuxhomekeka kunye nethemba kodwa ziingqikelelo emva kwayo yonke loo nto. ~ UWalt Whitman ~
Uninzi lwabantu lulangazelela ukusondela ngakumbi kunye nokuthandwa ebomini babo. Rhoqo bazama ukulungisa ezi mfuno kubudlelwane, ikakhulu ubudlelwane nomntu okhethekileyo okanye iqabane. Ewe kunjalo, kulwalamano ngalunye, kukho isithintelo esingabonakaliyo kwisixa okanye kwinqanaba lokusondela ngokweemvakalelo nangokwasemzimbeni.
Xa elinye okanye omabini amaqabane efikelela kuloo mda, iindlela zokhuselo ezingekho zingqondweni ziyaqala. Uninzi lwabantu abatshatileyo bazama ukonyusa kunye nokwenza nzulu amandla abo okusondelelana, kodwa ngaphandle kokwazi ngobuntununtunu babo bobabini amaqabane ajikeleze loo mda, ukuhamba kude, ukwenzakalisa kunye nokuqokelela iiakhawunti kunokwenzeka kakhulu. ukwenzeka.
Ndicinga ngalo mda njenge-quotient edityanisiweyo, uphawu olwahlukileyo kwesi sibini. Nangona kunjalo, ngokungafaniyo ne-IQ inokunyuka ngokuzimisela nangokuziqhelanisa rhoqo.
Ungquzulwano olufuna imfihlo kunye nolwalamano olusenyongweni
Isidingo semfihlo kunye nokuzimela sisisiseko kwaye sikhona kuye ngamnye kuthi, nangakumbi njengesidingo sonxibelelwano, ukubukelana kunye nokusondelelana. Ungquzulwano phakathi kwala maqela mabini eemfuno lunokukhokelela kumzabalazo kwaye nasekukhuleni.
Incoko yangaphakathi, ihlala ingazi nto, inokuthi: Ukuba ndizikhathalela iimfuno zam kwaye ndikhusela imida yam ndiyazingca, okanye andinakuba nabahlobo. ”
Isidingo sobucala sichazwa gwenxa lelinye iqabane
Uninzi lwabantu abatshatileyo bakhulisa ukungafani okwabelwana ngako okusingela phantsi ukusondelelana.
Ngokwesiqhelo, ukuba akusoloko kunjalo, isekwe kwiindlela eziphambili zokuzikhusela zabantu. Kuqhelekile ukuba ezo ndlela zingakhuselekanga zibonwa lelinye iqabane kwaye zithathwa ngokobuqu, zitolikwa njengohlaselo okanye njengokulahlwa, ukungahoywa okanye ukwaliwa.
Nokuba yeyiphi na indlela, kubonakala ngathi bachukumisa amanqaku abuthathaka kwelinye iqabane kwaye baxhokonxe iimpendulo zabo ezindala ezendele ebuntwaneni.
Yazi indlela yokwenzakala nokucela uxolo
Ukungaqondani okunjalo kuhlala kwenzeka xa elinye okanye omabini amaqabane esenzakala. Kubalulekile ukuzinza kobudlelwane ukuba bafunde ukwamkela iipateni ezikhokelela ekwenzakaleni nasekuxoliseni xa beqwalaselwe.
Uxolo lukuqinisekisa ngokupheleleyo ukuzibophelela kulwalamano. Kubalulekile ukuqaphela kwangoko ukuba ukuxolisa asikokuvuma ityala. Endaweni yoko kukwamkela ukuba omnye wenzakele, kulandele ukubonakalisa uvelwano.
Imvakalelo yokwenzakala ihlala inxulumene nemida engakhuselekanga ngokwaneleyo
Iqabane elikhubekekileyo lihlala liphendula ngezenzo ezibi okanye amagama aqhubela phambili umlo kwaye andise umgama. Ukubuyela kunxibelelwano kufuna ukuphinda uthethe ngemida, kunye nesiqinisekiso sokuzibophelela kulwalamano.
Ukuvuleleka kuthethathethwano kuveza ukuqonda ukuba imida nganye kunye nonxibelelwano olunzulu azihambelani. Endaweni yoko zinokukhula kwaye zendele nzulu ecaleni.
Amathandabuzo akhokelela ekuthandeni ukuzibophelela
Indlela eqhelekileyo yokhuselo kukuthandabuza okukhokelela ekuthandeni ukuzibophelela. Xa abantu besocingweni, beveza ukungathandabuzeki ngokusebenzisa amagama, ulwimi lomzimba okanye enye indlela yokuziphatha, kushukumisa isiseko sobudlelwane kwaye kukhokelela kumgama kunye nokungazinzi.
Xa elinye iqabane libonisa ukungathembeki, elinye linokufumana ukwaliwa okanye ukushiywa kwaye liphendule ngokungazi ngokuzikhusela.
Ziqhelise ukuxolela
Ayinakuphepheka into yokuba amaqabane ayonzakalisana. Sonke siyazenza iimpazamo, sithethe izinto ezingalunganga, sithathe izinto buqu okanye singaqondi injongo yomnye. Yiyo loo nto kubalulekile ukuqhelisela uxolo kunye noxolelo.
Ukufunda ukuqonda ipateni kwaye ukuba kunokwenzeka yiyeke kwaye uxolise ngokukhawuleza ngokukhawuleza sisakhono esifanelekileyo sokugcina isibini.
Unyango lwepatheni engasebenzi kakuhle
Xa sichonga ipateni yokungasebenzi ngexesha leseshoni yonyango, kwaye omabini amaqabane anokuyibona, ndibamema bobabini ukuba bazame ukuyibiza ngegama xa kusenzeka. Iipateni ezinjalo zinokuphinda rhoqo. Oko kubenza babe sisikhumbuzo esithembekileyo somsebenzi wesibini wokuphilisa ubudlelwane babo.
Xa elinye iqabane linokuthi kwelinye "Sithandwa, ngaba senza ngoku ngoku nantoni na ebesithetha ngayo kwiseshoni yokugqibela yonyango? Ingaba singazama ukuma kunye? ” elo binzana kukuzibophelela kubudlelwane kwaye kubonwa njengesimemo sokuhlaziya okanye sokwandisa ubudlelwane obusondeleyo. Xa ukwenzakala kukhulu kakhulu, ekuphela kwento onokuyenza kukushiya imeko okanye uthathe ikhefu.
Xa oko kusenzeka, ndicebisa izibini ukuba zizame kwaye zibandakanye nengxelo yokuzibophelela. Into efana nale: “Ndonzakele kakhulu ukuhlala apha, ndiza kuhamba isiqingatha seyure. Ndiyathemba ukuba singathetha xa ndibuya. ”
Ukophula uqhagamshelo, nokuba kungokushiya ngokwasemzimbeni okanye ngokuhlala uthule kwaye "uqhushululu ngamatye" kuhlala kukhokelela kwintloni, eyeyona mvakalelo imbi. Uninzi lwabantu luya kwenza nantoni na ukuphepha ukuhlazeka. Yiyo loo nto kubandakanya ingxelo yenjongo yokugcina unxibelelwano luthomalalisa ihlazo kwaye ivule umnyango wokulungiswa okanye ukusondela ngakumbi.
UWalt Whitman uphetha umbongo ngokuthandabuza ngenqaku elinethemba elingaphezulu:
Andikwazi ukuwuphendula umbuzo wembonakalo, okanye lowo wesazisi ngaphaya kwengcwaba; Kodwa ndihamba okanye ndihlale ndingakhathali — ndonelisekile, Usibambe ngesandla sam wandanelisa ngokupheleleyo.
Oku "kubamba ngesandla" akufuneki kugqibelele. Ulwaneliseko olupheleleyo lo mbongo luchaza luvela kulwazi olunzulu kunye nokwamkelwa ukuba nabuphi na ubudlelwane busekelwe kulungelelwaniso. Ukwamkelwa yinxalenye yokukhula, ushiya iminyaka yeshumi elivisayo kunye nemibono yabo ngasemva kwaye ube ngumntu omkhulu. Ndifundile kule migca yokugqibela yalo mbongo, ukuzimisela ukuyeka ukuzilolonga, ukuthandabuza okanye ukurhanela kwaye ndamkela ngokupheleleyo uvuyo lwentembeko, ubudlelwane obuqolileyo.
Ukwakhiwa kwetrust yinto elula yokwenza izithembiso ezincinci kunye nokufunda ukuzigcina. Njengabanyangi, singabonisa izibini amathuba ezithembiso ezaneleyo ezaneleyo kwaye sibancede baziqhelanise ngokungaguquguqukiyo de ukuthembana kuqala ukuthatha ingcambu.
Ukuvumela ukuba semngciphekweni kongeza kancinci ukusondelelana. Kuyothusa ukuba sesichengeni kuba ukhuseleko yenye yezona mfuno zisisiseko zabantu. Okwangoku, owona msebenzi ubalaseleyo kwizibini wenziwe kanye kuloo mmandla apho ukuba sesichengeni kunye nokwenzakala okuncinci kunokubuyiselwa ngokuxolisa ngokunyanisekileyo kunye nokubonisa ngokucacileyo ukuzibophelela kwaye kuguqulwe kube kukuthandana.