Umxholo
- 1. Loluphi ulwimi lwakho lothando?
- 2. Madoda bathande abafazi benu.
- 3. Abafazi bahloneleni abayeni benu.
- 4. IINKCUKACHA
Emva kweminyaka emithandathu sithandana-sadibana kwibanga lesi-5 kodwa akazange andithandane de kube li-11- kunye neminyaka engama-38 sitshatile, mna nomfazi wam sonwabile eyona minyaka yethu yobudlelwane.
Ibiyinto nje elula kodwa kwaye bekukho amaxesha apho sobabini besicinga ukuba kunokuba lula ukuyibiza iyeke. Ngaba ninako ukunxibelelana neqabane lakho?
Ezilandelayo Izitshixo ezine zothando olungapheliyo khange ibe sisixhobo nje sokugcina thina kunye, bona wasizisela imvisiswano kunye nokukhuseleka emtshatweni esiyonwabelayo namhlanje.
Le migaqo yendalo iphela iya kuba nefuthe elihle kumtshato wakho njengoko uyisebenzisa.
Ezi zitshixo zothando lobomi bonke ziya kukunceda uqonde ukuba ungawenza njani umtshato owawuhlala ukufuna.
1. Loluphi ulwimi lwakho lothando?
Ukuze uliqonde ngcono iqabane lakho, kufuneka uziqonde ngokupheleleyo. Ngokumangalisayo Isixhobo esisebenzayo esiza kukunika ukuqonda okutsha kwintambo yakho yangaphakathi yincwadi kaGqirha Gary Chapman, Iilwimi ezi-5 zothando.
Ithengise iikopi ezizizigidi ezili-12 kwaye iguqulelwe kwiilwimi ezingaphezu kwama-50. Wena neqabane lakho ninokuthatha uvavanyo lolwimi ngaphandle kwentlawulo
Iziphumo ziya kubonisa ukuba zeziphi kwezi lwimi zintlanu uzithethayo. Nangona kunjalo, kukho iilwimi ezininzi kwiilwimi eziphambili.
Thatha uvavanyo, uprinte iziphumo, uxoxe nabanye ulwimi lwakho oluphezulu (iilwimi). Thetha malunga nemiba emininzi yolwimi lwakho lothando kwaye ninikezane ngomzekelo wokuba bathetha nini ulwimi lwakho njengabemi.
2. Madoda bathande abafazi benu.
Ayimangalisi into yokuba i IBhayibhile iyalela amadoda ukuba abathande abafazi bawo. Kodwa igama lesiGrike santlandlolo lolu hlobo luthande ukugcwala kunegama lesiNgesi.
Emva kwayo yonke loo nto, igama elithi uthando lingazichaza njani ngokwaneleyo iimvakalelo zakho kwiqabane lakho kunye nokutya okuthandayo, imovie, izihlangu, umdlalo, okanye iqela lezemidlalo? Uhlobo lothando uThixo ayalela amadoda ukuba athabathe abafazi bawo alunantlonelo kwaye alunabundlobongela.
Olu hlobo lothando luhlala lubiza. Ingadla imali, amandla, ixesha, okanye umgudu, kodwa ihlala ixabisa. Kwaye oku Uhlobo lwebhayibhile lothando alufunanga mbuyekezo. Kulula? Hayi akunjalo.
Ekuphela kwendlela amadoda anokuthi alunike olu hlobo lothando kukusoloko ecela uncedo lukaThixo. Kwaye i Indoda ifuna umfazi wayo ukuba ayixelele ngalo lonke ixesha eyifumana kakuhle.
Kukwaluncedo olukhulu xa umfazi ezibophelela ekubeni luhlobo olulula-lokungazicingeli-luthando lomfazi ngokuhlonipha ngokupheleleyo indoda yakhe.
3. Abafazi bahloneleni abayeni benu.
Kuyamangalisa ukuba uThixo angaxeleli abafazi ukuba bathande abayeni babo kodwa endaweni yoko bawahloniphe kwaye bawathande. Izifundo ezininzi ezizimeleyo kunye nezifundo zaseyunivesithi ziye zaqinisekisa okufundiswa yiBhayibhile.
Esona sidingo sikhulu somntu, ngokuyila, kukuziva uhlonitshwa. Madoda, njengoko nithatha uvavanyo olu-5 lweeLwimi zoLuthando, endaweni yegama elithi uthando nithi lihloniphe.
Kuya kukunceda uphendule imibuzo ngokulula. Abafazi, ngekhe umhlonele kwaye umhlonele ngokwakho. Akuzi ngokwemvelo kuwe.
Cela uThixo akuncede. Kwaye ukuqonde oku: eyona ndawo indoda yakho ifuna ukuziva uhlonitshwa kuyo ngomsebenzi wakhe.
Madoda qinisekani ukuba niyabaxelela abafazi benu ngalo lonke ixesha niziva nihlonitshwa kwaye ninconywa. Umnika uhlobo lothando aludingayo ngokuzabalazela ukuba luhlobo lomyeni ekulula ukuluhlonipha.
4. IINKCUKACHA
Kutheni ndithetha nje? UThixo ukunike iindlebe ezimbini nomlomo omnye ke qiniseka ukuba uzisebenzisa ngokulinganayo! Ukuze ube ngumphulaphuli ophumeleleyo kufuneka wenze iqabane lakho lizive liviwa.
Ukuba utshatile ngaphezulu kwemizuzu embalwa, uyazi kakuhle into yokwemvelo ukuba sonke sifuna ukuviwa kunokuba sifune ukumamela. Yilwa nesilingo sokufumana ingcaciso.
Ziqeqeshe ngokwakho kwi-WAT Qhubeka ubuza imibuzo de iqabane lakho liqiniseke ukuba uyaziqonda kwaye uyayixabisa imbono yabo. Khumbula ukuthetha ulwimi lwabo xa umamele.
Nika umtshato wakho yonke into onayo ngokwenza indima yakho. Cela uThixo ukuba omeleze yonke imihla. Zibophezele ekusebenzeni le migaqo kwaye uyakuhlonipha uThixo kwaye ukhuthaze iqabane lakho, abantwana, abahlobo, kunye nawo wonke umntu kwinethiwekhi yefuthe lakho. Landela ezi zitshixo zine ukwenza umtshato owakha waphupha ngawo.