Umxholo
- Ukungabikho kovelwano
- 1. Ukusetyenziswa nokuxhatshazwa
- 2. Ukuzithemba kakhulu
- 3. Ukuphathwa ngokweemvakalelo
- Ukudala umfanekiso ozimeleyo
- 5. Abancokolayo abangalunganga
“Iflethi emhlabeni, ucinga iinkwenkwezi ezimbini, amehlo akhe, neenwele zakhe, zilungele uBacchus, zilungele uApollo, izidlele zakhe zobutsha nentamo yophondo lwendlovu, ubuhle bobuso bakhe, irosisi egubungele ubumhlophe bekhephu, encoma yonke into ayithandayo ”- Incwadi III: 402-436 UNarcissus uzibona kwaye uyathandana, Metamorphoses trans. nguA. S. Klein
Ibali likaNarcissus libalisa ibali lendoda entle ethandana nayo.
Kwibali, uthando lwakhe ngaye lwalomelele kangangokuba wancama ukuthanda ezinye iincam ezintle ukugxila kuye. Ibali likaNarcissus kukuphefumlelwa emva kwengxaki yengqondo ebizwa ngokuba yiNarcissism.
Iingcali zengqondo ziye zafunda ukufuna ukwazi okungaphaya kobudlelwane beNarcissistic yoBuntu obuDibeneyo kwaye beza nolu phawu lubonakalayo lokwazi ukuba ukunye.
Kwaye olo phawu lu-
Ukungabikho kovelwano
Iingcali zengqondo zichaze ukuphazamiseka kwe-narcissistic njengokuphazamiseka ekusebenzeni kobuntu apho abantu abachaphazelekayo kwesi sifo babonisa ukungabikho kovelwano. Oku kusilela kovelwano kwabanye kuthiwa yeyona nto ibekahlula iNarcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) kwezinye iingxaki zobuntu.
Uvelwano luchazwa njengamandla okuqonda iimvakalelo zomnye umntu neengcinga zakhe. Kwaye ke, kubalulekile kulwalamano ukuze usebenze kwaye uqhakaze.
Ukuba elinye iqabane libonisa ukungabikho kovelwano ngenxa yokuphazamiseka kubuntu, kuya kupela ingxaki kubantu ababini abakulo.
Ukunqongophala kovelwano kubudlelwane beNarcissistic Personality Disorder kungabonwa kwezi ndlela zilandelayo zokuziphatha:
1. Ukusetyenziswa nokuxhatshazwa
Ukusetyenziswa yinto nje bummer. Ukuba kubudlelwane obusebenzisayo nobukuxhaphazayo? Ngoku yinto ekufuneka ucinge kabini ngayo.
Ubudlelwane beNarcissistic Disorder ubudlelwane buneziseko kwiipateni 'zokusetyenziswa kunye nokuxhatshazwa'. Kungenxa yokuba iqabane lokuziphatha kakubi liya kusebenzisa kwaye likuhlukumeze ngenxa yenzuzo yabo. Ukuba ujongene nobudlelwane bokungaziphathi kakuhle kunye ne-narcissism yabo ayiveli kuwe, ke kukho into kuwe efunwa liqabane lakho elingathandekiyo kwaye abayi kuba nazintloni ekuthatheni loo nto-ngakumbi ukuba ulwalamano nabo.
Ukuba kubudlelwane kunye ne-narcissist kunokuba gadalala kakhulu kuba umntu one-NPD uzingca kwaye uya kubonisa ukungabikho kovelwano.
Lumkiswa ukuba uyakholelwa ukuba uku ubudlelwane bokungalunganga kobuntu-le ndlela yokuziphatha iya kubangela umonakalo kwi-psyche yakho.
2. Ukuzithemba kakhulu
Umzekelo ocacileyo we-narcissist obonisa ukuzimela kwabo kukufika kwabo emva kwexesha lokuqeshwa kunye nemihla. Ukufika emva kwexesha kulungile ukuba unesizathu esivakalayo esifana netayara eligqabhukileyo okanye ingozi engephi kodwa, ukuba uqaphela iqabane lakho ukuba bahlala emva kwexesha kwaye isizathu sabo sihlala siwela emigceni ka “Akukho nto, ndive ngathi yiyo. ”
Sisiteyitimenti esibonisa ukungabikho kovelwano, kwaye ukuba uyayiqaphela le patheni kwezinye iindawo zobomi bakho, inokuba luphawu olucacileyo lokuba ubandakanyeka kubudlelwane bokungalunganga kobuntu, kwaye unokufuna ukubuyela umva.
Ukusetha ixesha lemihla yakho yindlela yokumisela umthetho, kwaye i-narcissist, evakalisa ukuzimela ngokuzithemba kuthetha ukuba baya kuyinyathela le mithetho kwaye bangabopheki yiyo. Akuncedi ukubeka le mida kunye nemithetho endaweni xa unobuhlobo bobuNtu obunguNarcissistic ngenxa yokuba i-narcissist iya kuyaphula yonke. Ngoba? Kungenxa yokuba baziva ngathi bangaphezulu kwayo kwaye abayikukhathalela malunga nokucinga kwakho.
3. Ukuphathwa ngokweemvakalelo
Ukuba kubudlelwane beNarcissistic yoBuntu obuNgathandekiyo yi-rollercoaster yeemvakalelo.
IiNarcissists ziyaphumelela kwiimvakalelo ezingalunganga, abathi bazisebenzise ngomlingo eziluncedo zabo. Benza uzive ungonwabanga ukuze bazive bhetele.
Ii-egos ze-Narcissists zibuthathaka kakhulu kuba ngaphakathi, zinoluvo olungeyonyani lwesibindi. Onke amandla abo obuntu asetyenziswa nje njenge-facade yokufihla indlela ababuthathaka ngayo ngaphakathi.
Naziphi na izoyikiso kwimifanekiso yabo ekhuselekileyo ziya kulungiswa ngokukhawuleza. Kwaye ngenxa yokuswela kwabo uvelwano, baya kukubeka ityala, bakwenze uzive ungaphantsi, ukugwebe, kwaye bade bakugculele ukuqinisekisa ukuba baya kuphuma njengoyena mntu ulunge ngakumbi.
Ukudala umfanekiso ozimeleyo
Umntu we-narcissistic uya kwenza konke okusemandleni abo ukuze azenzele umfanekiso omkhulu. Baza kwenza nantoni na ukuze baphume ngaphezulu komntu wonke. Baya kuxoka kwaye bakuxhaphaze ukuze ufike kwicala lakho ngakumbi xa ungumthombo wamafutha abo.
AmaNarcissist ayaphumelela ekudaleni ugqithiso lokuziva ubalulekile.
Bakholelwa ukuba wena, njengeqabane labo, ngekhe ubenakho ukuhlala ngaphandle kobukho babo.
Ukuqinisekisa ukuba awuyenzi, banokuya kwinqanaba lokususa, inkululeko yakho yezemali (okanye ezinye iindlela zokuzimela) ukuze uxhomekeke kubo. Esi senzo sokuxhomekeka sinokubonwa njengendlela yabo yokwandisa ukuzithemba kwabo.
5. Abancokolayo abangalunganga
Mna. Mna. Mna! Yiplanethi yam xa uku ubudlelwane beNarcissistic Personality Disorder, kwaye 'me' inxulumene kuphela nomntu one-narcissism- hayi wena !.
Awunakuba nencoko efanelekileyo nomntu one-NPD.
Bayakuthanda ukuthetha ngokwabo kangangokuba iincoko zakho zinokuphela zizizinto zonke ezimalunga nabo.
Iingcinga zabo, kunye neemvakalelo zabo kuba yiyo yonke loo nto ibalulekileyo kubo. Kunzima ukujova izimvo zakho kwincoko; izimvo zakho ziya kubekelwa bucala, zilungiswe okanye zigxothwe.
Xa ekugqibeleni lithuba lakho lokuthetha, okanye utshintshe isihloko sakho, baya kukuphazamisa ukuze ingqwalaselo ibuyele kubo. Kwakhona, nangona oku kunokuba yinto ekrwada kwabanye abantu, oku kuqhelekile kummangaleli ngokuba konke okubalulekileyo ziimbono zabo kunye neziqu zabo ... Akukho nto ingako.