Umxholo
- Ngaba utshatile kwi-narcissist?
- Iingxaki zomtshato eziqhelekileyo
- 1. Umona ogqithisileyo
- 2. Ulawulo lulonke
- 3. Umlingane vs abantwana
- 4. Lonke uzuko luya ku ...
- Ukuphathwa gadalala
- 1. Ukuxhatshazwa ngamazwi
- 2. Ubizwa ngokuba u-ethe-ethe kakhulu
- 3. Ukungcungcuthekisa ngokweemvakalelo
- 4. Ukuxhatshazwa ngokwasemzimbeni
- Kutheni kubalulekile ukufuna uncedo
Xa ubona umntu oxhalabele kakhulu inkangeleko yakhe kwaye eneneni ezixakekisile, sihlala simbiza lo mntu ukuba yi-narcissist ngenxa yokwandiswa kwegama kodwa ayisiyiyo eyona nto ichanekileyo.
Ukuphazamiseka kubuntu bukaNarcissistic okanye i-NPD ayisosiqhulo okanye nje igama elilula lokuchaza umntu othanda ukubukeka emkhulu kwaye ebiza kakhulu. I-narcissist yokwenyani iya kujikela umhlaba wakho ngakumbi xa utshatile.
Iingxaki zomtshato weNarcissistic zixhaphakile kunokuba ucinga kwaye oku kuye kwenza wonke umntu acinge, "Kunjani ukuba neqabane eline-NPD?"
Ngaba utshatile kwi-narcissist?
Iimaski zicinyiwe! Ngoku ukuba utshatile, lixesha lokuba ubone eyona nto iqabane lakho liyiyo. Lindela ezo mpawu zingalunganga ukuba zibonise njengokurhona, ukumosheka kwendlu, kunye nokungafuni ukucoceka- zizinto eziqhelekileyo onokuzilindela ukuba zilungile?
Nangona kunjalo, kwabo basandula ukutshata i-narcissist, ayisiyiyo le bayilindeleyo kunokuba ibe ngumntu ohluke ngokupheleleyo kunendoda okanye umfazi abafunde ukumthanda nokumhlonipha-oyena mntu batshate naye uneengxaki zobuntu kwaye kakhulu eyonakalisayo.
Iingxaki zomtshato eziqhelekileyo
Sonke sinombono wokuba umntu oxokayo uxoka njani, ulawula njani, kwaye uhlala njani kumfanekiso wobuxoki wobungangamsha kodwa kuthekani ngezona ngxaki zixhaphakileyo zomtshato? Kulabo baqala nje ubomi babo kunye njengesibini esitshatileyo kunye namaqabane abo e-narcissist, nazi ezinye zeengxaki eziqhelekileyo ezinokulindelwa.
1. Umona ogqithisileyo
I-narcissist ifuna ukuba nayo yonke ingqalelo kunye nothando lwabantu ababangqongileyo. Ngaphandle kwalokhu, iqabane lomlingisi we-narcissist aliyi kuvumela nabani na ukuba abe ngcono, abe nobukrelekrele okanye nabani na onamandla ngaphezu kwabo.
Oku kunokubangela umona onokuthi ubangele iimpikiswano ezigabadeleyo kwaye ugxeke wena ngokudlala ngothando okanye ungabi liqabane elithembekileyo. Ukuba kunokwenzeka, lonke ukhuphiswano kufuneka lususwe.
Ngaphakathi ngaphakathi u-narcissist uloyiko lokuba kukho umntu ongaphaya apho yiyo loo nto umona oxhaphakileyo uqhelekile.
2. Ulawulo lulonke
I-narcissist iya kufuna ukukulawula ngenxa yokuba ifuna ukuziva amandla okulawula wonke umntu okujikelezileyo.
Zininzi iindlela ezinokuthi zisetyenziselwe ukukuphatha njengeengxoxo, ukugxeka, amagama amnandi kunye nezimbo zomzimba kwaye ukuba ayisebenzi, umntu one-NPD uya kukulawula usebenzisa ityala. Ubuthathaka bakho ngamandla e-narcissist kunye nethuba.
3. Umlingane vs abantwana
Umzali oqhelekileyo uya kubeka abantwana bakhe kuqala ngaphambi kwayo nayiphi na into emhlabeni kodwa ingabi ngumzali we-narcissist. Umntwana yenye yeendebe zokulawula okanye ukhuphiswano oluza kufumana indlela yabo yokuba liziko lokuqwalaselwa.
Uya kuqala ukukhutshwa ngendlela iqabane lakho eliza kukhuphisana ngayo nabantwana okanye indlela eya kusetyenziswa ngayo ukubenza bacinge njenge-narcissist.
4. Lonke uzuko luya ku ...
Iingxaki zomtshato weNarcissistic ziya kuhlala zibandakanya le. Xa usenza into, lindela ukuba iqabane lakho lifumane ikhredithi. Ayinguwe okanye abantwana bakho oya kuba nelungelo lokuyithathela kubo. Akukho mntu ulunge ngaphezu kweqabane elithandanayo kuba ukuba uzama ukuba ngcono uzakuqala nje isiqephu sempikiswano, amagama arhabaxa kunye nobundlongondlongo.
Ukuphathwa gadalala
Enye yeengxaki ezothusayo umntu ajongana nayo xa etshatile neqabane lika-narcissist kukuphathwa gadalala. Yahlukile kwiingxaki zomtshato ezixhaphakileyo ngenxa yokuba sele zithathelwa ingqalelo njengophatho gadalala kwaye zinokuba zizizathu zoqhawulo mtshato kunye namatyala olwaphulo-mthetho xa unokumangala kwaye ucele uncedo.
Chonga iimpawu wazi ukuba sele uxhatshaziwe emva koko uthathe amanyathelo. Ukuphathwa gadalala ayisiyonto yokwenzakala ngokwasemzimbeni kuphela malunga nezinto ezininzi ezinje:
1. Ukuxhatshazwa ngamazwi
Ukuxhatshazwa ngamazwi ngowona mlo uxhaphakileyo oza kusetyenziswa ngunokresa ukulawula ukoyikisa iqabane. Oku kuyakuquka ukukujongela phantsi, ukungcungcuthekisa naphambi kwabanye abantu, ukutyhola ngaphandle kwesizathu, ukukubeka ityala ngayo yonke into ethiyekileyo i-narcissist, ukukuhlazisa ungazisoli, ukufuna kwaye uku-odole.
Ezi zezinye zezinto ezinokuthi zenziwe mihla le kunye nezisongelo kunye nomsindo xa unengxoxo eshushu.
2. Ubizwa ngokuba u-ethe-ethe kakhulu
Sele uxhatshaziwe xa usenziwa ubuqhetseba kuyo nayiphi na into efunwa liqabane lakho ukuba liye kwindawo apho wonke umntu eya kuzikholelwa kwaye azokugxeka njengonobuntununtunu obugqithisileyo.
Ukusuka kumtsalane ukuya kwizithembiso zobuxoki ukuya kwityala lokukufaka ekuhambeni kwakhe nakwezinye ezininzi. Kungenxa yokuba umntu one-NPD angabonisa umhlaba ubuntu obahlukileyo, umntu othandekayo nonomtsalane, onoxanduva kunye nomyeni ogqibeleleyo- imaski ukuze ibonwe ngumntu wonke.
3. Ukungcungcuthekisa ngokweemvakalelo
Ukubamba amalungelo akho njengokutya, imali, nothando lwabantwana bakho xa ungenzi into ethethwa liqabane lakho. Kuyafana nokuba iqabane lakho lingakuphatha njani ngokweemvakalelo ukuze likulawule.
4. Ukuxhatshazwa ngokwasemzimbeni
Okulusizi kukuba, ngaphandle kwempatho gadalala, ukuphathwa gadalala kunokubakho njengokuphosa izinto kuwe, ukonakalisa izinto zakho, ukutshisa iimpahla zakho kwaye kungakhokelela ekubetheni wena.
Kutheni kubalulekile ukufuna uncedo
Ekuqaleni xa ubona iimpawu zokuba uneqabane elingumlingisi, kufanele ukuba sele ucinga ngokufumana uncedo. Thetha neqabane lakho kwaye nibone ukuba bakulungele ukufumana naluphi na uncedo kwaye emva koko balalanise.
Ukuba ubona ukuba iqabane lakho alizukuyenza, mhlawumbi luphawu lokuba kufuneka ufune uncedo ngokwakho. Kubalulekile ukwenza oku kwangoko kubudlelwane ukuze iqabane elingumlingisi lingathathi ulawulo lobomi bakho kwaye uqhubeke nobobu budlelwane.
Kuya kufuneka ukhumbule ukuba iingxaki zomtshato ezithandekayo zinokuba lula kwaye zinokulawulwa ekuqaleni kodwa ukuba uyalinyamezela ixesha elide ngokwaneleyo, lindela ukuba linyukele kumtshato oxhaphazayo ongazukukwenza ubanjiswe kwaye uxhatshazwe kodwa uya kuhlala ixesha elide. ukusebenza kwengqondo kungekuphela kuwe kodwa nakubantwana bakho.