Umxholo
- Ukulindela okuyinyani kubudlelwane
- Ubudlelwane phakathi kwendoda nomfazi
- Ukuqonda iyantlukwano yethu
- Isikhonkwane sokugqibela ebhokisini
- Amaqokobhe enathi
Kuya kufuneka ukuba uyive amaxesha asisigidi, nokuba kungobomi okanye ubudlelwane ekufuneka buthotyise ukulindela kwabo kubudlelwane okanye kubomi. Le ngcebiso, nangona kunjalo, ayihlali kakuhle nenani labantu.
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Emva kokudibana nentsimi ngaphezulu kweshumi leminyaka, esenza uphando kunye nohlalutyo, ukugqibile oko abantu ngokubanzi bafumana oko bakulindeleyo - ebomini kunye nobudlelwane.
Kufana nokukhupha iintlobo ezithile zamandla kwindalo iphela; utsala into oyikhululayo.
IBaucom yeyenkolelo yokuba ukuba umntu angathoba imigangatho yabo ecinga ukuba yile nto yokuba kubudlelwane kubandakanya, kwaye le yinto ekufuneka ibubomi, ke ngoku banika abanye babo abalulekileyo onke amathuba okuhamba kuwo wonke.
Wafumanisa ukuba abantu abanemigangatho ephezulu bajonge ngabom abanye abalulekileyo abanee-etiquettes, zentlalo kunye neenkcubeko, kunye nokukhuliswa; kwaye ngenxa yolindelo lwabo oluphezulu, iqabane labo liyazi ukuba abanakunyathelwa phantsi kwaye banyathela kancinci.
Ukulindela okuyinyani kubudlelwane
Ngale nto ithethwayo, kubalulekile ukugcina ulindelo lolwalamano luyinyani kwaye lunokufezekiseka.
Ukuqonda iqabane lakho, ukuqhuba kwabo, iminqweno yabo kunye neenjongo zabo zibalulekile.
Olunye ulindelo oluphosakeleyo kukuba wonke umntu ulindele ukuba nendlu efana nayo ukuba ayifani ncam naleyo bakhulele kuyo. Ngoyaba inyani yokuba amaqabane abo ngebakhuliswe ngengqondo eyahluke ngokupheleleyo, babeka ulindelo, olukhokelela ekuphoxekeni kwisiphelo esinye okanye zombini.
Umntu kufuneka afunde umahluko emtshatweni phakathi kwabazali kunye nowabo.
Njengoko intetho isitsho, sigqiba ukutshata okanye ukuhlala phantsi nomntu ofana nabazali bethu.
Ngokukodwa kungenxa yokhuseleko kunye nokuzola ababonelelwa yi-aura yabo. Nangona kunjalo, ukugcina ulindelo lokuba baya kwenza ikhaya elinye kukutyhala nje umda kabani.
Ulindelo lobudlelwane kufuneka lwakhiwe ngexesha kwaye kufuneka luhlale luhamba. Umntu akanakulindela ukuba inkosikazi yakhe yeminyaka elishumi iziphathe ngendlela efanayo naleyo wayeziphatha ngayo kwiminyaka yokuqala.
Ubudlelwane phakathi kwendoda nomfazi
Njengoko kucetyisiwe ngaphambili, abantu kufuneka babeke imigangatho yabo ephezulu kwaye bakholelwe ukuba ikamva labo elibalulekileyo kufuneka babathande, babanike imbeko, kwaye babahloniphe; ukuba baya kuhlala ngolonwabo ngonaphakade.
Nangona kunjalo, kufuneka bazi ukuba akukho nto injalo. Ngokukhawuleza ukuba ixesha lokutshata liphela, kwaye ekugqibeleni, kwaye ubomi bokwenene buyangena, umzuzu kunye neengxabano ezincinci ziqala.
Kwaye umntu kufuneka akhumbule ukuba wena kunye nomnye obalulekileyo ninabantu ababini abahlukeneyo nabahlukeneyo. Uneenjongo ezahlukeneyo, amaxabiso, iingqondo, kunye nenkqubo yokucinga. Akukho bantu babini abantakwethu abafanayo, emva koko banokufana njani abantu ababini abangabaziyo?
Ukuqonda iyantlukwano yethu
Ukwahluka kobuntu emtshatweni kuqheleke kakhulu.
Ngaba wakha weva ngokuchasene nokutsala? Enye into ebalulekileyo echaseneyo, isiqingatha sakho esingcono. Kuza kubakho amaxesha apho niya kuxabana, nilwe, niphikisane, nibe namathe, kodwa kuya kubakho uhlobo lwentlonelo entliziyweni yeqabane lakho.
Ukuxabana kungokwemvelo logama nje injongo yesi sibini ihleli injalo. Ekuphela kwendlela yokuphumelela kubudlelwane apho abantu ababini bechasene polar omnye nomnye kuxa omabini amaqela eya kufunda ukuba ukuqonda umahluko kuphela kwendlela yokuqhubela phambili nokwakha ubomi obonwabisayo.
Ukuqonda kubudlelwane ikwayindlela yentlonipho nembeko oyolulela kwiqabane lakho. Kufana nokuba uyabamkela njengomntu owahlukileyo kwaye ubanika indawo yokukhula ngakumbi, endaweni yokulahla okulindelweyo kubo.
Ukugcina ulindelo lolwalamano lwakho luphantsi akuthethi ukuba uvumela abanye bakunyathele.
Isikhonkwane sokugqibela ebhokisini
Ukulindela okungalindelekanga.
Lonke ulwalamano-nokuba lolwabahlobo, osebenza nabo, abathandayo, okanye abatshatileyo-kufuneka babenalo unxibelelwano. Umntu akanakulindela ukuba iqabane lakhe libenzele izinto, abangazange baxoxe ngalo. Ekupheleni kosuku, bangamaqabane akho, hayi abenzi bemilingo ukuba bafunde ingqondo yakho kwaye banyukele kwiminqweno yakho. Gcina ulindelo lwakho lolwalamano luphezulu kodwa luyinyani.
Oko akuthethi ukuba awunakuwenza umzamo.
Amadoda ngokubanzi azama ukuphuma kwizinto ngokuthi ukuqonda ingqondo yomfazi yinto engenakwenzeka.
Sonke sibonile ubuninzi beememes kunye neziqhulo. Kuyinyani ukuba abantu abafundanga ngengqondo; Nangona kunjalo, emva kokuchitha ixesha elininzi, kwezinye iimeko iminyaka okanye amashumi eminyaka, umntu unokuqikelela ukuba ufundile ngokubhekisele kwiminqweno kunye nokulindelwe liqabane lakho.
Kwicala lokudibanisa, nokuba iqabane lakho belingalindelanga ukuba lenze nje izitya ngaphandle kokucela, zisa isipha seentyatyambo ngaphandle kwaso nasiphi na isihlandlo, okanye upheke isidlo sangokuhlwa okanye u-odole ukutya; inokuba yinto emangalisayo!
Kukwanjalo nakwamanenekazi ngokunjalo; Ukuqonda umyeni wakho okanye ubuncinci ukuzama ukwenza njalo kubalulekile kumtshato. Ukwazi iminqweno yeqabane lakho, ukuyizalisekisa, okanye ukuyihlonipha yinxalenye yolwalamano lwabo.
Amaqokobhe enathi
Ukulindelwa ligama elingenakuthintelwa kangangokuba abantu badla ngokuzikhwebula kulo, kwaye lowo ulindele unyango olungcono okanye isimilo esingcono kwabanye senziwe ukuba azive ngokungathi ngoyena ungaqhelekanga.
Ulindelo lobudlelwane akufuneki ukuba lungafezekiseki okanye loyike.
Banokwabelwana ngazo kwaye basebenze kuzo kwaye kufaneleke ukuba zibekho. Abantu, ekuhambeni kwexesha, batshintsha babe ngcono; ngokunjalo kufuneka okulindelweyo.