Umxholo
- 1. Fundani kunye
- 2. Zibandakanye kwezobugcisa nezobugcisa
- Cula iingoma
- 4. Imidlalo yeBhodi kunokuba mnandi!
- 5. Thatha uhambo olude kunye
- 6. Yiba nepikniki
- 7. Dlalani imidlalo kunye
- 8. Fundisa abantwana bakho izinto ezintsha zokuzonwabisa
- Iingcinga zokugqibela
Fumana iindlela zokuyila zokuchitha ixesha elininzi kunye nabantwana bakho ukuze uhlakulele ubudlelwane obomeleleyo bomzali nomntwana obunokuhlala ubomi bakho bonke.
Ukuchitha ixesha nabantwana bakho kuya kunceda ukwakha iinkumbulo ezikhethekileyo zosapho. Abantwana bakho baya kuyikhumbula le mizuzu njengokuba bekhula kwaye beziqalela ezabo iintsapho. Ukudibana nabantwana bakho kunokuba lula njengokuncedisa kwimisebenzi yabo yasekhaya okanye ukwenza imisebenzi kunye.
Kodwa, kuya kufuneka uqonde ukuba kubalulekile ukudibana nabantwana bakho.
Kukwakho neminye imisebenzi elula kodwa eyonwabisayo eninokuyixabisa nobomi. U-Selene Diong, inqununu ye-Sparkanauts ucacisa ukuba "Ukudlala ngokusebenzisana kuya kunceda abantwana bakhulise izakhono, ezinje ngokusebenzisana, ukuthatha umngcipheko, ukuzazi okuphezulu, ukuzithemba nokunye okunokubanceda kakhulu kwimfundo yabo yobomi bonke."
Ngokuvumela abantwana bakho ukuba babe ngabantwana kunye nokuzibandakanya nabo kulonwabo, uya kuba nakho ukuzibandakanya kumdlalo onenjongo kunye nokwenza ubudlelwane obusondeleyo nabo.
Funda ukuze ufunde imisebenzi embalwa elula kunye neyonwabisayo yokubopha umntwana wakho ekhaya
1. Fundani kunye
Yenza kube mnandi ukufunda ngokufumana iphepha-lokujika elinokufundela abantwana bakho ngokuvakalayo kwaye uliguqule libe yinto yokusebenzisana. Ungababuza malunga nokuba kwenzeka ntoni ngokulandelayo ebalini. Usenokubabuza malunga nento abanokuyenza ukuba bakuloo meko.
Yeyona ndlela igqibeleleyo yokwazi umntwana wakho kunye nokufumana umbono wendlela alibona ngayo ilizwe.
Nyusa ubumnandi kwaye uyenze idlalwe ngakumbi ngokwenza izandi zezilwanyana kunye nezandi njengoko ubalisa ibali.
Xa ufunda incwadi yabo abayithandayo, unokwenza umdlalo wokudlala. Kwaye, le yeyona ndlela igqibeleleyo yokudibana nabantwana bakho.
2. Zibandakanye kwezobugcisa nezobugcisa
Ulwakha njani ulwalamano oluluqilima nomntwana?
Ukuzibandakanya kubugcisa nakwimisebenzi yobugcisa yindlela yonyango yokuhlangana kunye nabantwana bakho. Ikwayenye yeengcamango ezilula nezimnandi zokubopha abantwana bakho.
Thenga iincwadi zokufaka imibala kubantwana bakho kwaye ubabuze malunga nosuku lwabo njengoko ugcwalisa ngemibala ebonakalayo.
Ungayila icala lobugcisa lomntwana wakho kwaye ufundise indlela yokudibanisa imibala kunye nokwenza umthunzi.
Cula iingoma
Unokwenza ulwalamano oludibeneyo ngokudlala iingoma zakho ezizithandayo kunye kunye nokucula ngelixa udansa.
Ngaphandle koko, unokungena kwi-CD yesandi somculo we-movie oyintandokazi kunye ne-jam ngexesha lokuqhuba ixesha elide.
4. Imidlalo yeBhodi kunokuba mnandi!
Dibanisa nabantwana bakho ngokujula imingeni kubo ngohlobo lwemidlalo kwaye ubavumele ukuba baphumelele.
Ngapha koko, imidlalo yebhodi inokunceda abantwana bakho baphuhlise izakhono zemathematics kwaye bafunde amaxabiso abalulekileyo njengokulinda ngomonde ithuba labo kunye nokwabelana. Unako kwakhona ukukhulisa ukhuphiswano lwabo oluya kuba luncedo kwixa elizayo ukuze bafunde indlela yokuphumelela ngokugqwesa.
5. Thatha uhambo olude kunye
Lo ngumsebenzi omkhulu wokugcina wena kunye nomntwana wakho ulungile. Akufuneki ukuba ikwimo yokuhamba ngamandla okanye ukubaleka. Unokuhambahamba uhamba kunye xa uhamba nenja okanye uhambe epakini ngelixa ujonga indalo.
Uphando lubonisa ukuba ukonwabela indalo kunye kuyayiphucula impilo yakho kunye neemvakalelo zabantwana bakho, kwaye ithathwa njengenye yeendlela eziphambili zokubopha ubuhlobo nomntwana wakho. Ngapha koko, iyanceda ukunciphisa uxinzelelo ukuze nobabini niqiniseke ukuba niya ekhaya ngoncumo.
6. Yiba nepikniki
Iipikniki akufuneki zisoloko zisenziwa ngaphandle. Xa kushushu kakhulu ngaphandle kwipikniki, hlela ngaphakathi ngaphakathi apho unokufumana ixesha lokutya okuluncuthu ngelixa uncokola. Unokucela abantwana bakho ukuba babe noonodoli kunye nezinto zabo zokudlala zikujoyine.
Le yenye yeendlela ezilula zokwakha iqhina elingenakuqhekeka nomntwana wakho.
7. Dlalani imidlalo kunye
Ukuvumela abantwana ukuba babe ngabantwana kuthetha ukubavumela ukuba bonwabele ixesha lokudlala.
Ukudlala lolona lwimi luphambili lwabantwana.
Ke, ukuba unqwenela ukunxibelelana, kuya kufuneka ujoyine imisebenzi yexesha lokudlala ukwakha ubudlelwane obomeleleyo nabantwana bakho.
Xa udlala nabantwana bakho, baya kuphuhlisa ubudlelwane obusondeleyo nawe kwaye bakubone njengomlingane ongenekayo abanokuxhomekeka kubo. Uphando lukwabonakalisile ukuba zikhona ezinye izibonelelo zokudlala kunye nabantwana bakho ezinje ngeziganeko ezincinci zokuzahlula uxinzelelo kwinxalenye yabantwana kunye nokwehla kwesizungu.
UPeter Gray, Ph.D., unjingalwazi wophando kwiKholeji yaseBoston nombhali wencwadi ethi Free to Learn (Basic Books) and Psychology uthi “Ukudlala akufuneki kube luxanduva; kufuneka ihlale iyonwabisa.
Dlala, ngokwenkcazo, yinto ofuna ukuyenza; ke ukuba 'udlala' nomntwana wakho ungafuni, awudlali. ”
8. Fundisa abantwana bakho izinto ezintsha zokuzonwabisa
Abantwana zizinto ezinomdla.
Bayakuvuyela ukubafundisa into entsha nenomdla. Ngaphandle kwemisebenzi yesiqhelo efana nokwenza ibhedi yabo okanye ukucoca emva kokungcola kwabo, bafundise izinto ezingadinisi kangako njengokubhaka, ukwenza igadi, okanye ukuthunga. Akunyanzelekanga ukuba ibe nzulu.
Yenza kukhanye kwaye kugcwele ukuhleka ukukunceda udibane nabantwana bakho.
Nantsi ividiyo ebonisa ukuba umntwana angafundiswa ngokulula iziseko zokulima:
Iingcinga zokugqibela
Xa ubandakanyeka kwimisebenzi enomdla neyonwabisayo, abantwana bakho baya kuba nakho ukuphucula ulwazi kunye nezakhono ezahlukeneyo. Ngale ndlela, ukufunda kuyenziwa mnandi! Eyona nto ibaluleke kakhulu, bayenza kunye noyena mntu ubalulekileyo emhlabeni kubo-wena, mzali wabo.
Ngale misebenzi yokudityaniswa komzali nomntwana, uya kuba nakho ukwenza ubudlelwane obomeleleyo ngelixa uvumela abantwana bakho ukuba bakhule ngokupheleleyo. Olu luhlu lungentla zezinye zezinto ezininzi onokuzenza ukuzimanya nabantwana bakho.
Ungavuya ukwazi ukuba izinto ezinomdla, ezingabizi kakhulu, kwaye ezilula zokubopha abantwana bakho azinasiphelo. Yenza ukuba yenzeke namhlanje!