Umxholo
- Yintoni narcissism?
- 1. Incoko hoarder
- 2. Ukuphazamisa incoko
- 3. Ukuthanda ukophula imithetho!
- 4. Ukophula imida
- 5. Ukubonisa umfanekiso wobuxoki
- 6. Ilungelo
- 7. Unokuba nomtsalane kakhulu
- 8. Ziqhayise
- 9. Iimvakalelo ezingalunganga
- 10. Ulawulo
Kulula ukubiza nabani na njengo “narcissist”, umntu ochitha ixesha elininzi ecinga ngokugqithisileyo okanye ongakhange abonakale ngathi uyazithandabuza, kodwa ubuntu bezobuntlola obunqabileyo bunqabile — kuqikelelwa ukuba li-1% labemi.
Yintoni narcissism?
I-Narcissism ligama elinzima ngakumbi kunokuba linokubonakala ngathi lahlukile kwintsalela yokuzithemba, kubandakanya isidingo soxabiso, ukuqonda ukwahluka, nokusilela kovelwano, kunye nezinye izinto ezinokubonakalisa ukonakala kubudlelwane.
Ukongeza ekucingeni ukuba baphakamile kwaye bafaneleke ngakumbi kunabanye abantu abathandanayo bahlala bevuma ukuba bazicingela bona bodwa.
Abantu abaneNarcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) banomoya ophefumlelweyo wokubaluleka kwabo kunye nesidingo sokunconywa. Abo bane-NPD, bakholelwa ukuba bangcono kunabanye kwaye abazihloniphi iimvakalelo zabanye abantu. Ukuncamathela kumalungu osapho lwe-narcissist kunokuba yinto enkulu kakhulu ukuba ungayithatha.
Kodwa ngasemva kwesigqubuthelo sokuzithemba okukhulu kulele ukuzithemba okuzenzekelayo, nokuba sesichengeni sokugxekwa kancinci.
Obo budlelwane bunokuba yingozi kwaye nazi iimpawu ezili-10 ezicacileyo zokuba nabuphi na ubudlelwane kunye ne-narcissist okanye ukuba nosapho lwe-narcissist:
1. Incoko hoarder
AbakwaNarcissists bayathanda ukuthetha malunga nabo kwaye abakuniki thuba lokuthatha inxaxheba kwincoko yabantu ababini. Ngokwesiqhelo kunzima ukuba wabelane ngezimvo zakho okanye uve iimvakalelo zakho.
Nokuba uyakwazi ukuviwa, ukuba akuvumelani ne-narcissist, izimvo zakho / izimvo zakho ziya kugxothwa, zilungiswe okanye zihoywe. Bahlala becinga ukuba bazi bhetele!
2. Ukuphazamisa incoko
Ngelixa abantu abaninzi benomkhwa obuthathaka wokunxibelelana nokuphazamisa abanye, i-narcissist iyaphazamisa kwaye ikhawuleze itshintshe ukugxila kubo. Ababonakalisi mdla wokwenene kuwe.
3. Ukuthanda ukophula imithetho!
I-narcissist iyazingca ngokubaleka ngokwaphula imigaqo kunye nemigaqo yezentlalo, enje ngokusika emgceni, ukuba izinto, ukophula amadinga amaninzi, okanye ukungathobeli imithetho yendlela.
4. Ukophula imida
Ngabom kubonisa ukungakhathalelwa kweengcinga zabanye abantu, iimvakalelo zabo, izinto zabo, kunye nendawo ebonakalayo. Gqitha kwimida yabo kwaye usebenzise abanye ngaphandle kokuqwalaselwa okanye ubuntununtunu. Rhoqo wophula izithembiso kunye nezibophelelo rhoqo. Ibonisa isixa esincinci setyala kwaye isola ixhoba ngokusilela kwembeko.
5. Ukubonisa umfanekiso wobuxoki
Uninzi lwee-narcissists zithanda ukwenza izinto eziza kuncoma abanye ngokuzenza bajongeke kakuhle ngaphandle. Lo mkhwa unokuzibonakalisa ngokwawo, ngokuthandana, ngokwasemzimbeni, ngokwasentlalweni, ngokwenkolo, ngokwasezimalini, ngokwezinto ezibonakalayo, ngokomsebenzi okanye kwezemfundo.
Kwezi meko, basebenzisa ngokulula abantu, izinto, inqanaba, kunye / okanye izinto abaziphumezileyo ukuzimela, begubungela into ebonakalayo, engonelanga "yokwenene".
6. Ilungelo
Bahlala belindele ukufumana unyango olukhethekileyo kwabanye. Balindele ukuba abanye babonelele ngoko nangoko kwiimfuno zabo, ngaphandle kokubabonisa ulwazelelelo. Ngokwabo, umhlaba ujikeleze bona.
7. Unokuba nomtsalane kakhulu
AbakwaNarcissist banobuntu obunomdla kakhulu kwaye banezakhono ezomeleleyo zokukholisa. Xa bezama ukurhintyela umntu (ukuze bazonwabise), bakwenza uzive ubaluleke kakhulu kwaye ufuna.
Nangona kunjalo, nje ukuba bakufumane oko bakufunayo kwaye baphulukane nomdla kuwe, banokukuyeka ngaphandle kwengcinga yesibini.
I-Narcissists inokuba nenxaxheba kakhulu kwaye ibe nobudlelwane, okoko nje uzalisekisa oko bakunqwenelayo, kwaye ubanike ingqalelo yakho yonke.
8. Ziqhayise
AmaNarcissist athambekele ekucingeni njengegorha okanye iqhawekazi, inkosana okanye inkosazana, okanye olunye uhlobo olukhethekileyo.
Abanye abachasayo banoluvo lokuzibaxa, kwaye bakholelwa ukuba abanye abanakuphila okanye baphile ngaphandle kwegalelo lakhe elizukileyo.
9. Iimvakalelo ezingalunganga
Uninzi lwee-narcissists ziyakonwabela ukusasaza kunye nokubangela iimvakalelo ezingalunganga zokufuna ingqalelo, uzive unamandla, kwaye zikwenze uzive ungakhuselekanga. Bacaphuka msinya nakweyiphi na into ebonakalayo okanye ukungakhathali. Banokuphosa umsindo ukuba awuvumelani nabo, okanye usilele ukufezekisa ulindelo lwabo.
Banobuntununtunu obukhulu ekugxekweni, kwaye baphendula ngesiqhelo ngengxoxo eshushu okanye ngokuziphatha okubandayo. AmaNarcissist ahlala ekhawuleza ukukugweba nokukugxeka. Abanye abantu abasebenzisa iziyobisi bathanda ukuba gadalala ngokweemvakalelo. Bayakugxeka phantse ngayo yonke into kwaye bakwenze uzive ungaphantsi ukukhulisa i-ego yabo ethe-ethe, ebenza bazive bebhetele ngeziqu zabo.
10. Ulawulo
I-narcissist inokusebenzisa iqabane labo elithandanayo ukuhlangabezana neemfuno zokuzixhasa ngokungekho ngqiqweni, ukuzalisekisa amaphupha angazalisekanga, okanye ukufihla ukungaziphathi kakuhle kunye nokusilela. Bayakuthanda ukwenza izigqibo zabanye ukuze zilungele ezabo iimfuno.
Enye indlela abalahlekisa ngayo abantu abanetyala kukuzibek 'ityala, ngokuzibonakalisa njengexhoba kwaye bakubambe uxanduva lwakho. Bayazithathela iimvakalelo zakho, bakulahlekise ukuba uzincame ngokungekho ngqiqweni.