Umxholo
- 1. Beka imida ecacileyo kwaye unamathele kuyo
- Ungaze uvume ukumenzela umntwana wakho iphedi
- 3. Qiniseka kwaye uzolile, nokuba sekutheni
- 4. Mxhase ngokuphindwe kabini umntwana wakho xa ehlukile
- 5. Lungiselela iimfuno zakho
Ukubambisana njengomzali kuhlala kungumceli mngeni, kodwa ukuba ujongana nomzali ongumlingani, izinto zinokuba yingxaki ngobuhlanya. Ngelishwa, imeko ye-narcissism yile yokuba akukho themba lokwenyani lentsebenziswano.
Uphelile nje into eyayiyisihogo somtshato. I-Narcissists idume ngokuba nzima ukuqhawula umtshato. Ngoku unedabi elitsha ekufuneka ulilwe. Unyanzelekile ukuba uzive uphelile kwaye ngathi akukho siphelo kwingxabano.
Kodwa izinto ziya kuba ngcono, ekugqibeleni.
Nazi iingcebiso ezimbalwa malunga nokuba ungasinda njani kwelona xesha linzima:
1. Beka imida ecacileyo kwaye unamathele kuyo
I-narcissist ayizukwenzela le nto. Njengombandela wenyani, baya kwenza ngokuchaseneyo.
Khumbula, i-narcissist, xa inamathela kwinto ethile okanye komnye umntu, ithathela ingqalelo njengolwandiso lwehlabathi labo. Ayikuko ukuba babathanda kakhulu. Hayi, bakhona ukuze bakhe iphupha lokuzixabisa yiyo loo nto bekufuneka ukuba ugqibelele xa utshatile.
Ke, ngoku ukuba uphumile kulomtshato, kuya kufuneka uphinde umise imida.
Oku akuyi kuchaphazela kuphela amajelo kunye nezihlandlo zonxibelelwano lwakho ne-ex yakho kodwa kunye ne-ex yakho kunye nabantwana bakho.
Lungiselela i-narcissistic ex yakho ngokwaphula imithetho, kodwa uyabambelela kuyo. Ekuhambeni kwexesha, baya kuncama ukuzama kwakho ukuba ubambe.
Ungaze uvume ukumenzela umntwana wakho iphedi
Okwangoku uyazi ngokuqinisekileyo ukuba i-ex-narcissistic ex yakho inokukwenza njani wenze izinto obungasoze uzenze.
Baziziphathamandla abaziintloko kwaye abanayo into oyenzayo- uvelwano kunye nemvakalelo yempilo-ntle yabanye.
Ke, baya kuzama konke okusemandleni ukufumana indlela yabo, kubandakanya nokusebenzisa abantwana bakho njengeepawundi kumdlalo wabo.
Nguwe ekufuneka ulahle ukudlala umdlalo. Nantoni na abayenzayo, ugcina imigaqo yakho. Ungaze usebenzise umntwana wakho ukuhambisa imiyalezo kwi ex yakho.
Sukumqumbela isiduko sakho phambi komntwana wakho. Musa ukunikezela kwisilingo sokukhuphisana ne ex yakho phezu kwengqwalaselo yomntwana wakho. Hlonipha nje amaxabiso akho kunye nezinto ziya kuzihlengahlengisa ukulungelwa kwakho.
3. Qiniseka kwaye uzolile, nokuba sekutheni
Njengoko besesitshilo, i-narcissist inokuphila ukuze nisebenze nonke. Banokufumana uyolo lokwenene xa bekubona uphulukana nokuzola. Kwaye, njengoko besebenzisa ubuqhetseba kwaye benamathuba, banokusebenzisa indlela oqhele ukuphendula ngayo ekuziphatheni kwabo okungenangqondo okanye ekuphatheni gadalala ukubonisa ukuba ungazinzanga.
Ngesi sizathu, kuya kufuneka wenze isifungo sokugcina ukuphola kwakho kuzo zonke iindleko.
Xa uziva ngathi uza kuba nexhala okanye ukuba nomsindo kwaye ugqabhuke, thatha umzuzwana. Xola kwaye ubuyele kwincoko, ukuba kukho imfuneko, kamva. Ngokufanelekileyo, kuya kufuneka ugcine incoko yakho ibhaliwe, ii-imeyile ziya kuba zilungile.
Ngale ndlela, uya kuba nomzuzu wokuphinda ujonge indlela ophendula ngayo, kwaye uya kuyibhala yonke into ukuba kukho imfuneko yokuba ubonise ukuba ngubani lo ukuxhaphazayo.
4. Mxhase ngokuphindwe kabini umntwana wakho xa ehlukile
Abazali abangamaNarcissistic banzima kakhulu kubantwana babo. Banesiphumo esibi ekuzithembeni kwabo, isazisi kunye nokukhula ngokweemvakalelo.
Ngaphaya koko, uninzi lwezigulana ezindala zezigulo zengqondo ngabantwana babazali abathandanayo. Isizathu soko kukuba umzali ongathandekiyo akanamdla kwaphela emntwaneni, bamthatha njengenxalenye yesiqu sabo esikhulu.
Kungenxa yoko le nto kufuneka usoloko ukuxhasa ukwahluka komntwana wakho kwaye ubazise ukuba abekho ukongezwa komntu. Bangabantu, abangafezekanga kodwa bahle. Kwaye bathandile nokuba benza ntoni. Abayi kuze bamkholise umzali ongathandekiyo. Kodwa kuya kufuneka uqiniseke ukuba zithandwa kabini kwaye zixhaswe nguwe.
5. Lungiselela iimfuno zakho
Okokugqibela, awungekhe ube ngumzali olungileyo ukuba uphelelwe ngamandla akho.
Siyayazi indlela obewonakele ngayo umtshato. Emva koko, uqhawulo-mtshato kwi-narcissist, ethanda ukuba lolona hlobo luqhawulo mtshato. Kuya kufuneka ngoku ububone ubomi bakho, ngelixa usilwa ne ex yakho. Naluphi na uqhawulo-mtshato lunzima, luyomelele xa kukho abantwana ababandakanyekayo, kwaye ukuzikhulula kwi-narcissist ngumceli mngeni wokwenyani.
Kungenxa yoko le nto kufuneka unakekele iimfuno zakho.
Fumana i-Therapist ukukunceda wakhe ukuzithemba kwakhona kwaye ufumane eyona nto intsha ebomini. Jonga izinto onomdla kuzo zakudala, ubuyele kwizinto ozithandayo, kwaye ufumane ezintsha. Fumana inkxaso kubahlobo bakho nakusapho. Khathalela ngokwakho indlela ex yakho bekufanele ukuba ukukhathalele ngayo. Ubunzima buza kuphela.