Umxholo
Zininzi iingxoxo malunga nomtshato kunye nendlela abantu abayiqonda ngayo kule mihla. Ngaba isathathwa njengeziko elihlonitshwayo? Isibophelelo? Okanye into esinokuyenza ngaphandle kwayo ngoku?
Iingcali zengqondo ziqhube izifundo ezahlukeneyo ngesihloko nakwizihloko ezinxulumene noko ngelixa uJane Doe wakho oqhelekileyo ezama ukufumana impendulo nokuba kungcono ukutshata okanye akusekho. Kwaye ngayo yonke into ethandwayo kumajelo eendaba, ubunzima obandayo bokuphila njengesibini esitshatileyo kunye neengxaki eziqhubekayo kwikona nganye, akumangalisi ukuba abantu bakhethe ukuhlala kubudlelwane endaweni yomtshato.
Umtshato namhlanje
Ngokuchasene nenkolelo edumileyo, ayikuko ukungabi nantlonelo ngeziko lomtshato okanye uninzi loluntu lwanamhlanje ekunikezeleni ngalo eligcina abantu ekuthatheni inyathelo elikhulu. Abantu basafuna ukutshata, basakujonga njengento ebalulekileyo, kodwa bakufumanisa kunzima ngakumbi kunangaphambili.
Isibini esincinci kakhulu sisenzile esi sigqibo kunezizukulwana ezidlulileyo, kodwa owona mbuzo ngowokuba kutheni?
Ukuba abantu basazimisele ukwenza njalo, ukanti bakhathazwa kukulandela, kuyacaca ukuba kuninzi okubabambayo. Ukwaphula imiqobo kolu loyiko kunye nokucwangcisa ukulwa kufuneka ukuba ujongane nale meko.
Ubunzima bezezimali
Imiceli mngeni yezemali okanye iimpembelelo zayo yeyona mpendulo ixhaphakileyo yokuba kutheni izibini ziwumisa omnye umtshato okanye ziwuyeke kwaphela. Kuyavela ukuba uninzi lwabantu lufuna ukuzinza ngokwezezimali ngaphambi kokuba luhambe yonke indlela kunye namaqabane abo obomi. Kuyathakazelisa ukuba oku kunxulumene nokufuna ukuthenga indlu. Xa bebuzwa malunga neendawo zokuhlala, uninzi lwabantu abaphumeleleyo bahlala nabazali babo. Iimali-mboleko zekholeji sesona sizathu siphambili sinyanzeliswa ukuba benze njalo. Kwaye, kuba ingqesho ayiqinisekiswanga emva kokugqiba izifundo eziphezulu, imeko inokuba mandundu. Iyaqondakala loo nto, ukuba uninzi lwabantu aluthatheli ngqalelo emtshatweni okanye abanakuwubona njengophambili kwixa elizayo. Ngokumalunga nezibini esele zihlala kunye, umtshato uthetha iindleko kunye nobunzima obongezelelekileyo abanokuphuma ngaphandle kwabo. Emva kwayo yonke loo nto, abaninzi sele benekhredithi kunye, imoto ekwabelwana ngayo okanye indawo yokuhlala kunye neminye imicimbi yemali ecinezelayo kunkqonkqoza eminyango yabo.
Ukulindela kunye nemingeni
Masingakulibali ukuba ulindelo lwexesha elizayo kunye nento ekufuneka sijongane nayo ebomini ibe sisithintelo esibalulekileyo emtshatweni. Nangona amadoda ekholelwa ekubeni anomdla ongaphantsi kunabafazi, kubonakala ngathi kuchasene ngokwezifundo ezahlukeneyo. Kukwabonakala ngathi abasetyhini bathambekele ngakumbi ekukhetheni uqhawulo-mtshato nakwala ukutshata kwakhona emva kokuba behlelwe yinto embi kunamadoda. Ukufuneka ulungelelanise uninzi lomsebenzi sesinye sezona sizathu sinamandla soku. Kwaye, nangona, izibini ezininzi ziceba ekwabelaneni ngemisebenzi kwaye zizama ukwahlulahlula imisebenzi ngokulinganayo, isingqisho kunye nolondolozo lwentlalo kuluntu lwanamhlanje ngandlel 'ithile lisenza glitch kuzo zonke izicwangciso zazo ngononophelo.
Ngelishwa njengoko kunokuba njalo kwaye kungakholeleki kuloo nto, amadoda nabasetyhini abakabhatalwa isixa semali esifanayo ngomsebenzi ofanayo. Kwaye sele kudlule inqanaba lokubuza ukuba ingaba umgangatho womsebenzi wahlukile emva kwezifundo ezininzi esele zibonakalisile ukuba okuchaseneyo kuyinyani. Nangona kunjalo, le nto iyaqhubeka. Xa umgca utsaliwe kwaye imisebenzi yasekhaya kufuneka yahlulwe, amadoda aphela enemisebenzi emininzi egxile kuluhlu lwabo lobuchwephesha. Umzekelo, uyakuphela engoyena mntu unoxanduva lokutshintsha ioyile yemoto okanye amavili ngelixa umfazi esenza izitya. Kodwa inyani yokuba umzamo wemihla ngemihla okanye wemihla ngemihla eyahlula ezi zinto zihlala ziqwalaselwa. Kwaye, ekugqibeleni, inani loxinzelelo kunye namandla alawulwa ngokulinganayo phakathi kwesini kunye neengxaki ezivela.
Ukuba nesicwangciso A akwanele
Ngamanye amaxesha unokufuna isicwangciso C okanye D ngaphandle kokuba nesicwangciso B endaweni. Ukunyamezela, ukuzingisa nokusebenza nzima konke kunokubangela umzamo ongenaziqhamo ukuba umntu akazilungiseleleli iimeko ezahlukeneyo.
Kulungile ukuba ucwangcise ukwahlulahlulahlula imisebenzi kunye nemali ngokulinganayo kwaye yintoni, kodwa kwenzeka ntoni xa inyani ingalingani kwisikimu?
Kuba sele kumisiwe ukuba kunzima kuyo yonke into ukuba ihambe ngokwesicwangciso kule mihla yoluntu, ukungabinayo enye indlela ebekiweyo yinto eyingozi kakhulu. Endaweni yokuphepha umtshato ngokupheleleyo, cwangcise ngobuchule. Ewe kunokubonakala kungathandekiyo kwaye ewe, ayisiyonto ilindelweyo xa sasiselula kwaye senza izicwangciso zokwabelana ngobomi bethu nomntu okhethekileyo, kodwa umhlaba yile nto uyiyo. Kwaye ukuhlala kunye nokucwangcisela inyani, kwenza ukuba ubunyani boyike kancinci kunokuba bekunjalo.