Umxholo
- Nazi iimpawu ezilumkisayo ezilithoba zeflegi, ezisixelela ukuba sithi hayi, emtshatweni
- 1. Ukuba likhoboka lotywala
- 2. Ukungafumaneki ngokweemvakalelo
- 3. Imiba yosapho
- 4. Ukungabikho konxibelelwano
- 5. Ukuba awubathandi abantwana, ungatshati nomntu onabantwana
- 6. Imiba yezemali
- 7. Musa ukutshata ukuba ulindele ukuba iqabane lakho litshintshe
- 8. Ukuhambelana ngokwesondo
- 9.Ungatshati ukuba nithe nahlukana kutshanje
Umtshato kwilizwe lethu uthathe ithuba lokuba mandundu, kwaye leyo yingxelo ethembisayo. Izifundo zibonisa ukuba i-55% yemitshato yokuqala iphelela kuqhawulo-mtshato, iipesenti ezingama-72 zemitshato yesibini iphelela kuqhawulo mtshato ize iipesenti ezingama-78 zemitshato yesithathu iphele kuqhawulo mtshato.
Uninzi lwethu lunento emnandi, nokuba ubudlelwane bethu bangoku abusebenzi ngoku, sakuba sitshatile yonke into iya kuba ntle.
Bambelela. Musa ukudlula ukuya. Funda oku.
Nazi iimpawu ezilumkisayo ezilithoba zeflegi, ezisixelela ukuba sithi hayi, emtshatweni
Umtshato, ubuncinci umtshato ophilileyo, uye waba ngummangaliso kwilizwe lethu.
Abantu basenoluvo lokuba emva kokuba betshatile, yonke into izakulunga.
“Ewe ndiyazi ukuba siyasokola ngoku, kwaye asivani ncam, kwaye kukho imicimbi nabantwana, kwaye kukho imiba nabantu esasisebenzisana nabo, okanye mhlawumbi kukho imiba ngezakhono zethu zonxibelelwano. ... Kodwa xa sitshatile, yonke into izakulunga. ”
Kufana nokufunda iphephancwadi lomfazi.
Okanye inoveli yothando ihambile.
Umtshato uye waba yinto elahlwayo kwilizwe lethu, nakwilizwe lethu, kwaye ngaphandle kokuba sifike kubunyani bobudlelwane endaweni yefantasy, akukho nto, kwaye ndithetha ukuba akukho nto iya kuze itshintshe.
Nazi izizathu ezi-9 eziphambili zokuba uthi hayi, ukuba uyazibona kwezi meko kunye neqabane lakho langoku, kwaye uceba ukutshata:
1. Ukuba likhoboka lotywala
Emva kokwenza lo msebenzi njengomcebisi kunye nomqeqeshi wobomi kangangeminyaka engama-30, kwaye ndibuyile ngokupheleleyo enxila, ndiyakuxelela ukuba imitshato emininzi isweleka ngenxa yotywala.
Kutshanje ndisebenze nesibini, sitshatile kanye iminyaka eyi-2, ebesilwa unyaka neenyanga ezili-10 kwaye enye yemicimbi ephambili abanayo phakathi kwabo kukusetyenziswa kotywala.
Inkosikazi ivakalelwa kukuba kuyinto eqhelekileyo ukuba neiglasi ezintathu okanye ezine zewayini ubusuku ngabunye, kwaye emva koko uzonwabise ngempelaveki.
Kwaye umyeni akakho mva kakhulu. Ke yintoni ingxaki? Rhoqo ngeentsuku ezili-14 okanye ukuya kungena kunkqonkqozo olukhulu, tsala phantsi umlo, oko kubonakalisa ubomi babo kangangeentsuku ezi-3 ukuya kwezi-4 emva koko.
Kodwa bobabini bayazi ukuba bangene emtshatweni, ukuba esinye sezitshixo esidibanisile yayisisiselo esinxilisayo.
Babethanda ukwenza itheko kunye, bayathanda ukuphumla kwi-lanai ngokuhlwa kuselwa iziselo zabo, kodwa zange baqonde ukuba konke ukulwa kunye nokuphikisana okwakuqhubeka ngexesha lesigaba sokuthandana kwakuza kuqhubeka emtshatweni.
Njengoko ndisebenza nabo bobabini, ndenza intetho elula kakhulu ukuba ngaphandle kokuba baceba ukuvumela utywala buhambe, mabayeke nje umtshato uhambe. Yayingumdlalo ombi, kwaye utywala bagqabhuka ukungazithembi kwabo kunye noloyiko malunga nokuzibophelela nothando.
2. Ukungafumaneki ngokweemvakalelo
Ukuba asizanga kugqibezela ukuvala nabo bonke ubudlelwane bethu bangaphambili, okuthetha ukuba asixolelanga onke amaqabane ethu athandanayo angaphambili okanye amaqabane omtshato ngenxa yokungasebenzi kakuhle abakuzise ebomini bethu, akukho ndawo sikulungeleyo ukutshata .
Ibizwa ngokuba yimithwalo yemvakalelo. Kubizwa ngokuba ayifumaneki ngokweemvakalelo.
Ukuba unenzondo okanye ingqumbo ngokuchasene nomyeni wakho wangaphambili, ndiyakuthembisa ngale nto, uya kuyifumana eminye imiba kunye neqabane lakho langoku ngenxa yokuba ungakhange ufunde ukuyeka elidlulileyo.
Ukuba ngekhe umelane nowayesakuba ngumfazi okanye intombi oyintombazana kwaye unenzondo okanye ingqumbo ngakubo, awuzukuthembela kulo naliphi na ibhinqa olikho kwixesha elizayo ude uyeke elidlulileyo.
Sebenza nabacebisi ukufikelela kwisiseko sokuxolelwa, okanye bonke ubudlelwane bakho buya kusekelwa esihogweni.
3. Imiba yosapho
Ubona ukungasebenzi kakuhle phakathi kweqabane lakho kunye nosapho, kodwa ngokweqabane lakho, usapho lwabo lubalulekile kuthando lwabo kunye nokusinda.
Ngokukhawuleza, uhamba kwindawo yemfazwe.
Ngaphandle kokuba uhlala eJapan kunye nosapho, kule meko, uhlala eUnited States, nasiphi na isihlobo esisondeleyo apho iqabane lakho lihlala linokungasebenzi kakuhle liya kudala isihogo emtshatweni okanye kubudlelwane bakho.
Isisombululo? Ngena kwiingcebiso namhlanje, ukuze ubone ukuba unayo na into efunekayo ukuze ubunyamezele ubugeza obusehla ngendlela.
Zisa iqabane lakho nawe, ukuze nobabini nithethe nomcebisi malunga noloyiko kunye neenkxalabo malunga nobudlelwane abanabo namalungu osapho abo azaliswe sisiphithiphithi.
Yenza uphando. Fumana uncedo ngaphambi kokuba uzibophelele emtshatweni, kwaye ugqibele ngokuba nabazala bakho kunye nokuhlanya kwabo kuyinxalenye yobomi bakho rhoqo. Isenokungafaneleki.
4. Ukungabikho konxibelelwano
Ukuba uthandana nomntu ozivalela ngaphandle ngokulula okanye osebenzisa ubuchule bokwenza izinto endaweni yokujongana nokungqubana, uhlala ixesha elide kakhulu okanye mhlawumbi umfutshane kakhulu, kodwa kunzima, umtshato.
Ukuba awufundanga ukulwa ngendlela efanelekileyo kubudlelwane bakho ukuba awufundanga ubugcisa bokuyeka izinto zihambe ukuba awufundanga ubugcisa bokucela uxolo ngokufanelekileyo ukuze ukwazi ukukhulula nakuphi na ukungavani kubudlelwane ngokufanelekileyo ngokukhawuleza. Awukakulungeli ukutshata. Ewe kulula.
5. Ukuba awubathandi abantwana, ungatshati nomntu onabantwana
Ukuba iqabane lakho ocinga ngokutshata linabantwana, kwaye awuvumelani nabantwana, sukutshata nalo mntu!
Akukho nto igwenxa xa umntu enabantwana ngokucacileyo, kodwa ukuba awunguye umntu onomdla kakhulu ukuba phakathi kwabantwana, le iya kuba yeyona nto iphambili kubudlelwane bakho.
Ngokucacileyo ngekhe ubuze iqabane lakho elithandanayo ukuba lahlukane nabantwana, i-LOL, kodwa ungathatha isigqibo sokuba abantwana ngekhe babe yinxalenye yobomi bakho kwaye awunomdla wokuyiqala ngoku.
Baninzi abanye abantu ngaphandle ngaphandle kwabantwana, ekufuneka ujolise kubo.
6. Imiba yezemali
Ukuba uthandana nomntu ongekakwazi kakuhle ubugcisa bohlahlo-lwabiwo mali, ukunciphisa iindleko kwaye kwangaxeshanye ufunde indlela yokunyusa ingeniso, kwaye bahlala besokola ngemali, bexhalabele imali, bethetha ngendlela embi ngayo kodwa basazifumana bekule meko yemali, ungatshati!
Endaweni yoko, khuthaza iqabane lakho kwaye mhlawumbi ungabajoyina, usebenze nomcwangcisi wezezimali okanye umcebisi kwaye uhlambulule konke ukungcola kwemali ngaphambi kokuba uthathe isigqibo sokutshata.
Kwaye ukuba bayabuyela umva, kwaye abafuni kufumana uncedo ngemali? Hamb 'umshiye. Ngoku.
7. Musa ukutshata ukuba ulindele ukuba iqabane lakho litshintshe
Ukuba uthandana nomntu kwaye ucinga ngokutshata nabo, kwaye unethemba lokuba baya kutshintsha into ngobuntu babo okanye indlela abaziphethe ngayo ... Musa ukutshata!
Ndasebenza nomntu obhinqileyo kwiminyaka eliqela eyadlulayo, owayethandana nomfana owayesitya evule umlomo xa evulekile.
Wafumanisa ukuba yinto enyanyekayo kodwa wacinga ukuba angatshintsha emva kokuba betshatile, kwaye wayephazama.
Kwiinyanga ezintandathu emtshatweni, wagqiba kwelokuba angayi esidlangalaleni ayokutya naye, kwaye uyazi ukuba kwenzeka ntoni emva koko.
Ingqumbo yakhe yakhula yaya isiba nzulu, nangona wayesala ukutshintsha lo mkhwa mbi de umtshato wabo wasengxakini.
Ungaze uthandane nomnye umntu, okanye utshate nabani na, ngokubanakho ukutshintsha indlela abaziphethe ngayo kunye okanye imikhwa yabo. Ukuba ngenene ucinga ukuba unobudlelwane obukhulu, linda de ezo ngxaki zinokubakho namhlanje zicaciswe ngaphambi kokuba utshate nabo.
8. Ukuhambelana ngokwesondo
Ukuba awuhambelani ngesondo xa uthandana nomntu, ndithembe kulento njengomcebisi kunye nomqeqeshi wobomi ngaphezulu kweminyaka engama-30, akukho nto intle izokutshintsha emtshatweni.
Kubuhlungu kodwa kuyinyani. Baninzi abantu abangahambelani kakuhle emtshatweni kuba ukuqhuba kwabo ngokwesondo kunye nomdla zikwinqanaba elichasene ngokupheleleyo nobubanzi.
Abanye abantu bazalwa benesondo esiphakamileyo kakhulu, kwaye kufuneka bafumane iqabane elinokufana naloo mzobo wesini.
Abanye abantu baba neengxaki zempilo, kwaye xa bengabakhathaleli kunokuba lula ukubuguqula ubomi babo bube yenye yeendlela ezininzi zokungasebenzi kakuhle ngokwesondo.
Qiniseka ukuba nobabini kumphakamo ofanayo, kwiphepha elinye, xa kufikwa kwimiboniso yoluntu yothando, ukwanga, ukwenza uthando, phambi kokuba uhambe ezantsi.
9.Ungatshati ukuba nithe nahlukana kutshanje
Iqabane lakho, okanye wena, uqhawule umtshato okanye waphelisa ubudlelwane bexesha elide kwaye kwangoko watsibela kule yangoku.
Siyakholelwa kwihlabathi lokucebisa, ukuba abantu bafuna ubuncinci iintsuku ezingama-365 phakathi kobudlelwane bexesha elide okanye imitshato.
Ukuba uthatha le ndlela yeentsuku ezingama-365 kwaye usebenze nomcebisi ekupheleni kobudlelwane bakho, uya kuba nakho ukucacisa uninzi lweengxaki ezinokubakho ezantsi kwendlela.
Kwincwadi yethu entsha, "Ingelosi kwibhodi yokusefa: inoveli eyimfihlakalo yothando enikezela ngezitshixo zothando olunzulu", Umntu ophambili uSandy Tavish walukuhlwa ngumfazi omhle echibini, kwaye Ngolo suku ummemela endlwini yakhe Ibhotile yewayini kunye nesidlo sangokuhlwa.
Xa efika, ujongeka emhle kakhulu, emhle kangangokuba engakwazi ukuzibamba.
Uqhubeka emxelela ukuba uyakholelwa yena, uSandy, yindoda ebeyilindile ubomi bayo bonke.
Kodwa kwenzeka ntoni ngokulandelayo, itshintsha yonke into.
Uyamxelela ukuba ekugqibeleni wamgxotha kwisoka lakhe lokugqibela ... Zintsuku ezintathu kuphela ezidlulileyo! ... Kodwa ulungele uthando olunzulu.
USandy uyaqonda ukuba akukho mntu unokulungela uthando olunzulu ngaphandle kwesithuba esikhulu phakathi kobudlelwane, kwaye umxelela oku.
Ekuqaleni, oku kuyayophula intliziyo yakhe kwaye ucaphuka kakhulu, kodwa njengoko ehlala phantsi uyayiqonda inyani, ufuna ixesha elininzi lokuphola kubudlelwane bokugqibela.
Nokuba inguwe, okanye iqabane lakho elinokubakho, elingakhange lithathe ixesha elaneleyo phakathi kobudlelwane, le iflegi enkulu ebomvu ekufuneka siyiqwalasele.
Thatha ikhefu. Yenza umsebenzi. Kwaye ukuba nenzelwe ukuba kunye, niyakuphela kunye.
Njengoko unokucinga, ezi ngcebiso zilapha ngasentla zili-9 sisiqalo nje.
Masenze isigqibo ngoku sokutshata nomntu de uqiniseke ukuba ninobabini kwiphepha elinye kuyo yonke indawo, okanye ubuninzi beendawo zobomi.
Ndiyazi ukuba ulandela ezi ngcebiso zilula, uya kuzisindisa kubomi beentlungu, usizi kunye nelahleko yemali. Yehlisa isantya. Thatha ixesha lakho. Kwaye ukuba awukho nomntu okwangoku ongumdlalo ofanelekileyo, yiba nokholo lokuba uyakubafumana phantsi kwendlela kwaye uphile ngolonwabo, ngonaphakade.