Umxholo
- Ukwabelana ngemisebenzi yasekhaya
- 2. Yamkelani indlela yobuzali yomnye nomnye
- 3. Yiba nobusuku obuninzi bomhla kunye namaxesha osondeleyo
- 4. Zama ukuyiphepha imiba yezemali
Izibini ezininzi zijonge phambili ekubeni ngumzali nje ukuba zitshate. Abantwana bathathwa njengenye yeentsikelelo ezinkulu ebomini. Ngabo bagqibezela usapho. Abazali ngabazali kuphela abanomntwana. Nangona ukutsiba ukusuka ekudibaneni nokuba ngumzali kuyonwabisa kwaye kuyamangalisa, kuyadinisa kwaye kuhlala kunzima. Nazi imiba yomtshato nokuba ngumzali oko kuhlala kuvela ngokukhawuleza xa izibini zinomntwana. Kukho uxanduva olutsha, umsebenzi omninzi kunye nexesha elincinci namandla kuwo onke. Kukhankanywe apha ngezantsi ziindlela ezimbalwa onokuzisebenzisa ukuthintela ukuba ngumzali ekuphazamiseni nasekubangeleni iingxaki kubomi bakho bomtshato.
Ukwabelana ngemisebenzi yasekhaya
Imisebenzi yasekhaya yanda ngokukhawuleza xa umntwana efika. Ewe beyikhona imisebenzi yasekhaya ngaphambili, kodwa ngoku iimpahla ezininzi ziphindwe kabini kubukhulu, umntwana kufuneka ondliwe, okanye uya kuba yingxolo kwaye aqale ukulila, kwaye kukho neminye imisebenzi eyahlukeneyo ekufuneka yenziwe kodwa kukho i-isn kuphela Ixesha elininzi. Awunakho ukuzilazila, umsebenzi osele ukufuna kufuneka wenziwe ngalo mzuzu, okanye uhlala kude kube sebusuku ukuze uwenze.
Yintoni enokuba luncedo kule meko kukwahlulahlula yonke le misebenzi ilizothe. Thatha inkqubo ye-tit-for-tat efana nokuba uhlamba izitya, iqabane lakho kuzakufuneka lisonge iimpahla. Nangona oku kunokubangela inzondo phakathi kwesi sibini, indlela ebhetele yokwenza uluhlu lwento ekufuneka yenziwe ngumntu ngamnye emini. Ungatshintsha uxanduva rhoqo emva kotshintsho. Le ndlela iqinisekile ukuba isusa nayiphi na imiba yomtshato kunye nokuba ngumzali.
2. Yamkelani indlela yobuzali yomnye nomnye
Kuqhelekile ukuba isimbo sokubazali sibe sisangqubana. Enye yazo ihlala ibuyiselwe umva kwaye ayinankathalo kunokuba enye ingathanda. Nangona unokuba neenkxalabo kunye nokwahluka kwiindlela zakho zokuba ngumzali, kubalulekile ukuba uthethe ngazo kunye neqabane lakho. Ingqumbo inokwakha phakathi kwamaqabane amabini ukuba ingxoxo eyoneleyo ayenziwanga ekhokelela kwimicimbi yomtshato kuphela ngenxa yokuba ngumzali.
Ukungavisisani kunokwenzeka ukuba kwenzeke, kodwa nobabini kufuneka nibambisane kwaye nilalanise ekukhuliseni ngempumelelo abantwana bakho. Fundani ukwamkela indlela enibaphatha ngayo abantwana benu kwaye niqonde ukuba nobabini niya kubafunela okona kulungileyo.
3. Yiba nobusuku obuninzi bomhla kunye namaxesha osondeleyo
Ixesha lesibini kubalulekile. Ngokufika kosana, izibini ezininzi zenza ukuba umntwana abe liziko lokuhoywa kwaye zibeke iqabane labo kwisitulo esingasemva. Oku, nangona kunjalo, kuyingozi kakhulu kumtshato wabo. Sonke siyakonwabela ukuhoywa ngokukodwa sivela kulowo simthandayo. Ukuba nomntwana akuthethi ukuba awungekhe wonwabe xa uhlala wedwa.
Izibini zihlala zibonakala zilahlekile indlela yazo yokuphila ngaphambi komntwana apho babechitha khona ixesha elininzi kunye, benobusuku bobusuku kunye nobomi besondo obusebenzayo. Imihla yobusuku ibaluleke kakhulu ukugcina ubudlelwane bakho buphila. Qesha umntu ogcina umntwana kwaye uphume uye kwisidlo sangokuhlwa sothando. Kuyanceda ukubeka yonke incoko enxulumene nomntwana ecaleni kwaye ujonge omnye komnye xa uphumile, thetha ngomsebenzi, ukuhleba okanye nasiphi na isihloko obukade uthetha ngaso ngaphambi kokuba ube nomntwana.
Ngapha koko, isini naso kufuneka siphinde sifakwe ebomini bakho ukugcina nobabini ninamathele kwaye nithandane ngokunzulu njengangaphambili. Nangona ungaziva unetyala ngokungabandakanyi umntwana wakho kwimisebenzi yakho, ukuchitha ixesha elisemgangathweni kunye kunganisondeza nobabini, kunciphise uxinzelelo kwaye komeleze umtshato wakho.
4. Zama ukuyiphepha imiba yezemali
Imiba yemali nayo inokubangela iingxaki ezinzulu. Ngokongezwa komntwana kusapho, iindleko zihlala zanda. Oku kuthetha ukuba nobabini kufuneka nilalanise, nincame ezinye iimfuno zenu kwaye nisebenzise imali encinci kunangaphambili kwimisebenzi efana nokuya kwimidlalo bhanyabhanya, ukuthenga iimpahla zexabiso, iiholide, ukutya ngaphandle, njl. kunye nokunyuka kwemilo phakathi kwesi sibini. Omnye unokukhwaza omnye ngenxa yokuchitha kakhulu okanye ukungakhathali ngemali yabo.
Ukonga kufuneka kwenziwe ixesha elide nangaphambi kokuba umntwana afike kwaye zonke iindleko kufuneka zicwangciswe. Ukuza nohlahlo-lwabiwo mali lwasekhaya kunokuba luncedo olukhulu ekugcineni kunye nokugcina umkhondo kuyo yonke imali yakho ngelixa uthintela nayiphi na imiba yomtshato kunye nokuba ngumzali.
Isiphelo
Ubunzima bomtshato bunokubangela ukuphazamiseka kusapho lonke. Ukwehla komtshato akuyi kuchaphazela kuphela abatshatileyo kodwa kuya kuchaphazela namandla abo okuba ngumzali kubangela ukuba umntwana asokole. Kubaluleke kakhulu kubo bobabini ukuba bancedane ekukhuliseni umntwana wabo oxabisekileyo. Endaweni yokukhulisa inzondo omnye komnye, zama ukuqonda iindlela zabo kunye nonxibelelwano. Funda ukwamkelana iziphoso kwaye uzikhumbuze ngazo zonke izinto ozithandayo malunga neqabane lakho. Nobabini kufuneka nisebenzisane ukuze nibe nosapho olonwabileyo kunye nomtshato ophumelelayo.