Umxholo
- Ukufikelela kwindawo enzulu yentsingiselo kunye nokusondelelana kuthetha ukuba umsebenzi ungaphezulu
- Jonga iindawo zobuntwana bakho ukuphanda iingxaki zakho zobudlelwane
- Sibona umhlaba ngelensi yeemeko ezisekwe ebuntwaneni bethu
- Qonda izitayile zakho zokuncamathisela ukuqala ukubuyisa kwakhona
Ubudlelwane bunemeko yendalo yokutsala kunye nesiphumo, ngokuthelekiswa namava esiyobisi, kwiimpawu zokulutha kunye nokurhoxa. Ekuqaleni, inoveli ixhasa inkuthazo kunye nomnqweno wokuchitha ixesha elininzi kangangoko sinako nomntu, sinika ingqalelo kwiinkcukacha kwaye sifunde esinako, ukuziqhelanisa nabo, umzimba, ingqondo kunye nomphefumlo. Umgangatho kunye nokulindelwa kobomi kubudlelwane bethu bangoku kusekwe kwimpilo yento esikholelwa ukuba siyifanele kwaye siyayoyika okanye siyithemba kwabanye. Ukuba nomtshato owomeleleyo okanye ukuzibophelela ixesha elide kuya kufuna ukuba siyivume indlela esilawula ngayo impilo yethu yeemvakalelo kunye neqabane lethu.
Ukufikelela kwindawo enzulu yentsingiselo kunye nokusondelelana kuthetha ukuba umsebenzi ungaphezulu
Amava okuqala obudlelwane obutsha aya esiba namandla kwaye into esiqhubeka siyifuna kwaye siyilangazelela ngenxa yendlela eyonwabisayo ngayo. Siva unxibelelwano kunye nemvakalelo yokuqina kubutsha bomntu esinaye. Asinakufumana ngokwaneleyo kubo. Luthando, kukulutha kweekhemikhali kokona kugqwesileyo, yimizimba yethu enxibelelana nomnye umntu. Nangona kunjalo akukho nxibelelwano kwiplanethi olunokumelana neli xesha lokuqala lokuvuya kunye nolonwabo. Ngexesha elithile, okungenakwenzeka kuyenzeka. Uku “phakama” kufuneka sibe sesichengeni, kwaye kulapho siqala khona ukonwaba.
Kuqikelelwa ukuba ndaweni ithile phakathi kwamanqaku e-12-18 enyanga kubudlelwane, siqala ukulungelelana. Asinanjengamachiza njengemichiza njengokuba sasinjalo ekuqaleni. Sithatha iipateni zokuziphatha. Siqala ukwenza amabali malunga nomntu ngokusekwe kwimbali yethu kunye namava ekwabelwana ngawo. Inoveli iye yancipha kwaye asiphindi sibaleke kwangolo hlobo besikade sisenza ngalo. Ukufikelela kwindawo enzulu yentsingiselo kunye nokusondelelana kuthetha umsebenzi omninzi, kwaye eyona nto ibaluleke kakhulu koku sisidingo sokwandisa ubungozi. Kwaye ukuba sesichengeni kuthetha umngcipheko. Ngokusekwe kumava ethu adlulileyo siza kubona ubudlelwane ngokusebenzisa iilensi zethu zoloyiko olufundileyo okanye ukuthembela ngethemba. Ukuzimisela kwento endiyilindeleyo kunye nendlela endiyidlala ngayo indima yam kumdaniso osondeleyo kuqala ngamava am okuqala othando nokusondelelana, ubuntwana bam. (Faka umqulu wamehlo apha).
Jonga iindawo zobuntwana bakho ukuphanda iingxaki zakho zobudlelwane
Senza udaka kubomi bethu, ubukhulu becala, singazi ukuba kutheni sisabela kwaye sigcina imiyalezo ngaphakathi ngendlela. Sonke sahlukile kwaye siqhuba ubomi bethu kwiitemplate zethu zesalathiso kwaye ireferensi yethu yinto esiyifundileyo xa sasibancinci.
Njengomphathiswa, ndiqala ukuphonononga le template kunye nabaxhasi bam ngokubuza imibuzo. Kwakunjani kowenu xa wawusemncinci? Babunjani ubushushu beemvakalelo? Uthando lwalunjani? Zazilungiswa njani iingxabano? Ubekhona umama notata wakho? Ngaba babekhona ngokweemvakalelo? Ngaba babenomsindo? Ngaba babezingca? Ngaba babenexhala? Ngaba babedandathekile? Babevana kanjani umama notata? Zinyamekelwa njani iimfuno zakho? Ngaba waziva uthandwa, ufunwa, ukhuselekile, ukhuselekile, yinto ephambili? Ngaba waziva uneentloni? Ngokuqhelekileyo siyathethelela imiba phakathi kosapho kuba, izinto zilungile ngoku, yayinjalo ngoko, ingandichaphazela njani ngoku sendimdala, babonelela, njlnjl. Kuyinyani, kodwa akuncedi ukuba umntu ufuna ukuqonda ukuba kutheni uzive kwaye uziphathe ngeendlela ezithile.
Ukuba abantu bakulungele ukuphanda ukuba kutheni ubudlelwane babo busengxakini kwaye kufuneka baqwalasele ukuphilisa kunye nokuphucula, kungekuphela nje kubudlelwane kodwa ngaphakathi kwabo, kuya kufuneka babe nenyani kunye ne-hangover ukusuka ebuntwaneni kunye nokuba iyazichaphazela njani ebomini babo. Ukuphonononga, ngokungagwebi, ngendlela enomdla, ukuba siziqhelanise njani nokusingqongileyo njengomntwana ukuqinisekisa uhlobo oluthile loqhakamshelwano kunye nendlela esilitolika ngayo ixabiso lethu lokuba neemfuno zadibana nothando olungenamiqathango kunye nokwamkelwa.
Ndimema abathengi bam ukuba beze ecaleni ebuntwaneni babo, ukuba baqwalasele okwenzekayo ngokungathi bayayibukela idlala kumdlalo bhanyabhanya kwaye bachaze abakubonayo. Ndiyaphinda, hayi ukutyhola kodwa ukuqonda nokufumana izicwangciso zokuzilungisa ngaphambi kwesibetho esivela kubundlobongela bobuntwana kwimibutho yabasebenzi yanamhlanje.
Sibona umhlaba ngelensi yeemeko ezisekwe ebuntwaneni bethu
Cinga okomzuzwana, ukuba kubukhali bokubanzima, ngamnye kuthi unendlela ethile yokukhula kokuncamathiselwa okuphuma gazi kuzo zonke iinkalo zobomi bethu. Njengabantwana, siyadibanisa ukuba yeyiphi eyona nto iphambili kuthi kwaye sibaxabise ngokusekwe kwindlela esiphathwe ngayo nakhuliswe ngayo. Sikwimo yokusinda njengabantwana. Ukuqhuba kwethu kukugcina unxibelelwano nabo basikhathaleleyo, kwaye asiboni ukuba isimilo sokuziqhelanisa okwethutyana njengabantwana sinokuba sisisulu esingalunganga njengabantu abadala. Ukongeza, sibona umhlaba ngelensi yeemeko ngokusekwe kubantwana bethu ekuyalele ukuba sikulungiselele. Iimephu zethu zokusinda zenziwe kwaye zenza ulindelo olungazi nto ukuba ibali esiqhelene nalo njengabantwana yile nto iya kuqhubeka nokubonakala ebomini bethu.
Ukuba ndikhula ndinomkhathaleli ozinzileyo ngokweemvakalelo, ongenaxinzelelo, ongaguquguqukiyo ekujonganeni neemfuno zam kwaye unokuqonda okunempilo kweemvakalelo, ndiye ndikhuseleke ngakumbi kubudlelwane bam. Iimbambano kunye nezilingo ziya kuba namava kodwa ukulungiswa kunokwenzeka kuba ndifundile ngononophelo lwam indlela yokuhamba ngale ndlela kwaye ndingoyiki. Oku kongeza ukomelela kwam kunye namandla olawulo lweemvakalelo, ndisazi ukulungiswa kunokwenzeka kwaye ndiyakwazi ukujongana noxinzelelo ngaphandle kokuphendula gwenxa. Ndiza kukhula ndibenokuzithemba, ukuzithemba okusempilweni, imida esempilweni, ulawulo lweemvakalelo kunye nobudlelwane obuphilileyo.
Ukuba ndikhula ndingenakuqiniseka ukuba ndixhomekeke njani ebantwini, ngamanye amaxesha ndiziva ndikhuselekile kwaye ndinobuhlobo, ngamanye amaxesha ndinesixhaphaza okanye siphethe gadalala, emva koko ndiya kuthanda ukuwufaka ngaphakathi umyalezo endifuna ukusombulula kuwo ukuze abanye babekhona ngam. Ndiyanicela bantu, andinakuze ndikhululeke ngokubanzi, ndinexhala. Ndiza kuziva ndinganqabisekanga ngokuxhomekeke kukungaguquguquki kwaye kuya kuchukunyiswa lulo naluphi na utshintsho oluncinci kumoya okanye kwimood. Ukuba isimilo siyatshintsha kwaye kunqongophele kwiimvakalelo ndiza kugcina ukuyekiswa kunye nokugatywa. Xa umntu egodola kwaye ekude kwaye enganxibelelanisi, oko kufana nokufa kwaye kubangela isiphithiphithi kum.
Ukuba ndikhule ndingakhathalelwanga okanye ndilahliwe ngeendlela apho bendilindele nantoni na ukuba ibangele iintlungu kunye noxinzelelo, ndiya kuthi ndizivale iimvakalelo kunye nolindelo phantsi, ukuze ke ndigcine imeko yam yokhuseleko noxolo. Ndiza kuziva ndithembele ngakumbi kum kuphela nakwizenzo ezixhomekeke ekuxhomekekeni kwabanye kunokubangela uxinzelelo. Ndiza kubeka izithintelo ezinkulu kunxibelelwano kunye neemfuno kwaye ndingathembi mntu. Iimvakalelo zisisisongelo kwihlabathi lam; Umntu osondeleyo kakhulu usisongelo kuba iimvakalelo zam zisemngciphekweni. Nangona ndiyifuna, ndiyayoyika. Ukuba iqabane lam liba neemvakalelo, ndiza kuvala ngakumbi ukuzikhusela.
Umntu ngamnye ulala kwindawo ethile phakathi kwezi nqanaba. Cinga ngombono apho intetho ekhuselekileyo esempilweni ingumbindi ophakathi, kunye noxinzelelo, ukungazithembi ngokweemvakalelo kwelinye icala kwaye kuthintelwe, ukungazithembi ngokungqongqo kwenye. Ukungaphumeleli kolwalamano oluninzi kuyimveliso yokuxhalaba kunye nokuthintela umntu ukuthandana kwaye xa sele kudlule ixesha elaneleyo, obu buthathaka buyavezwa kwaye umntu ngamnye uqala ukubangela omnye kumjikelo ongapheliyo kuba, ubukhulu becala, sazi iipateni zethu zeemfuno zobudlelwane.
Qonda izitayile zakho zokuncamathisela ukuqala ukubuyisa kwakhona
Ngexesha apho unxibelelwano olunzulu luyafuneka, amanxeba okuncamathisela avele ngokwasemzimbeni kwaye aqale ukucaphukisa kwaye kubangele iingxaki. Ngaphandle kolwazi, umonakalo awunakulungiseka njengoko omabini la maqela ngokulula eveza uxanduva lweengxaki kulwalamano lomnye umntu, apho enyanisweni bobabini besilela kwiindlela zokuphila ababethembele kuzo ebomini babo. Abakhange babhengezwe ngendlela iqabane elisondeleyo eliza kubabhenca ngayo.
Nje ukuba abathengi bam babambisane baqale ukuvavanya kwaye baqonde ezabo iindlela zokuncamathisela umntu ngamnye, bayakwazi ukuqala inkqubo yokubuyisela kwimeko yesiqhelo kunye nokuphilisa eya kuthi ixhase ubudlelwane bokwenyani obubafaneleyo nomnqweno wabo.Ukuzinyanga ngokwakho kunokwenzeka, kwaye ixesha lokuphila kobudlelwane linokuphucuka yakuba le nkqubo yokufumanisa iqale. I-hangover ukusuka ebuntwaneni bethu inayo iyeza.