Umxholo
- Ukuqonda ukuba abafazi bafuna ntoni kubudlelwane
- 1. Abafazi balangazelela ukuthandana kuphela
- 2. Abafazi bayakonwabela ukuchukumiseka okungathandekiyo
- 3. Khawuleza ukucela uxolo
- 4. Yiba nolwazelelo kwiimfuno zomnye nomnye
- 5. Nika uncedo ungakhange ulinde ukucelwa
- 6. Yamkela ukugxekwa ubulale umsindo, hayi iimvakalelo
- Zimbalwa iingcebiso zobudlelwane kubafazi
- 1. Abafazi kufuneka bahloniphe amadoda abo
- 2. Kuya kufuneka uhlangabeze eyona mfuno yakhe iphambili- isini
- 1. Ukwabelana ngesondo kukhupha uxinzelelo, ngokwasemzimbeni nangokweemvakalelo
- 2. Gcina ezinye izinto eziluncedo ezikufutshane
- 3. Ucoceko lomntu
- 4. Uninzi lwabasetyhini ludinga ukuba bucala
- 5. Gcina ifowuni yakho kude
- 6. Gcina imfihlakalo iphilile
- 7. Izixhobo ezikhoyo zinokunceda
- 8. Yamkela amava angafezekanga
- 9. Cwangcisa imihla yokonwaba macala omabini
- 10. Nxibelelana nabanye
- 11. Cwangcisa ukubaleka kwezothando
Isazi ngengqondo uGqirha uKevin Leman uthi, “Isini siqala ekhitshini.” Kufuneka usebenze imini yonke ekugcineni imfihlelo kunye nothando luphila emtshatweni wakho kunye nokufumana iindlela zokwenza ulonwabo kwiqabane lakho.
Ukuba amadoda ayahluleka ukuqaphela okanye ukuxabisa iinzame ezibekwa ngabafazi babo ngakumbi xa ephakamile ezindlebeni zakhe nakwizitya ezingcolileyo, uya kuthi mhlawumbi angabi ngaphantsi kokuphendula kwinkqubela phambili yakho yokulala ngexesha lokulala.
Ke, kuya kufuneka ufunde ukonwaba kwiqabane lakho ngandlela zonke.
Ukuqonda ukuba abafazi bafuna ntoni kubudlelwane
Umfazi ufuna ulwalamano olupheleleyo, hayi isini kuphela.
Inoveli ka-1995 kunye nomdlalo bhanyabhanya Iibhlorho zaseMadison County zibonisa umntu wasetyhini ozibona ecacile kwaye engathandwa de umntu ongaziwayo atyhile ubuchule bakhe, ubukrelekrele kunye nobufazi. Uyavuka ukuba abe ngoyena mhle ngokupheleleyo ebomini obufutshane kunye naye awabugcina ngokufihlakeleyo ubomi bakhe bonke.
Madoda, cetyiswa, nawe, unamandla okubukhupha obu buhle buthandayo okanye ukubusiphula (njengoko yenzayo indoda yakhe) emfazini wakho.
1. Abafazi balangazelela ukuthandana kuphela
Abasetyhini banqwenela ukuthandana ngenxa yabo hayi njengeendlela zokufikelela esiphelweni.
Amadoda akufuneki alindele ukuba kwakamsinya nje ukuba abafazi babo beze neentyatyambo ekhaya, balayite amakhandlela ambalwa, okanye baqhube ibhafu, abafazi babo baya kufuna ukutsiba kwangoko ukuze babelane ngesondo nabo.
Ngokuchasene noko, unokunqwenela ukonwabela umzuzu othulileyo wesibane kunye neqabane lakhe kwaye uthethe ngemini yakhe okanye uve malunga neyakho. Ke, mbuze ukuba ucinga ntoni ukuba yeyothando, emva koko ufake ezo zinto kubudlelwane bakho kwaye wenze ulonwabo kwiqabane lakho.
2. Abafazi bayakonwabela ukuchukumiseka okungathandekiyo
Abafazi bakhetha ukuchukumisa okungathandekiyo.
Bayathanda ukubanjwa, ukubethwa, nokukhatywa ngaphandle kokuziva benyanzelekile ukuba banike nantoni na. Ngaphandle koko, banokuphela beziva ngathi zizinto zesondo, zizinto nje zokufumana isidoda somyeni wabo.
Ngelishwa emadodeni, kodwa leyo yindlela avakalelwa ngayo umfazi kwaye alindele ukuba aphume kwiqabane lakhe. Njengomyeni, ukuba uyasilela ukubonisa loo nto, unokuphulukana naye ngonaphakade.
Ke, livuyise iqabane lakho ngokumxabisa ngezinye iimpawu kunye negalelo emtshatweni wakho,
3. Khawuleza ukucela uxolo
Gcina iiakhawunti ezimfutshane, Oko kukuthi, khawuleza ukucela uxolelo ngazo naziphi na iintlungu kunye nokungaqondani ukugcina ubunye beemvakalelo.
4. Yiba nolwazelelo kwiimfuno zomnye nomnye
Buza nawuphi na umntu wasetyhini imibuzo efana 'nendlela yokwenza indoda yakho yonwabe, ngokwasemphefumlweni okanye ngokwesondo kubudlelwane?' Bayazi amaqhinga ahlukeneyo kunye neengcebiso ngendlela yokugcina amadoda abo onwabile, ngokwasemzimbeni nangokweemvakalelo.
Ngokukwanjalo, luxanduva lwakho njengamadoda anoxanduva ukufunda iindlela zokwenza ulonwabo kwiqabane lakho. Imfuno yendoda eqhutywa yi-testosterone yesondo yiyo yonke into esebenzayo njengemfuno yomfazi yokulila okanye ukubonisa iimvakalelo zakhe ngexesha le-estrogen-ehlawulisiweyo, usuku olunomngeni wehomoni.
5. Nika uncedo ungakhange ulinde ukucelwa
Kwakhona njengamadoda anoxanduva, kuya kufuneka uqonde xa umfazi wakho ethwele umthwalo ngemisebenzi ukuze ube nokuncedisa ngaphandle kokulinda ukucelwa.
Ukuba kunokwenzeka ubone umntwana okhalayo etsala uMama kumlenze we-pant ngelixa azama ukunceda uJunior ngemathematika yakhe kunye noSissie omncinci ngopelo, kunye nezitya ezingcolileyo zangokuhlwa zisamisiwe esinkini, ndiyathemba ukuba awucingi "Ndiyazibuza ukuba ingaba uzokulungela ukuthatha amanyathelo kancinci ngokuhlwanje."
Khawukhumbule nje! Ngamanye amaxesha ukuhlamba izitya nokubeka umntwana ebhedini zezona zinto zibalulekileyo onokuzenza.
6. Yamkela ukugxekwa ubulale umsindo, hayi iimvakalelo
Ukuqonda ukugxekwa kunye nomsindo kubulala ubunye beemvakalelo.
Ukuba unqwenela ukonwaba kwiqabane lakho, vele ulinganise amagama akho kwaye uqaphele izinto ezingacacanga (okanye ezingezizo-ezingaqondakaliyo) eziphantsi kwemiyalezo kwilizwi lakho lelizwi kunye nembonakalo yobuso.
Konke okufuneka ukwenze kukubulala nje umsindo wakho kodwa musa ukubuphelisa ubunye beemvakalelo kunye naye.
Zimbalwa iingcebiso zobudlelwane kubafazi
Abasetyhini kunye namantombazana amancinci banobuchule bokugcina amaqabane abo onwabile. Ke, xa ubuzwa kwimixholo enxulumene nokuthi 'Uyonwabisa njani indoda yakho kubudlelwane?', Uya kusikelelwa ngeempendulo ezininzi ezinomdla.
Kodwa, abafazi banamhlanje kufuneka bazikhuphe kwezona mbono mbi zinje-
1. Abafazi kufuneka bahloniphe amadoda abo
Ukucinga ukuba thina njengabafazi asinakukhetha kulo mbandela, kodwa siyalelwe ukuba si-R-E-S-P-E-C-T abayeni bethu nokuba yintoni, emva koko ukucinga oko kuphosakele.
Yiyeke le uyenzayo ngoku kwaye uthathe umoya ophefumlayo, uvale amehlo akho, kwaye ubulele iNkosi ngokuninika le ndoda ukuba ibe sisithandwa sakho, iqhawe, umboneleli kunye nomkhuseli wekhaya lakho.
Cinga ngazo zonke iimpawu zakhe ezintle kwaye ucwangcise iindlela zokumazisa ukuba umxabisa kangakanani ngezi zinto.
2. Kuya kufuneka uhlangabeze eyona mfuno yakhe iphambili- isini
Njengabafazi, khumbula ukuba xa usabelana ngesondo nomyeni wakho, nihlangabezana nenombolo yakhe yokuqala.
Iingcinga ezinje ngezi azichananga kwaphela. Musa ukubaphatha kancinci. Endaweni yoko, jonga le yenye yeendlela ezilungileyo zokwenza ukuba iqabane lakho lonwabe. Apha, unxibelelana naye ongenakwenziwa ngayo nayiphi na enye indlela.
Uyawomeleza umtsalane wemagnethi omgcina ebuyela ngaphezulu kwaye uthintele iliso lakhe ekujikelezeni kwenye indawo ukuze ahlangane naloo mfuno.
Zimbalwa ezinye iingcebiso zesibini zokonwabela ubomi obonwabisayo emtshatweni
1. Ukwabelana ngesondo kukhupha uxinzelelo, ngokwasemzimbeni nangokweemvakalelo
Ukwabelana ngesondo kuninika nobabini ukukhululeka koxinzelelo, ngokwasemzimbeni nangokweemvakalelo, ngelixa ikunika indlela yokuba novakalelo omnye komnye njengoko ufunda indlela yokuzincama kunye nokunikela nokwamkela iziyolo.
2. Gcina ezinye izinto eziluncedo ezikufutshane
Izinto zokuthambisa zobuqu, iKleenex okanye ilaphu lokuhlamba impahla, iminti yokuphefumla okanye intshungama, ioyile yokuthambisa okanye yokuthambisa imithambo yomqolo okanye iirubs ezinyaweni, umculo wothando, amakhandlela, kunye nematshisi zimbalwa zezinto ezinokubakho xa kufuneka.
3. Ucoceko lomntu
Ukuba unqwenela ukonwabisa iqabane lakho, soloko ukhumbula ukukhathalela impilo yakho.
Ucoceko lusondele kuThixo.
4. Uninzi lwabasetyhini ludinga ukuba bucala
Ngaba umnyango wakho wokulala utshixa? Ngaba abantwana baxakekile ukuze bangakuphazamisi?
Amanye amaqabane ahlala "etshintshana ngesondo" kwaye atshintshana ngokugcina abantwana komnye nomnye ukuqinisekisa ixesha elingenakuphazamiseka.
5. Gcina ifowuni yakho kude
Kwakhona, ukuba unqwenela ukonwaba kwiqabane lakho kwaye wonwabele uxolo ekhaya, vuma ukungaphenduli umnxeba xa bekufuphi kuwe.
Iifowuni kunye nezinye izixhobo ezinjengeelaptops kunye neetafile zinokuba zezona zinto ziphazamisayo kunye nenzondo kubudlelwane. Misela umthetho-vumela ilizwi lakho ngeposi okanye umatshini wokuphendula ukwenzele umsebenzi.
6. Gcina imfihlakalo iphilile
Soloko uzama izinto ezintsha ukugcina enye yemfihlakalo iphila. Izinto ezinjengokucima izibane phantsi kwaye ucothe ukudanisa nazo zonke iimpahla zakho ukuze uve nje imizimba yakho ihamba kunye. Enye into, ukondla amaqunube atyiwa kwitshokholethi, emva koko ukhothe itshokholethi kwiminwe yakho njalo njalo.
Nantoni na eya kusebenza njengesiqalo sesondo ngaphandle kokukhulula iimpahla zakho kwaye ungene ebhedini, iya kusebenza kakuhle ukugcina idangatye lothando luvutha.
7. Izixhobo ezikhoyo zinokunceda
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8. Yamkela amava angafezekanga
Qaphela ukuba ayingawo onke amava ekufuneka abe "ngu-10" ogqibeleleyo, oko kukuthi, umbono wakho wokuqhushumba, kunyekanye orgasms.
Ngamanye amaxesha umfazi uzimisele ukuhlala kwi "quickie" ukukholisa indoda yakhe kwaye adlulele kwinto elandelayo kubomi bakhe obuxakekileyo. Kodwa qiniseka ukuba unxibelelwano olunentsingiselo, xa ujolise kulonwabo lomnye, ubuncinci kube kanye ngeveki.
9. Cwangcisa imihla yokonwaba macala omabini
Yenza imihla yezi seshoni zikhethekileyo zokuzonwabisa, ngakumbi ukuba uyazi ukuba iqabane lakho "linexesha lokuqala."
10. Nxibelelana nabanye
Zimisele ukuthetha malunga nezinto ozikhethayo kunye.
Ngaba iqabane lakho liyakuthanda ukurabha iinyawo okanye ukugcoba umqolo okanye intamo? Ukukhathaza okanye ukukrwitshwa ngasemva? Izikhundla ezahlukeneyo? Ukujonga emehlweni omnye komnye?
Ezi zinto zixoxwa ngcono kwindawo ekhululekile xa unexesha elininzi kwaye kungekho ziphazamiso.
11. Cwangcisa ukubaleka kwezothando
Oko kusizisa kwingcebiso yethu yokugqibela yokwenza ulwalamano neqabane lakho.
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