Umxholo
- Iziphumo zothando
- Iziphumo zendoda eshiya umfazi
- Ukuxhatshazwa kwexhoba-kuhlala udlala umdlalo osolwayo
- Ayilotyala lakho
NguJanuwari 01, 2018. Kwisithunzi esimnyama sasebusuku, uSamantha ulele ebhedini yakhe. Intloko yakhe igcinwe kumqamelo ogcwele iinyembezi uziva ngathi ugqabhukile ziintlungu ngelixa ecinga ngesizathu sokuba umyeni wakhe amshiye kwelinye ibhinqa.
USamantha uneminyaka engama-30 ubudala, ujongeka emncinci kwiminyaka emi-3. Ukrelekrele kwaye usempilweni. Xa ubonwa ngelensi yomnye umntu, mhle. Xa ubonwa ngelensi yakhe, uyadika, uyadika kwaye akathandeki.
Ngoku, umntu unokubuza ukuba kutheni kunjalo. Kutheni uSamantha engaziboni njengomntu onomtsalane? Kungenxa yokuba ebekhe, kutsha nje, eshiywe ngumyeni wakhe ukuya komnye umfazi.
Umyeni wakhe, kuyabonakala ukuba, wayethandana nentombazana eneminyaka engama-25 ubudala yomnquma enolusu, ebhityile, kwaye emde ophupha ukubayimodeli ngenye imini. Ngeenwele zakhe ezigqibeleleyo kunye nokuhamba okumangalisayo, angenza ukuba nabani na awe entloko ngenxa yakhe.
Ngaphandle kwabo bathandana ngokwenene.
Iziphumo zothando
Xa umntu esemathandweni, abajongi ngaphezu kwemilenze emide emide, okanye iinwele ezintle ze-auburn kunye nokuhamba ngesini. Xa umntu ethandana, abashiyi umfazi oneminyaka engama-30 ubudala ukuba abe nemodeli ye-wannabe eneminyaka engama-24.
Xa umntu esemathandweni, babona abantu abahle kuyo yonke indawo, kodwa banamehlo kuphela kumntu abamthandayo.
Ngeminyaka engama-30, into uSamantha angayiqondiyo kukuba kwakungekho ngenxa yesikhumba sakhe, ubudala bakhe okanye ingqondo yakhe yokuba umyeni wakhe wamshiya. Kwakungenxa yokuba wayeyintsini kwaye wayengazi ukuba angathanda njani.
Njengabanye abafazi abaninzi, uSamantha waba noxinzelelo emva koqhawulo-mtshato. Kwakungekho kangako ukwahlukana kwakhe okwakumophule kakubi, kodwa into yokuba umyeni wakhe emshiyele umntu acinga ukuba ubonakala engcono kwaye emhle ngakumbi.
Abasetyhini abaqondi ukuba ekuphela kwesizathu sokuba indoda ishiye elinye ibhinqa liye kwelinye kukuba ingumjita kwaye ayizange ithandane.
Wayeligwala kwaye engazi nokunyaniseka.
Iziphumo zendoda eshiya umfazi
Xa indoda ishiya umfazi, ihlala icinga ukuba kungenxa yeempazamo zayo, ukusilela kunye neempazamo. Uhlala ecinga ngezinto angazenziyo ebezinokumenza ukuba ahlale ukuba ebenezo zinto, njengolutsha, ukuvutha kunye nomtsalane.
Njengawo nawuphi na umfazi ojamelene nokuqhekeka ngenxa yokuba indoda yakhe yamshiya yaya komnye umfazi, uSamantha uyazi kakuhle ukungafezeki kwakhe ngoku.
Kunye nokuba buhlungu kakhulu, akazithembanga kwaphela.
Ubona ngokucacileyo amabala ebusweni bakhe, amaqhakuva ebunzi, inyama eyongezelelweyo esiswini sakhe, iinkophe zakhe ezimfutshane, iinwele zakhe ezimbi. Uyabona yonke into embi ngaye ngaphandle kwento enye kunye nokubi kuphela ekhoyo-isigqibo sakhe esingalunganga sokutshata nendoda efana nejerk.
USamantha nabanye ke basetyhini abaninzi bayazigxeka ngobugwala bomnye umntu kunye nokusilela. Oku akwamkelekanga kodwa kulukiwe kwintlalo yethu.
Ukuxhatshazwa kwexhoba-kuhlala udlala umdlalo osolwayo
Ukuhambisa phambili-yi-01 kaNovemba ka-2018, kwaye uSamantha ekugqibeleni uyekile ukulila.
Akazithembi kwakhona. Akajongi ngokulangazelela abancinci, ulutsha. Uhlala ezifumana ecinga ngazo zonke izinto anombulelo ngazo kunye nazo zonke iindlela ezimangalisa ngazo.
Ngoku uyayiqonda into exhaphakileyo kuluntu lwethu ukuba abantu babeke ityala kwabasetyhini nangeempazamo zamadoda. Rhoqo kunamadoda, abafazi bafunyanwa besola omnye umfazi ngeempazamo neempazamo zamadoda.
Akumangalisi ke ukuba uSamantha afunyanwe esiva izinto ezinje, bekufanele ukuba umenzele le nto, bekufanele ukuba umgcinile, kwaye kufuneka unxibe iinwele zakho ezimfutshane kwaye uzinxibe ngakumbi iilokhwe zakho.
Ukuva wonke umntu emgxeka ngokushiywa ngumyeni wakhe, uSamantha uyabamisa phakathi kwezigwebo zabo, kuba ekugqibeleni, uqondile ukuba yayingelo tyala lakhe ukuba umyeni wakhe wamshiya waya kwelinye ibhinqa.
Xa ebuzwa, uxelela abantu “Umyeni wam undishiyile, kodwa hayi omnye umfazi. Wandishiya ngenxa yokuba wayeligwala elibaleka ukunyaniseka nokuzinikela ixesha elide. ”
Ngoku, eyona nto imbi ayifumanayo uSamantha kukuzisola ngokungazikhetheli umntu olungileyo.
Ayilotyala lakho
Kunyanzelekile ukuba lo myalezo wabelwane nawo onke amaSamantha phaya.
Umyeni wakho akakushiyanga omnye umfazi. Umyeni wakho akazange akushiye kuba wawuyinto engaphantsi komnye umntu nangayiphi na indlela. Umntu wakho akakushiyanga kuba wawungekho mhle okanye umde ngokwaneleyo.
Ushiye wena kuba zange wazi ngothando. Ushiye wena kuba engenasibindi kwaye engenangqondo yokunyaniseka.