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Iqabane lakho lithi kuwe, “Ukuba awukwazi ukuza nezizathu ezi-3 zokuba kutheni undithanda, awundithandi. Uthanda nje umbono wonke wam. Okanye uyayithanda indlela endikwenza uzive ngayo okanye indlela endijongeka ngayo; uyayithanda ingqalelo endikunika yona, kodwa wena awundithandi. ”
Ingaba wenza ntoni?
Unokuhlala ujikeleze ucinge malunga nokuba kuqhubeka ntoni, kutheni iqabane lakho likubuza yonke le mibuzo. Kodwa inyani kukuba abantu namhlanje baphazame ikakhulu ukuba luyintoni kanye kanye uthando. Bavame ukucinga ukuba uthando luziva nangona kungenjalo. Bakholelwa ekubeni ukuthandana kuthetha amabhabhathane kunye nemnyama; Ukucinga ngalo mntu mnye rhoqo yonke imihla yakho.
Kulapho bahamba gwenxa khona! La mabhabhathane kunye neengcinga ezihlalwe liqabane lakho ayilo thando. Kukuthatheka. Kumnandi, kodwa akuchazi uthando.
Luthini ke uthando?
Yintoni uthando?
Uthando lubuhlungu kunye nokuzincama. Uthando luyalalanisa kwaye luyahlonipha. Uthando yeyona nto intle kwaye iyinyani kweli lizwe kwaye xa uphindaphindiwe unokukwenza uzive izinto ongazange wazi ukuba zikhona.
Khawufane ucinge ngomntu owazi konke malunga nawe njengomva wesandla sakho. Nditsho nezinto ezingabalulekanga ongafuni kwazi mntu ngazo; njengezinto ezikwenza ube neentloni.
Khawufane ucinge xa uzokumosha umyeke lo mntu, bakuxolele.
Banobuchule ngokwaneleyo ukuba bangafunda phakathi kwemigca, baqonde imeko kwaye bangakugwebi. Oku kuthetha ukuba bayakuthanda.
Bayazibona ezona zinto zincinci zincinci njengobunzima emathangeni akho okanye imole esentanyeni yakho, ungayicaphukela, kodwa bacinga ukuba ichaza wena.
Bayayiqaphela indlela otyibilika ngayo xa usegumbini elinabantu abaninzi okanye indlela okrazuka ngayo xa usiva izifungo zomtshato zomntu. Bazifumana ezi zinto zintle nokuba uzifumanisa bengekakhuli.
Bayayithanda intliziyo yakho kunye novelwano olugcinayo, bayazi ukuba uthanda umva wesandla sakho. Olu luthando. Kuyaziwa ngokupheleleyo kwaye ngokupheleleyo kodwa kwamkelwe.
Xa umntu enithanda, banithanda nonke hayi nje iinxalenye enibukeka nizihle kuzo.
Uthando lunokukhetha njani?
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Watsho ukuba umntu owakhe wafumanisa ukuba neenkani zakho zintle kwaye iinyawo zakho zikwi-dash yazo emtsalane unokufumana kamva ukuba neenkani kwakho njengokwala ukulalanisa kunye neenyawo zakho ukungakhuli.
Esi sithuba sifikelele kubantu abaninzi, kwaye bavumile ngale nto ukuba xa ukomelela okuvuthayo kunye nokunqula ubudlelwane bakho kusweleke, konke okushiyekileyo luthuthu ukujongana nalo. Emva kwexesha kwesinye isithuba, xa wayekwimeko yeemvakalelo engazinzanga, wongeza kwisithuba sakhe.
Uye wathi eyona ndawo intle kakhulu eklasini kuxa utitshala wakhe ebuza abafundi ukuba uthando lukhetho okanye luthando. Nangona uninzi lwabantwana lwalusithi luluvakalelo, utitshala wayecinga ngenye indlela.
Ubanga ukuba uthando kukuzinikela okwaziyo ukuhlala uthembekile kumntu omnye.
Emva kweminyaka embalwa betshatile, u-lovey-dovey oziva enyamalala kwaye konke oshiyekileyo kukuzibophelela owakha wakwenza.
Awunakho ukwakha ubudlelwane kwisiseko esingagungqiyo njengeemvakalelo. Xa umntu enithanda, banithanda nonke. Bayazibona iindawo zakho ezibuthathaka kwaye basakuthanda.
Abakugwebi; banomonde kuwe, bayakuthemba kwaye bajonge kwelakho icala elingcono.Bayakholelwa kuwe, kwaye xa bekucaphukisa, bathetha nawe malunga nokuzola. Bajolise kulwalamano ngakumbi endaweni yokujonga ekunene. Xa umthanda umntu, ukwamkela iziphene zakhe kuza ngokwendalo.
Xa iimvakalelo ziphela, kwaye uchulumanco lokujonga phambili kubukho babo buyaphela, uhlala ekhaya ulinde iqabane lakho ukuba lize ekhaya kuba uyabathanda. Kungenxa yokuba ukhetha ukuzibophelela kubo. Kungenxa yokuba wenza ukhetho kwaye uzimisele ukuluhlonipha.
Wenze ukhetho. Akunyanzelekanga ukuba uhlale uziva usemathandweni.
Ngezinye iintsuku uvuka nalo mntu wakhe wakuphoxa, usadla isidlo sakusasa kunye nabo kwaye ukhethe ukuba nobubele kubo. Olu luthando.