Umxholo
- Iingcebiso zobudlelwane kwizibini ezitshatileyo
- Gcina ulwalamano lwakho lomelele
- Ungabugcina njani ubudlelwane phakathi kwesoyikiso secoronavirus
- Iingcebiso ezimbalwa ngakumbi zokugcina ubudlelwane bomelele
Abanye bethu, ukubambeka endlwini kwaye bangabinako ukuphuma yeyona nto imangalisayo sinokuyicela.
Kwabanye, kubonakala ngathi sibotshwe ngamakhamandela ekhejini, kwaye yeyona nto yokugqibela sifuna ukuyenza.
Senza ntoni kubudlelwane apho iqabane lethu lahluke kakhulu kuthi, kwaye sitshixelwe endlwini ngaphandle kokubanakho ukuphuma? Senza njani malunga nokugcina ubudlelwane bomelele?
Abantu abaninzi bathi ukusukela le meko yokuvalelwa bodwa, bebesemngciphekweni wokuba "balahlekelwe" ngamaqabane abo, ngelixa abanye besithi le yeyona nto ibalaseleyo eyakha yenzeka kubudlelwane ixesha elide.
Ucinga ukuba zeziphi iindlela zokuhlala ulungile kwaye ugcine ubudlelwane bomelele kule meko?
Funda malunga neengcebiso ezifanelekileyo kwizibini ezinokukunceda ekugcineni ubudlelwane bomelele.
Iingcebiso zobudlelwane kwizibini ezitshatileyo
Ewe, enye yokukhokela Unobangela woqhawulo-mtshato kukusilela konxibelelwano.
Kubantu ababini abaneendlela ezahlukeneyo zokunxibelelana, ukuqonda, kunye nokubona iimeko, kunokuba ngumceli mngeni ekugcineni ubudlelwane bomelele, akunjalo?
Ndiqinisekile ukuba ukuba ufunda le post, unoluvo malunga nale nto ndiyithethayo. Kukangaphi uthetha into kwiqabane lakho, kwaye beve into eyahlukileyo ngokupheleleyo?
Sonke sinamaxesha anje. Yindalo yomntu ukuba uphenjelelwe zizinto ezindala kunye noxinzelelo lwemihla ngemihla.
Umzekelo, ukuba bendikhe ndachitha ikofu yam yonke phezu kwam okanye itayara eligqabhukileyo njengoko bendizakushiya
sebenza- ucinga ukuba ndingacaphuka xa ndifika emsebenzini?
Kuthekani ukuba emsebenzini kukho into echithakeleyo kum okanye umphathi wam undixelele into, andonwabanga kakhulu - ucinga ukuba umqobo kunye nomonde wam kumalungu osapho lwam awuyi kuchaphazeleka?
Singabantu! Sinelungelo lokuba neemvakalelo kwaye ngamanye amaxesha siphulukane nokuzola.
Yintoni ebalulekileyo kukuba sifunde ukunxibelelana malunga nezinto esihamba kuzo ngokukuko ukugcina ubudlelwane bomelele.
Ukwazi ukuthi kubantu obathandayo, “hee. Ndiyakuthanda. Bendinemini engaginyisi mathe emsebenzini, ngoko ke ndizokuhlamba ukuze ndiphumle, kwaye ndiza kuphuma sincokole emva koko. ”
Okanye "hey. Ndiyakuthanda, kodwa bendinosuku olunzima, ke ndiza kucamngca okwemizuzu embalwa ukuze ndibekho ngokupheleleyo. ”
Gcina ulwalamano lwakho lomelele
Wonke umntu wahlukile ngokwendlela abantu abanokuyenza ukuze bazenzele umhlaba. Kubalulekile ukuba siqaphele into esiyifunayo kwaye sinxibelelane ngayo.
Amaxesha amaninzi, endaweni yokwenza oko, siyazikhusela okanye sigxeke amaqabane ethu. Intetho kaGqirha Gottman malunga “namahashe amane” ukugxeka, ukuzikhusela, ukugibisela ngamatye, kunye nokudelela njengezona zinto zixhaphakileyo ekuziphatheni kunxibelelwano.
Ndiqinisekile ukuba abantu abaninzi bayazibandakanya kwezi ndlela zokuziphatha nomntu omnye okanye abaninzi ebomini babo. Kubudlelwane bezothando, kunokuba yingozi.
Kufuneka sizazi ezi ndlela zokuziphatha kunye nendlela yokuzilungisa.
Xa abantu ababini bexabana kwaye ukubetha kwentliziyo yabo kugqitha kwi-100 beats ngomzuzu, abasenakho ukuqhubekeka ulwazi ngendlela eguqukayo. Kunjalo ngoba ukuphikisana xa uziva ukonganyelwe ayingombono olungileyo.
Ungabugcina njani ubudlelwane phakathi kwesoyikiso secoronavirus
Ndingathanda ukubuyela ekuxoxeni ngemeko esikuyo- I-coronavirus!
Ngoku, kunanini na ngaphambili, kubaluleke kakhulu ukuqinisekisa nantoni na iqabane lakho elihamba nayo. Jonga ukuba bafuna ntoni kuwe ukuze bazive bhetele.
Amaxesha amaninzi, sizixakekisa kakhulu ngezinto esinokusenzelwa liqabane lethu silibale ukuhoya kwaye senze oko bakufunayo kuthi.
Cinga ngolu luvo-ukuba ngaba iqabane ngalinye liyakwenza izinto zemihla ngemihla lokwenza izinto iqabane labo elizonwabeleyo kwaye lixabise kwaye neqabane labo liyakwenza okufanayo kubo- ingaba yintoni umphumo?
Eureka!
Bobabini baya kuziva bethandwa, bexatyisiwe, kwaye bonwabile. Yintoni enye esinokuyicela?
Ukuba ulwalamano lwexesha elide, mhlawumbi uyazi iqabane lakho ngokufanelekileyo. Uyazi ngaphakathi, ukuba akunjalo ngoko nangoko, ziziphi ezinye zezinto onokuthi xa uzibandakanya nazo, iqabane lakho lingonwaba kakhulu.
Amaxesha amaninzi, ezo zinokuba zizinto ezincinci ongazifumaniyo nokuba kutheni zibaluleke kakhulu kwiqabane lakho, kodwa bayazenza. Qalisa ukwenza ezo zinto kwaye uqaphele ukuba izinto ziqala njani ukutshintsha ngokuqinisekileyo.
Emva kwayo yonke loo nto, sonke sineelwimi ezahlukeneyo zothando, kwaye sinamava / siqonda izinto ngokwahlukileyo. Thatha eli xesha ukuze wazi iqabane lakho ngcono.
Bukela le vidiyo ilandelayo ukuze ufunde ngakumbi malunga nokufumana ulonwabo emtshatweni wakho:
Iingcebiso ezimbalwa ngakumbi zokugcina ubudlelwane bomelele
Ezi ngcebiso zilula kakhulu ukulandela. Nokuba uyabafumana behlekisa ekuqaleni, zama ukumilisela kube kanye. Banokunceda ekugcineni ubudlelwane bomelele.
Yenza ipikniki emva kokuba abantwana beyokulala (ukuba unayo). Ungayenza ebhedini / kwibhalkoni, ngakwiphuli, kwigaraji ukuba ufuna njalo.
Yothusa iqabane lakho uzibhalele inqaku malunga nendlela odibene ngayo kunye nento ekwenza ukuba uthandane nabo. Buza iqabane lakho ukuba baziva njani kwaye uqiniseke ukuba uyabaqinisekisa.
Yiba nencoko ende kude kube sebusuku.
Bhala amanqaku othando, iingoma zothando, kunye neetekisi ezimnandi omnye komnye.
Zibandakanye kwizinto ezimbalwa oqhele ukuzenza kwaye ongasazenziyo kuzo. Fumana intlantsi kwaye uvuse. Konke oko kuthatha ukugcina ulwalamano luqinile, unayo kuwe!