Umxholo
- Ukuzivocavoca umzimba ngokusekwe kumdlalo kamabonakude weTLC, Sweep Clean
- Ukuthatha isigqibo ngeyona nto ilungele umtshato
- Yintoni ekufuneka igcinwe, iphoswe okanye yongezwe
- Gcina, uphonsa kwaye ungeze ngokufanelekileyo nakwizibini ezitshatileyo
Ndiyathanda ukwenza iingcebiso ngaphambi komtshato. Isibini sinamehlo aqaqambileyo kunye nomsila omdaka. Bachulumancile ngale adventure intsha sele beza kuyenza. Babambe isithandwa sabo ngendlela efanelekileyo. Bakulungele ukuthetha ngeendlela zonxibelelwano kwaye bamkela iingcebiso kunye nezixhobo ezitsha. Abakaqali iminyaka yomsindo okanye yokuphoxeka. Kwaye ikakhulu lixesha lovuyo, ukuhleka, kunye nokuphosa umbono wobomi babo bekamva kunye. Kubalulekile, nangona kunjalo, ukuba ndicele umngeni kwezi zibini ukuba zigcine ukulindeleka okusempilweni koko kuzayo. Kuya kubakho amaqhuma, kuya kubakho iintsuku ezinzima, kuya kubakho iimfuno ezingafezekiswanga, kuya kubakho ukucaphuka. Kodwa ukuya emtshatweni kunye nokuqonda okulungeleleneyo kubalulekile. Lindela izinto ezinkulu kodwa zilungiselele kwaye uzame ukuthintela okubi. Sukuzithemba. Yilwa nesoyolo. Kwaye ungaze uyeke ukumangaliswa kwaye ubulele ukuba umntu ukhethe ukuchitha yonke imihla nawe.
Ukuzivocavoca umzimba ngokusekwe kumdlalo kamabonakude weTLC, Sweep Clean
Olunye umthambo endisoloko ndenza abantu abatshatileyo kwiingcebiso zangaphambi komtshato kubonakala kusebenza kubo njengoko behlangabezana nezinye zeengxaki zobomi. Ukwabiwa ngokusekwe kumdlalo weTV wakudala obizwa ngokuba yi "Clean Sweep". Ukuba uyawukhumbula lo mboniso, ingcali iza kungena kwikhaya losapho elingahlelanga kakuhle kwaye ibanyanzele ukuba baququzelele kwaye bacoce. Baza kuhamba kwizinto zabo kancinci kwaye babeke izinto kwiimfumba ezahlukeneyo ezibhalwe "Gcina", "Toss", okanye "Thengisa". Baza kuthi emva koko bathathe isigqibo sokuba zeziphi izinto abangenakuphila ngaphandle kwazo, zeziphi izinto abafuna ukuzilahla okanye abanikele ngazo, kwaye zeziphi izinto abafuna ukuzibeka kwigaraji yokuthengisa ukunceda ukwenza imali encinci.
Iyacetyiswa Ikhosi yangaphambi komtshato
Ukuthatha isigqibo ngeyona nto ilungele umtshato
Sebenzisa oku kubonwayo, ndicela izibini ukuba zihlale phantsi zixoxe ngamacandelo athile ngokubhekiselele kwinto abafuna ukuyigcina, ukuyiphosa, kwaye [endaweni yokuthengisa] ukongeza. Njengokuba aba bantu babini bekhetha ukudibanisa ubomi babo emtshatweni, bakhetha ukuzichonga njengeyunithi enye, njengentsapho entsha, kunye nezinto zabo. Ke ngoko kubalulekile ukuba bobabini bathathe isigqibo sokuba yeyiphi ezakulungela umtshato wabo (hayi abazali babo, hayi izihlobo zabo, ezabo). Bathatha ixesha lokujonga emva kwiintsapho zabo zemvelaphi kunye nembali yobudlelwane babo kwaye bathathe isigqibo malunga nokuba bangathanda ukuba umtshato wabo ubonakale. Iindidi abaxoxa ngazo zingabandakanya indlela ezisingathwa ngayo iingxabano, indlela ejongwa ngayo imali, indlela abakhuliswe ngayo abantwana, indlela ukholo oludlale ngayo, indlela uthando oluye lwenziwa ngayo okanye olungagcinwanga luphila, indlela esonjululwe ngayo imilo, ngubani owenza into ejikeleze indlu, yintoni "imithetho" yosapho engathethwanga yayikhona, kwaye zeziphi izithethe ezibalulekileyo.
Yintoni ekufuneka igcinwe, iphoswe okanye yongezwe
Amaqabane ahamba ngezi zihloko kwaye athathe isigqibo-ngaba siyayigcina le nto, siyayiphosa, okanye ngaba songeza into eyahluke ngokupheleleyo? Umzekelo unokuba nonxibelelwano. Masithi usapho oluza kuba ngumyeni lutshayele ungquzulwano phantsi kombhoxo. Babelugcina uxolo kwaye bengathethi ngemicimbi yokwenyani. Masithi usapho lwenkosikazi lwalonwabile ngengxabano kwaye ukukhwaza kwakuyinxalenye eqhelekileyo yendlela yabo yokulwa. Kodwa umlo wawusoloko usonjululwa kwaye usapho lwaluza kuqhubeka luze lubumbe. Ke ngoku kufuneka bathathe isigqibo somtshato wabo. Incoko yabo inokuvakala ngoluhlobo:
"Masiqhubeke sikhwaza, masizame ukuba neengxabano zoxolo. Kodwa masisoloko siyithetha ngaphandle kwaye singaze sitshayele izinto phantsi kombhoxo. Masiqinisekise ukuba ilanga malingatshoni kumsindo wethu kwaye sikhawuleze ukucela uxolo. Andikhumbuli ndisiva abazali bam becela uxolo kwaye andifuni ukuba njalo. Ke ngoko masiqiniseke ukuba sikulungele ukuthi 'Ndicela uxolo' nokuba asifuni oko nokuba oko kuthetha ukuba siza kuzidla. ”
Esi sibini sizayo siyavumelana kwezi ngcamango zingasentla kwaye sitshatile sifuna ukuba oku kube yinto yabo eqhelekileyo. Ukuze ngenye imini, xa abantwana babo bekwicebiso lwangaphambi komtshato, banokuthi, “Ndandiyithanda into yokuba abazali bethu bethetha. Ndiyithandile into yokuba bengangxoli kodwa bengayiphephi nengxabano. Kwaye ndiyithandile into yokuba bathi ndiyaxolisa- nakuthi ngamanye amaxesha.”Ungumfanekiso omhle wokubaluleka kwezigqibo ezenziwa sesi sibini sitshatileyo ekuhambeni kwexesha.
Gcina, uphonsa kwaye ungeze ngokufanelekileyo nakwizibini ezitshatileyo
Kodwa eli linqaku lomtshato- kubantu abatshatileyo, ke iluncedo njani le nto? Ewe engqondweni yam, akukaze kube semva kwexesha ukuba ube nale ntetho. Usenokuba neentlungu ezingakumbi, imikhwa emibi ngakumbi, nemithetho engathethwayo ngoku; kodwa ukhetho lokugcina, ukuphosa, okanye ukongeza alusoze luphume ngefestile. Le ncoko inokuba lixesha lokuqala ukhe uthethe malunga nendlela ezisebenza ngayo ezivela kusapho lwakho-lwemvelaphi. Inokukunceda ukucacisa ukuba kutheni iKrisimesi ihlala ingumlo kuba umntu omnye uhlala ekuxabisile ukuchitha ixesha nosapho olongezelelekileyo ngelixa omnye esoloko enentsasa ethe cwaka nabazali babo. Inokukunceda ukucacisa ukuba kutheni omnye wenu ebambe imali kakhulu kwaye omnye efumana intuthuzelo kwinkcitho. Uyakumangaliswa kukungavisisani okuza, hayi ukusuka kokulungileyo nokungalunganga, kodwa kwezo zinto sizenzayo ithathwa ilungile okanye ayilunganga kuba sibabone bemodareyithwa kakuhle okanye kakubi ukusuka ebusheni.
Ke nokuba utshatile iminyaka engama-25, goduka, uhlale phantsi wenze le ntetho. Yenza isigqibo ngento ofuna ukuyigcina -Ziziphi izinto oziva ngathi ziyakusebenzela njengesibini okanye zisebenzele abazali bakho okanye abanye ojonge kubo. Thatha isigqibo ngento oza kuyiphosa - yeyiphi imikhwa emibi eya endleleni yokukhula kobudlelwane bakho okanye ukukwazi kwakho ukunxibelelana kakuhle? Kwaye isigqibo sokuba ungeze ntoni -Zeziphi izixhobo ongakhange ungene kuzo okwangoku okanye zeziphi izinto ozibona zisebenza kwezinye izibini ongekaziphumezi?
Nina njengesibini kufuneka nibhale imigaqo yomtshato wenu. Yeyiphi into eyoyikisayo kodwa enamandla. Kodwa ukuqala oku namhlanje kuyakukunceda uzive ungathi zizibini ezisecicini lomtshato- abavakalelwa ngathi akukho nto inokubenza bathande amaqabane abo kwaye bazimisele ukwenza nantoni na eyenziwayo ukwenza ubudlelwane buphumelele. Inika ithemba ngotshintsho kwaye iphosa imephu yendlela yokufika apho.